We all know opening is just the beginning this video covers it… However, it’s still an important part of game that you need to know. I prefer to go indirect, but it depends on the situation. Savoy makes some interesting comments about different types of openers: functional-which he teaches, harder to transition, lowest risk/lowest reward, direct- high risk (AIA- decision made right away), indirect, opinion- AIA made later

These are just a few more will be covered later. Want to learn more openers? Check out the Love Systems Routines Manual.

**AIA- Am I Attracted decision made by the target

Two weeks ago, I had the party and I made the reservations in advance and managed things much better. Reserved the restaurant and a room at the bar we went too. Next thing, after the bar I should have planned what we were going to do next since some people split up…

Overall, it was a good time. So, next time you throw a social circle event plan it in advance. Trust me!

Take a look at our other social circle articles:

Expand your social circle by becoming a club promoter.

Learn how to expand and manage your social circle.

Pick Up Asia

Yup, RedpoleQ is heading to Shanghai to host the first ever bootcamp there this weekend. Are you in Shanghai and looking to improve your game and learn from one of the best pick up artists in Asia?

Click here for more info on the bootcamp. There will also be a FREE mini-seminar on Thursday night. Bootcamp details are here.

Lovedrop does a great video on home makeovers:

Your home doesn’t need to mirror this home. In fact some people might find it a little eerie with his taste in lighting schemes and such. But his underlying principles are very important.

Here are some important things that help slide down panties:

Welcoming Rug

When your girl is inclined to remove her shoes herself, it says a lot about your house. It shows how inviting your house is and also comfort is established. Just as Lovedrop stresses how this is a big step; it is definitely a stepping stone for panties to come flying off.

An Inviting Bed

Where do most people fuck? Have a bed so inviting that upon entering your room your girl will pounce on it like a lion on an antelope.  Immediately some barriers are broken and she will feel a lot more comfort. Making you bed look fluffy will do the trick!

Abundance is Key

Have spare towels in the bathroom. Have spare toilet papers in the bathroom. Have spares of anything the girl will use. Believe it or not, they will search your bathroom as if it is programmed in their heads. They can rest assure when abundance is present.

Keep Your Room Neat

Once again, nobody likes a slob. A dirty room will turn anyone off. Keeping your room and house neat will give the impression that you’ve got your shit together.

Source of Music

Isn’t music awesome? You can definitely set the mood of the atmosphere with music. Maybe it can muffle out the sounds your girl will be screaming when shit is going down.

Interested in being the next top pick-up artist?

Being a pick-up artist, isn’t only about picking up women. It’s about building a lifestyle around you where you will be happy and achieve the goals you desire. When I first joined the community in 2004, I thought that being a pick-up artist was just about picking up women. Sure, we do have a goal in mind and that is picking up women, but there are many other factors involved. Like, what type of pick up artist you will be?

Now, in 2009 I have a better idea of who I am as a pick-up artist to give new people an idea about this community and what we do. So, you want to pick up girls? Well, my first advice would be to find a reputable company that offers bootcamps. I waited until later to do this, but I wish I would have done it earlier. First, it offers you a good support system. Second, bootcamps offer you a program that will not only make you a better pick-up artist, but change your life. There are good companies offering bootcamps in the States.

Besides taking a bootcamp, what other factors can you improve on? I liked to take my weaker areas and improve on them. I was always good at nightgame, but I wanted to improve on my daygame. Daygame is where you go to meet girls during the day. This can be done at coffee shops, bookstores, and the street. Daygame is fun because most guys don’t approach women during the day. And the cool thing is, you can have success from approaching a girl during the day. I recommend approaching in high traffic areas. For example, coffee shops that get lots of traffic.

I mentioned nightgame previously. This is where I started my journey in pick-up. Nightgame is easier for most guys because they can have alcohol to approach. This is something that they can’t do during the day. When I go out, I try to limit my alcohol intake. This is because drinking too much can make your sarges sloppy. Then, the next day you will be thinking did I really do that? The good thing is if you limit your alcohol intake you can do better.

There is also social circle an advanced form of game, but one of the better ways to have women in your life. Social circle is great because once you have it the work is done for you for the most part. Going out to a club or a bar with tons of people including good looking girl can trigger attraction switches in other girls around the venue. Not only that, but you always have your social circle to rely on. A good tip for social circle is to just start going out and meeting people. Be cool and social and invite them out with you. There’s a lot more ground to cover, but if your seriously looking at becoming a pick-up artist or have thought of it you have come to the right place.

