1. Set a goal- My goal the first few weeks sarging in Taipei was to open 30 sets. I wrote that down as my target and I kept to it. Whatever goal that you set try to do it everyday. I’m now going on nearly a month in Taipei and have since lowered my goal to about 20 sets based on some adjustments I made to my game. We’re always tweaking our goals so don’t feel bad about changing them.

2. Are you seeing other women?- This is something I have faced this year. Since I am out approaching women on a daily basis, I have been asked by women “Are you seeing other girls?” I told a girl that I already closed “Yes.” And then she flipped out. I sought out advice from RedpoleQ who mentioned that in Asia it’s okay to be vague. Kane Vast added that you could tell stories about “How you shouldn’t make rules in a relationship” this could be done earlier in the sarge to prevent this question from popping up. Vitality, added that it’s okay to tell girls “I’m out with a friend” or “I’m having dinner with a friend.” So don’t be explicit because it could have the girl storming out of your place.

3. Logistics are everything- Always make sure your logistics are tight. What do I mean by tight logistics? Are you staying at your Mom’s house? Do you have a place you can bring girls back to? Square away your logistics before you even start sarging trust me. It can make or break your game! In Taipei, they have DVD rooms or motels. If you guys want, I can provide some of these on here for those going to Taipei.

4. Don’t be afraid to text girls a lot. I used to think that sending out a lot of text messages to girls came off as needy. In 2012, I have noticed that I have not come off as needy by sending out lots of fun and interesting text messages to girls. They seem to value the messages I send. I make sure that my texts add value. I might bring up something that we talked about that day or something that I genuinely like about the girl.

5. Get a counter. If you’re going to be out opening lots of sets, you should invest in a counter. They aren’t expensive at all and it helps you tally your sets as you open. If you have that target of 20 sets, you will be better able to keep track of it with your counter. Keep a notebook to log the number closes that you get and remember to write down observations that you made during the sarge. This could be her hair style, dress style, or something interesting that she did.

6. Getting back to the basics- I’m going to make another post in the future about the fundamentals of game, but in 2012 I’ve been getting back to the basics. That means writing field reports and using stories and games to make my sarges more effective. I like to relate pick up to basketball and good basketball players know the basics and stick to them.

These are a few things that have improve my game in 2012. I will continue to go out there and sarge and share my insights in 2012.

LS

On Friday, I was standing outside Room 18 with RedPoleQ and Latinstylez. RedPoleQ had called me in to help him wing. I did my thing and number closed the girl I was talking too. That set ended and I turned around and saw a girl with her hair up looking at me getting ready to leave. I waved goodbye absentmindedly and chatted with the guys. Then I felt someone tap me from behind. It was the girl I had waved goodbye too. She asked “Can I have your phone number?” Whoa, direct game. We exchanged numbers and she left.

The next day I gave her a call. She sounded sleepy and told me that she had gotten home at 10AM. This one is a party girl. She’s also a nurse and often works late nights. I set up a day 2 for coffee on Sunday because she had to go to work. It’s suppose to be a thyphoon day but hopefully the weather wouldn’t be too bad.

On Sunday, it’s raining hardcore. She texts messages me and suggest that we go watch a movie. I tell her to meet me at Dunhua. We meet up. She’s an hour late but hot damn! She’s got some big ol’ titties! I spin her causing her to giggle and we head to the coffee shops.

I pay for both of our coffees and we sit down. I run through my usual attraction routine. I show her different types of handshakes, we play thumbwar, run the cube, etc .

At one point, I tell her went to art school for 4 years and draw caricatures. When I was living in Barcelona I use to draw people pictures for beer money. Then I took out some paper and a pen and start drawing her. After a few minutes I show her my picture and reveal that I’ve drawn a stick figure. She laughs. I tell her to draw a picture of me looking like Superman. Then I took both pictures and made them talk to each other.

Picture of her: “Oh Bolo! You are so sexy! I must have you! *kiss*
*Made the two pictures kiss each other*

After roll playing for a bit, I seeded in going to the Hookah bar. We take off. I take her hand. Walked and talked for a bit. I asked about the tattoo on her back. Told her I wanted to get a giant Doreamon on my stomach.

We get to the hookah bar and I start telling her about my life adventures while applying different frames. I tell her about the time I wandered into a random bar in Seoul, realized it was a gay bar, and managed to hook two guys up. (Shows that I’m not judgemental about sex). Tell her the story about my sister going out with her boyfriend and I didn’t tell Mom. (Shows I can keep a secret). Then I ran the strawberry fields to frame her as someone who enjoys sex and taking what she wants.

I’ll admit that I’m super rusty with telling these stories. I stuttered and forgot exactly what to say and how to say it to get the response I want. Regardless, she still laughed.

While we were talking she just puts her head on my shoulder and we cuddle for a bit. I don’t find out too much about her. She doesn’t seem like the super talkative type. I mess around with her iPhone and look at all her pictures. Our conversation is winding down so I decided to seed in going to a DVD room. I ask her what type of movies she enjoys watching. Then I say “Let’s go watch a movie.” We bounce and she pays for the hookah and drinks.

I run the question game while we were walked. She’s had 5 lovers. The last time she had sex was 2 weeks ago. She likes rough, passionate sex. She’s dated foreigners before.

We get to the DVD room. I choose a random action movie and go watch it. I wait for a bit and then started caressing her hand. Then kiss her. Clothes off. No LMR. Nice.

This was an easy lay. I probably didn’t even need to do sexual framing with her. She was into me and the only thing I had to do was not say anything to stupid and to have my logistics down. I gotta say…I’ve never had a girl open me directly like she did. The total number of girls who have opened me at a club…I can count on one hand. It’s pretty cool. Makes me want to spend more time at the gym.

Pick Up Asia

Yup, RedpoleQ is heading to Shanghai to host the first ever bootcamp there this weekend. Are you in Shanghai and looking to improve your game and learn from one of the best pick up artists in Asia?

Click here for more info on the bootcamp. There will also be a FREE mini-seminar on Thursday night. Bootcamp details are here.

My first venue covered will be Rainbow Bar in Gangnam, Seoul.

Hookah lounges are good for comfort building

This venue is best used as a bounce location. It is good for kino and also for building a good atmosphere with you and your target. The hookah’s here are good and the music as well. So, bring your target and be ready to enjoy the times. It opens at 6PM and stays open pretty late.

Wanna know the difference between Korean women and other women? Check out Korean Girls: Different Than Girls in General?

Wanna date beautiful Korean women? Check out Bluemystery’s blog or download his ebook here.

Other notable blogs and sites:

BlueMystery

PickupAsia

Seduction List was created by AlphaWolf and Casual who created the site PUALingo.

What should you say to them? Ask Karea.

Karea is one of those dating coaches who you’ve probably never heard of but who your favorite Pick Up Guru knows and respects. He’s currently traveling South America and it was a crazy coincidence that LatinStylez and I met him (He found us by googleing for Colombia Wings and turns out he knows the Pick Up Asia crew). It just goes to show you all the different types of people you can meet when you travel.

1) How did you get into pickup?

I got lucky: when I was 16, I had a music teacher who was a real Casanova. He always had 4 girl-friends, he pushed me into sets when I was too shy to talk to girls and taught me more about women than about chords and scales. Years later, I met a natural who taught me a few more things and that’s when I really started cold approaching on my own. Only another 2 years later, in 2004, a friend of mine told me: “You know, there is a community on the internet of guys like you. They call themselves pickup artists.” I was skeptical – how much could these computer geeks really know about women? Haha. Little did I know. (:

2) What is your dating philosophy?

“Stack work is no less important for a PUA than it is for a comedian.” All the very best PUAs I know have a gameplan – Sinn, Captain Jack, Vision, Mystery, Style… If you write a stack, and then go out and run it often, it’s almost inevitable that you will improve. It’s also almost inevitable that your dating life will be more abundant than you will have free time for. I see the whole “natural game” trend in the community and it’s something I did for several years myself… until I got invited on Mystery’s Lounge in 2006 and realized that it’s the only forum where people consistently post 6-8 new lay reports a month each! Now, whether that’s your goal or not is a different question – but it sure showed me that there is something to this stack work.

3) How did you get good at dating to become an authority on it?

Enthusiasm. I love talking about girls and I love talking to them. What I was really looking for in the community were like minded people – cause most of my friends just got bored when I talked about chicks all the time. (:

4) What do you think guys greatest mistake with women is?

Rather than answer this question myself, I recommend you ask some of your girl-friends about the lame things guys do to try and pick up on them or impress them. It’s actually pretty funny (:

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

Day game. Two years ago I made a list of all my ex girl-friends, to look for patterns. All relationships with girls I had met in night game were chaotic, to say the least. Some of the most wonderful girls I’ve dated, I met in day game. Other great PUAs I’ve talked to about this topic confirm this experience.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

You really only need one friend… he can introduce you to 5 people, who introduce you to 5 more people each, and soon there is no stopping it. The only limit on the size of your social circle should be the free time at hand. And once you have more friends than time to spend with, you can start to be more picky.

7) What was your life like when you weren’t good with women? What is it like now?