Want to approach her? You can.

I haven’t been posting lately and this is because I have been going through a transformation since my bootcamp. I’ve been out constantly sarging and bettering my game…

An interesting thing happened this week. You know when I started pick up I ran social circle and alot of nightgame… I have run day game some of the time, but this week I went through a realization.

I ran a street pickup and bounced the hb to a coffee shop. I was able to close her on the Day 3 it could have been a Day 2 close, but there were time constraints. The sarge was done entirely during the day. From opening to closing it was run during the day.

Now, I am more determined than ever to improve my day game. Street game probably has the lowest probably of the different types of day game. However, I find street game the most exciting

There’s so many things going on with my game right now but the main focus on this post is day game.

Day Game Tips:

1. High traffic areas- make sure to hit up high traffic areas since this has the most amount of people and potential sets to open

2. Street Game- although street game is an area I am improving I have noticed if you move the sarge quickly (kinoing early, locking in, bouncing) you can have a higher rate of success

3. Bookstores- bookstores are a great place to game during the day. One thing I have done lately is take hb’s to the travel section of the bookstore and pick out the place they would most like to travel to. From there, we sit down and look through the pictures in the book (good for kino). Also, you can bounce around other areas of the bookstore.

4. Coffee shops- these are good as well. Make sure not to talk to the hb’s from a standing position for a long time.

**Know your bounce locations during the day. You never know when you will have a set that will go well. Then, if you don’t know your bounce locations, you will be walking around looking. This is not good trust me I have been there.

Don’t be afraid to kino during the day either. Kino’ing was one of my weaker areas after my bootcamp, but I have gotten my kino calibration tighter now. Kino works well after your bt spikes…

A few tips for day game. Keep on Sarging!

By the way, the new David Guetta cd is hott!

If a girl gives you a “maybe”-type response to a date invitation or says “I’ll let you know”, this is a test from her that is very easy to fail because it’s easy for you to fall into a low-value situation where you’re waiting around with your schedule open for her. On the other hand, if you press her too hard to commit to plans, then you’re chasing her… which is also low-value.

(By the way, my good friend Soul and I have an audio interview on Handling Tests.)

So what I typically do in response to a “maybe” response is that I typically give her a deadline (in a playful way) of when she must respond to my invite by. For example:

“I’ll hold your spot for tomorrow night’s plans until 9pm tonight… after that, my offer either self-destructs or gets offered to somebody else.  :)”

That last part — about offering the plans to somebody else — is the scariest part to type out in a text or say over the phone, but it works wonders for a variety of reasons. It triggers the attraction switch of preselection by other women, it shows that you have other options out there, it shows that you’re not afraid to talk about those other options, and it can help trigger jealousy in her as well.
(Pre-selection is one of the few attraction switches. All of them can be found in the book Magic Bullets)

Then, as it gets closer to your deadline time, you can send her a text message along the lines of:

“Going once… going twice…”

And then, if you don’t hear back from her:

“Sold! To another bidder! We’ll try again some other time for plans.”

If she says something like “Okay! Yes! Call me tomorrow to confirm”, that “calling to confirm” part is just another way of saying maybe. At that point, you need to simply call her out on it and say: “So do we have plans or not? Should I reserve time for you? Because I can make other plans.” (Credit Savoy for this.)

Now, on the day of the date, she may flake on you just a few hours before the event. If she does that, your WORST possible reaction would be to get upset. That just shows her how much of an emotional investment you’ve made into her, and if she hasn’t put the same emotional investment into you yet, then it will tremendously lower your value and she probably won’t want to see you again.

My favorite response to a last-minute flake is: “I will wait to see how you make it up to me before I pass judgment.”

Savoy’s favorite response to a last-minute flake is: “Oh, it’s no problem. I can take someone else.”

If she continually shows low compliance by not responding to date offers or says “no” too many times in a row, then I usually call up and say (in a HIGH-ENERGY PLAYFUL tone, NOT a serious or reprimanding tone!):

“Samantha, you are such a DORK!! Do you know why you are such a dork?? Because I have called you SEVERAL TIMES over the last few weeks to make plans and you haven’t called me back (or haven’t been available). So this is your LAST CHANCE, your FINAL OPPORTUNITY to make plans with me. After this, there will be no more opportunities! All future opportunities disintegrate into thin air! So if you can stop being a dork for just a minute, call me back. Bye.”

You can even expand this into a playful list of 3 reasons why she is such a dork — and include some callback humor that will remind her of why she originally liked you enough to give you her phone number. Something like:

“Samantha, you are the BIGGEST DORK for 3 reasons! One, because you’re the only person in Los Angeles who eats sushi with white wine. Two, because you still listen to pop music even though I’ve told you to get rid of all those pop songs and switch to R&B instead. And three, because I have called you a HUNDRED TIMES to make plans and you haven’t called me back. So this is your LAST CHANCE… (then continue with above).”

And speaking of calling vs. text messaging, I think that the best way to accelerate getting girls to say YES to dates is to switch to PHONE CALLING instead of TEXTING. Texting is so low compliance, and the more you text a girl back-and-forth, the more she just sees you as words on a screen, and forgets all about your personality and why she gave you her number in the first place. Texting builds very little comfort or rapport. In fact, I urge all guys to try to start making PHONE CALLS more often than text messages… you will notice dramatic improvements in the responses you get from women. Yes, it’s more risky, but as I always say: with big risk comes big rewards.

Another thing to think about in regards to text messages, girls LOVE collecting text messages from guys, just like they love to collect friends on Facebook. It’s an ego boost for them — it validates that they are sexy & that they have tons of options — and they love getting text messages from all sorts of “orbiters” while they’re out fucking other guys. They love to giggle with their girlfriends about all these guys that are texting them and they fully admit to their girlfriends which ones they’re never going to sleep with. So the sooner you stop texting her, the sooner you can stop validating her for NOT seeing you in person. You can still text once in a while, but you need to use the phone to keep the emotional momentum going.

Switch to the phone, and things will get much easier. Switching to the phone will also help you realize sooner if a girl isn’t into you and it’s not going to go anywhere. Text messages can go on for MONTHS & MONTHS before you realize that it’s not going anywhere.

As Soul says, “The relationship does not begin until sex.”

A few other pointers:

- Always refer to your dates as “dates”. Be as clear as possible with your intentions, so she knows EXACTLY why you’re asking her out. Using the word “date” will force the girl to tell you “let’s just be friends” if she feels that way. Saves you time for those girls who aren’t interested.

- Always be willing to walk away from any girl that isn’t living up to your expectations. Think about how you’d treat your friends that weren’t living up to your expectations — you probably wouldn’t yell at them, but you would call them out in a playful way on their bad behavior.

If you want to learn more on how to prevent flakes, grab the interview series on preventing flaking. You can listen to the first 10 minutes for free here.

You have no wingman to rely on. It is all on you.

Sometimes you have no choice. You’re on a business trip for a few days or your friends don’t want go out or whatever excuse. Either way, that is not a reason not to go out by yourself to meet women.

So how do you pickup women by yourself?

First off, you have to deal with the excuses that will be coming up that prevents you from going solo. Do you recognize some of these?

-Won’t it look strange if I am by myself?
-I will do a lot better with wings or friends.
-What do I say if they ask me why I am out alone?
-Going out alone is boring.

These are all just (bad) beliefs and excuses in your head that are preventing you from taking action. Your approach anxiety is a lot higher for  sarging solo because you have no safety net to fall back on (your friends and wings).

However, there are a lot of advantages to go out alone. It can be done anytime you want. No longer do you have to wait for your wing to come over or meet you somewhere.

You will learn how to be self-sufficient; no more reliance on others for your success.

Another added advantage is that going out alone will improve your confidence level a lot. Yes, it is very scary to go out by yourself.

Once you overcome that fear of being a bar or club by yourself you will feel a lot more confident. Knowing that you can go anywhere alone and feel comfortable will boost your confidence by leaps and bounds.

When you can pickup women by yourself then sarging with wings and friends is like shooting fish in a barrel. It is too easy.

Above all, you will get more practice to improve your game. The fastest way to improve any skill set is doing a lot of practice.

So what are you waiting for? Take action today!

“But sarging solo is so hard…..”

Sarging solo is no doubt very hard. To jumpstart your game you might want to check out this interview.

Love Systems just released an audio interview called “Sarging Solo” that is full of practical advice to learn how to pickup women by yourself.

What do you say when woman asks you “where are your friends?” or “are you here by yourself?”

Knowing how to properly respond to these questions can make or break your interaction.

Also specific routines work better when you are alone whereas some routines might backfire. (If you need more routines, check out the Routines Manual Vol 2. It’s 200 pages full of routines.)

Since you don’t have a wingman there are certain obstacles you need to overcome. The interview includes several solo wingman tactics you can use to prevent friends from pulling away your girl. Plus it includes advanced tactics to make instant wingmen.