I already had a few little “girl-friends” in primary school that I snuck in the bathroom with to kiss, but around age 8 I got into the wrong peer group and ended up being mostly AFC until I was 19. From 19 – 21 I dated one of the prettiest girls from my year, which didn’t really help my social life much at all because the popular guy was in love with her and so all his peer group hated on me. Now? I’m now at a point where, because of my travels, I often have to start a life in a new city where I don’t know anybody – but I know that within a week or two I will have a beautiful girl-friend and a cool social circle.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

I’ll share a technique here that I came up with years ago when I was reverse engineering the secret to charisma. It is to treat everybody like they were your best friend from high school that you haven’t seen in ages. Not just any friend… your BEST friend. Really imagine you’re not talking to some dude you just met or to some girl with a bitch shield – imagine you’re talking to that one friend from high school that you had all these inside jokes with.

9) Do you use props? If so, what gets the most reactions?

Well, sometimes. I wouldn’t recommend to be dependant on props, but one thing I did for a while was to show girls some pics on my digital camera. You can obviously choose interesting pictures that make you look good, pictures of yourself being social, travelling, doing sports, being on stage, etc. But the one that always got the best reaction was a picture of a cat with two different eyes – a green one and a blue one. The girl would call her friends over and be like “oh my God, look at this cat! That is amazing”. By the time her friends looked at the cam, I’d already flipped to the next picture – a picture of a perfectly normal cat – and show it to her friends. They’d all look at her like “What’s wrong with you? That’s just a normal cat”. Haha. Good times.

10) What is your biggest sticking point?

State dependence. When I’m in state, I’m a rock star. When I’m not, I have AA… even after 7 years of cold approaching.

11) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

There are four I’d mention. David D is great for inner game, Mystery for outer. David Shade is the man when it comes to sexual mastery, and Captain Jack when it comes to Framing.

12) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

When I was 16, the music teacher I mentioned above told me that he used to be shy as a kid. I didn’t believe him… he was the most charismatic and social person I ever met, always the center of attention and flirting with beautiful women. But it showed me that these social skills are something that can be learned and practiced… and so I wanted to improve. Now, 12 years later, I’m the one who tells people that I was shy as a teenager – and they don’t believe me.

13) What advice do you give to newbies starting out?

It depends a lot on where they’re at and where they wanna go. But if somebody is not getting results with women, I warn them to stay away from “natural game” products. If being yourself hasn’t helped you so far, it won’t help you in the future just because you watched a DVD. In fact the schools that teach natural game are usually the ones that have forums almost void of lay-reports.

14) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

Fear. Fear of approaching, and fear of taking things to a romantic / physical level. Fear of saying something wrong and thus staying on safe, polite conversation. What helped me over this was to tell myself: “She is not my dream girl… she is not the perfect 10 that I will marry some day in the future… so this interaction doesn’t matter… at all.” Outcome independence, if you will.

15) What are your goals for the community? Your life?

Truth be told, I have achieved all the goals I set for myself in this area of my life… be it dating several dancers and models at the same time, or falling in love with one 10 and building an amazing, deep, exclusive relationship. So at the moment I’m enjoying the ride… but since I constantly work on my skills, the goal is mastery. You can always get better – there is no ceiling.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to South America?

I fell in love with this continent when I was a child, maybe 8 years old… we have family friends from there, and whenever they were around, I’d run up to them and go: “Cecilia, tell me about South America!” (: I was fascinated by her stories about the country… eternal summer, salsa music, perpetual smiles and beautiful people, great food and a cocktail under palm trees.

2) What’s the difference between sarging in North America and South America?

The three main differences, in my experience, are:
1.) Latinas don’t usually have bitch shields – they will be polite even if they’re not interested
2.) Latinas don’t cock block. If a girl sees that her friend likes you, she will usually help her get laid rather than sabotage it.
3.) Many Latinas are very catholic and conservative. They’re more flirtatious than Western girls and may even kiss you faster, but wait longer before they go all the way with a guy.

3) Can you relate a success story about one of your clients?

In 2008, I was teaching a lot of guys about relationship mastery, and I received great feedback from all my students. One of them was totally in love with a girl, but he didn’t know what to do about it and how to communicate with her… she obviously walked all over him. I coached him through the issues and I regularly get emails from him about how happy he is with the relationship now… it’s very satisfying for a teacher to see that.

4) Why did you choose the name Karea?

LOL. I had a different handle before, until a chick hacked into my email. Heaven hath no rage, nor hell a fury… The good side is, this made for a funny stalker story that I now tell in set sometimes.

5) What are your fundamental teachings?

There’s a lot… But one fundamental thing is definitely charisma – despite what I said about stack work above, I think it’s far more important to develop personal magnetism than it is to do body rocking or time constraints or negs or BHRR.

6) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

Much like Brad P, I figured a lot of stuff out before the community. So I know both perspectives – natural game and learned game – and how to integrate them with each other.

7) Your known as a “moral PUA” in the community. How do you respond to that?

Haha… yeah, I had a bunch of discussions with other famous PUA about this topic. I believe in pickup with harm to noone. I think it’s neither good nor necessary to destroy other people’s relationships, to cheat on your girl-friend or to lead girls on about your motives. If you truly have an abundance mindset, you will surely be able to find girls who are single, and be honest about it if you’re not ready to commit. Hey, I’m not pointing fingers here… I made mistakes in the past myself. But I experienced that there are ways to play this game win – win.

Tell me about your products.

I used to teach a Relationship Mastery Seminar with a major pickup company last year, and I’m also working on a product about Relationship Mastery myself, but it will be a few months at least before I’m ready to publish that. I also wrote some chapters for the number one Mexican pickup book, and for a book that will soon be published by LoveSystems (former Mystery Method) – about very fast lays in day game (within 15 minutes to 1 hour from meeting a girl).

Currently, I only do private consultations (over the phone or in person) about both those topics – pickup and relationships. So if you’re interested in talking to me and unfuck some sticking points, or simply to take your game to the next level, get in touch through the blog and we’ll have a chat. (:

My best to you all,

-Karea.

Want dating advice from Karea? Email karea at rocketmail.com

See more of them here and you can find bootcamp information if you are in Asia and are interested here

Pick Up Asia on TV

They also have a forum which is free to join

This sarge was a roller coaster ride. There were several lows, lots of highs, and then one deep
drop.

It all started on Sunday night. Me, Lumy, Cali, LatinStylez were out at a bar. I opened a 3 set of girls (HBtheLeader, HBbrownhair, and HBtheotherchick). HBLeader looked at me and said she didn’t understand. Things went better when everybody else (who spoke Spanish) started talking to the set.

Stylez picks Brown Hair and Lumy talks to Theotherchick because she’s closest to him. I looked
at Leader, and told Cali to talk to her. At this point I was frustrated with my lack of Spanish and didn’t want to proceed further. Anyhoot, Cali sits down next to Leader and they chat. Leader if messing with her hair and kinoing Cali. Cali then tells me that she understands English but I had to speak slower. So I start speaking obnoxiously slow to her. She gets pissed and Lumy tells me that Cocky Funny doesn’t work too well with Colombian women.

The next day, LS got a call from his girl. Brownhair and Leader wanted to see LS and Cali. Unfortunately, Cali was already out on a date. So LS asked me to go out and wing with him.

Hmmm….let me think about it…HELL FUCK SHIT NO!!

You see, Latin Stylez and I have certain rules and regulations that we play by. One of the first
rules of Wingmanship is YOU DO NOT SARGE YOUR WINGS TARGET! I didn’t even want to go. What was I going to do? Built up Cali for a few hours? On the other hand, LS needed a wing. So I called up Cali to see if it was cool. He gave the ok and so I ready myself by getting my Spanish phrase book, my little notepad, and a pen. Also, I was ready to speak as slow as I needed.

We meet the girls. Leader is driving her car and I can see she’s disappointed because Cali isn’t there.

On the way to the venue, Leader gives me the lowdown and says she though I was an asshole. Time to diffuse this! So I tell her that I grew up with my sister and a bunch of female cousins. That in our household we tease each other to show affection. I apologized profusely and asked if we could start over. She forgives me.

We arrive at the venue and order drinks. I open up the phrase book and start asking her a few questions. Then I run a few attraction routines and tease her. RING RING! It’s Cali! And he’s close by and wants to meet us with his internet date. This is starting to look like even more of an uphill battle.

To explain, Cali is a natural. He has had many relationships and isn’t aware exactly what he’s doing to do this. He thought that bringing his date over would be harmless. “If I saw a girl I was talking to with another guy then I would drop her,” he would later explain to me. That way may work fine and dandy for him but it would fuck my sarge all up.

The scenario in my mind was this, Leader originally wanted to see Cali. I was his replacement. Cali would show up with his date. Leader would be like, “What’s he doing with her?” and feel jealous. That jealousy would offer an emotional connection to Cali thus making him more desirable. Classic jealousy plot line. It would also make my already uphill climb even harder.

LatinStylez said that it would be kind of rude not to invite him. Yeah, I suppose he has a point
and if anything this would be a great learning experience.