And many more tips and strategies are given to successfully pickup women by yourself…

If you want to learn more on picking up women by yourself, grab a copy of the Sarging Solo interview today by clicking here.

Olalala...

This was sent in by a reader who remains anonymous. My answers are italicized in blue.

hey, i just graduated from college and was planning on going to central or south america to learn spanish for a year. I’m really drawn to buenos aires for the girls, but i’ve heard that colombian girls are pretty too. can you tell if a certain pu approach worked better in argentina than in colombia?

Hey. I’d say between the two the Colombian girls are more exotic than the Buenos Aires girls, but BA has a better nightlife. Also, the Spanish in Colombia is a bit easier to understand. Have you looked into Peru? The girls there aren’t bad either.

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Are you more about the nightlife or the women? If you are just looking for hot exotic women, then check out Colombia or Lima, Peru. But, if you like nightlife and pretty cute girls, then check out BA.
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No problem if you have anymore questions let me know. You won’t be dissapointed in Lima.

I’ve been talking to a few people from around the world, and we were debating about whether or not Korean women, are different than women from anywhere else around the world.

First, I talk about the differences between the East and the West.  Having lived, met and dated women in both parts of the world, I can share with you some of the differences in both history, culture and dating expectations.

In the West, we are taught to stand up for ourselves and be seen an individual. In the Orient, the saying goes that “if a nail stands up, it will be hammered down”. If you read the book Geography of Thought by Professor Nisbett , you will learn about this in depth. This difference in paradigm is the core of why gaming Oriental vs Occidental women is different.

You can easily see this in Asian movies such as Hero with Jet Li, or The curse of the Golden Flower with Chow Yun Fat.

I’ll throw out a few examples, and let me know if there’s anything in particular you’d like to know about.

* let’s say you’ve approached a girl in a bar and have gone over the opener.

In the West, approaching a girl is not that much of a deal, and doesn’t generate enough attraction on it’s own.

In the East, it’s very rare to see guys approach girls. In fact, only us Westerners do it in the daytime. This causes you to have to re-calibrate, and be careful about not shying her away, because she will feel self-conscious.

* Let’s say you are talking to a girl in a bar who is with her friends. She likes you, it’s painfully obvious. Her friends come, but they see you going well with their friend.

In the West, your target is more than likely to stay talking to you, and her friends are more than likely to let you guys do your thing, unless they can tell that she’s not having a good time.

In the East, your target is more than likely to notice her friends in their own group, and feeling like she’s going against her group, she will excuse herself in spite of liking you.

* Let’s say you’re building comfort

In the West, girls tend to talk about a variety of things, and have many different goals and stories that they are more than willing to go into.

In the East, you begin noticing certain common patterns on what they want, and say they want, or just say, and they keep it short. Sometimes, it’s like sarging the same person over, and over again. Neutral

Now let’s talk some about Korean women.

What can I say? I love them. It’s not just their looks that
get me going, but also their personalities.  They are reputed for being the prettiest women in the world, and I can’t agree more. Sure, Japanese women put more make up, and being a foreigner with Chinese women has more pull, but Korean women are still my favorite.

Take it from me, I am speaking from my personal
experience: In general, they’re fun, energetic, CARING -
I used to have pleasant surprises on my birthday: all my
girls used to bring me gifts including wine and
champagne, not to mention the massages and of course,
good ol’ fun sex.

I really want you guys also to experience similar
situations – I want to be lying on a beach with my girl,
watching you guys having a blast with yours.
On the other hand, Koreans can be quite bratty (you’ll
come to love this though, or get tired of it), whiny,
and if you don’t own the context of the relationship, they
will own your wallet AND your time.

This is because they have what’s known as the ‘공주병’ which stands for ‘princess disease’. In general, they act whiny and bratty when they don’t get when they want, and some of them use their whining like kids to get men to bend to their will (and I recommend staying away from these ones).

What you need to understand, however, is that unlike Japan or China, being a foreigner in Korea is something ‘cool’ but something ‘different’.  You won’t get bonus points for being a foreigner. In fact, it can be a lot harder for you because Korean girls will shy away at not being able to communicate.

On the other hand, Korean women are the best at speaking English in North-East Asia, aside for Hong Kong.  English is so popular here that you can tease them for NOT speaking it!

All in all,  living and dating in Korea has taught me a lot about women and myself.  I love being surrounded by them, and wish the same for you.

Until then, have fun!

BlueM

–To see more of BlueM check out his blog. He also has a book on dating Korean Women.