I keep talking to Leader but I see her eyes flicker to the street every once in a while. What’s so goddamn interesting? oh…

Cali appears and his date…OH MY GOD!!! She was one the hottest girls I had ever seen! Blonde and busty with a killer ass, this girl was no joke. Leader’s eyes betrayed what she felt. Later I was told that LatinStylez girl was hating on HBHOLYTITTYFUCKINGSHIT! Afterwards, asking Cali:

“What school does she go to?”
“I don’t know.”
“Well, it’s really important what school you go to!”

Cali told me that Leader wouldn’t even make eye contact with him.

Some call us Pick Up Artist. It’s a term that I’m not comfortable with because I’ve seen true PUAs who made my jaw drop. “How the hell did he do that?” Another term for us are Venuasian Artist. This is a term I prefer because like martial Artist we prepare for every contigency in a social setting. It was time to put thousands of dollars in seminars and bootcamps, years of reading, listening, watching, and sarging to the test.

First I turned Leader towards me so she would have a harder time seeing Cali and HBOHFUCKIMSPURTINGRIGHTNOW! Then I busted out the chick crack and ran The Cube. I took out my notepad and started drawing her answering, being sure to say “Cool” and “I like that” and joking around when appropriate. When the test was over, I saw Cali get up and go to the bathroom. Perfect chance for a take away. I swirl around to HB(.)(.) and start joking around with her, making sure to built up Cali like a good wingman. Then start talking to LS waiting for Leader to ask what the test meant.

She took the bait and was eager to find out. I told her the results being sure to kino her to show I liked the answers. During the “Ideal Lover” part, I was sure to gesture to myself. She was laughing and smiling. After the test, was a great time to find out more about her. She told me about how she likes to travel. I made sure to look deeply into her eyes and touch her face when I liked the answers.

Next I went into my Hero Story. I told her about how my family was never the huggy type and how I was never very close to my dad. After college, I was going to go and live in another country. I had to tell my dad that I loved him. Whenever I tell this story I get a bit teary eyed but make no mistake, showing your vulnerable side is very attractive to women.

When I was finished, she was giving me the doggy dinner bowl look. We talked a bit more and LatinStylez and I decided we needed to bounce to a different venue.

The bill came and LS had told me before that Colombian girls expect you to pay for them. I
wanted to play around with this and see if I could get them to pay for there share of the bill. I told Leader that I knew we were in Colombia but in America we pay for our own shit.

And that’s when it all went to shit.

Leader got upset and she didn’t want to pay the bill. LS backed me up and said that’s what we did in America. There was a giant flurry of Spanish. And then Leader RAN away from me and got behind Cali. I heard some more Spanish. Then Leader and BrownHair ran into the restaurant.

What the fuck? Cali, LS and I ended up paying for the bill then bouncing.

I know that this story sounds like a goddamn mess but to be honest, I’ve never had such a fun sarge in my life. It was exhilarating to get this girl who originally thought I was a douse bag into me, then to get her attention away from Cali and onto me and to push the envelope about what was socially acceptable here.

Later on the phone, Redpoleq passed down some sage knowledge to this young G. Coming out with that at the end ofthe night was too sudden. I need to difuse this much much earlier in the sarge. That’s why LS’s girl was cool but why mine went nutso. I have violated her expectations.

The frame that I wanted to set was that this is an equal equal relationship. And one way to frame it is this:

“A lot of my female friends tell me when guys pay for everything, it makes them feel like they
owe them. I use to think that paying for girls was good. But they told me it was like prostitution. Did you ever have a guy pay for you and you felt pressured to do something?”

Then you could say:

“I don’t mind being used. If you want to pay for me then it just might work.”

It’s a rough draft that I’ll have to refine as I get a better feel for these Colombian girls.

Will Bolo spend all his money just to watch more girls run away from him? Or will he be able to
break these social constraints? Stay tuned!

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I hope you guys enjoy this special interview. I have gotten a chance to interview one of the top PUA’S  in Japan known as RedpoleQ. He is a personal friend of mine. We will be working together on some projects in the future as well.

Basic Questions
1) How did you get into pickup?

We offer 3 day boot camps that run over 25 hours.  Only about 5 hours of that is spent in seminar time while the other 20+ is spent in set, getting as much experience as possible under coaching. We have the Sexual Mastery Seminar which is really popular as well and focuses on developing sexual confidence–having the skills to be able to please any woman, and being able to live out your sexual fantasies. I just put out a 40-minute audio, called “Debunking 7 PickUp Myths” that does just that by discussing some of the big controversies in the pickup community like that around “natural game”, “negs”, and indirect vs. direct openers.  You can find it a www.redpoleq.com