*sigh*

Many Asian men have mixed opinions when the issue of inter-racial dating is brought up. They point to the mismatch and double standard that exists in society. In the study conducted in the popular book, Freakonomics, an average Asian man had to make a whooping $200,000 more than an average white guy in order to be seen in the same light by women.

Imagine that! That means at least $15,000 more in monthly income, to be seen as a mere equal to a white guy.

In sharp contrast, many Asian guys point to more Asian women and Caucasian male pairing as a sign that there is a huge interracial dating disparity and double standard that exists. In fact, they get extremely upset when they see Asian women dating white males. One guy even remarked that he was angry that white guys were “stealing our Asian women”.

If this pisses you off then it's time to make a change.

It is precisely this thought that traps many Asian men in a victim-mindset and condemns them to a complete lack of success in dating.

The real way out is to understand that women will date anyone that is a confident, attractive man who triggers the attraction switches within her. Even though race sometimes comes into play, universal biological attraction switches will remain eternally the same.

So the real answer to this question is for Asian men to stop worrying so much about the whole mis-match of interracial dating and start transforming themselves into more confident and masculine men, who are naturally attractive to women.

In that case, he will never have to worry about race being a disadvantage or that he is somehow excluded because of his Asian ethnicity.

One such product that can accelerate this whole process for Asian males is Asian Dating Superstars.

http://www.latinstylez.com/asiandatingsuperstars

In it, the creator Ryker Koh specially posed this challenge to 13 of the world’s greatest Asian dating coaches – How Can Asian Men Become More Confident and Sexually Attractive To Women Of All Races?

And each of the 13 Asian dating coaches revealed the exact, step-by-step methods that any Asian guy can immediately use to turn his life around and transform himself into the man that women are naturally drawn to.

Some of the 13 coaches are household names and they include DJ Fuji, Daniel Rose of the Sex God Method, William of ABCs of Attraction, Johnny Wolf, Xavier, Troy Dizon and more.

Dj Fuji

Universally, they all agree that Asian men can definitely be attractive to women of all races if only they know how.

Asian Dating Superstars peels back the curtain and reveals the exact “how-to” and has been described as the missing dating manuscript for Asian men. Go ahead and click the link below to find out why it has been praised as “one of the most important dating products for all Asian men out there”

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We all know opening is just the beginning this video covers it… However, it’s still an important part of game that you need to know. I prefer to go indirect, but it depends on the situation. Savoy makes some interesting comments about different types of openers: functional-which he teaches, harder to transition, lowest risk/lowest reward, direct- high risk (AIA- decision made right away), indirect, opinion- AIA made later

These are just a few more will be covered later. Want to learn more openers? Check out the Love Systems Routines Manual.

**AIA- Am I Attracted decision made by the target

Infamous scene from Fargo

Asian men have long been depicted in movies and the mass media in a distinctly unfavorable light, resulting in the rise of many stereotypes like the nerdy, geeky Asian or the asexual Asian.

Society rarely expects Asian men to stand up for themselves, much less have the confidence to approach beautiful women of high value. The resulting outcome is that many Asian men have placed themselves in a few mental lock-holds that restrict their success with women.

The first is bitterness and anger. Many Asian men have resorted to blaming the media for its negative stereotypes and often blog and write in rage at these unfair protrayals. They attribute their failures to external factors but rarely take any real-life action besides rage-driven posts.

Behind their rage is an inner self-loathing and acceptance of the fact that they are an inferior race and that being Asian is a distinct disadvantage.

The second is to stay seething but silent. Many Asian men who feel this way walk around in angry, silent desperation. They hate the fact that they do not have the desire they want but rarely take any action to change their situation.

Their self-pity builds up to an extent that one day they either suffer a breakdown or they lash out in uncontrollable rage. Whatever the case, theirs is a low-burn suffering on a daily basis.

The last is the escapist. The ones who give up altogether and do not play the game. They either engage in mail-order brides or take off into becoming sex tourists and never have any real connections with women.

The real way out of these negative mental barriers is to understand that continual thinking in this manner will never really result in real success with women. Instead, one should first disengage from these negative thoughts and pursuits.

The removal of negative influences – negative friends or media will accelerate the recovery process and aid him in improving his self-confidence and relationships with women.

What would really make a real difference is to find mentors or shining examples of other Asian guys who have succeeded before and use them as a benchmark, to break the whole stereotype and shatter the limiting belief.

A product available that might be of phenomenal help to Asian men is – Asian Dating Superstars.

Click here to find out more.

In it, the creator Ryker Koh asked 13 of the world’s greatest and most successful Asian dating coaches to break down the steps on how they managed to transform themselves from bitter, unsuccessful Asian males who could not get a date or a kiss to confident men who could enjoy wonderful relationships with an abundance of women they desire.

Some of the famous Asian dating coaches include DJ Fuji, Daniel Rose of the Sex God Method, William of ABCs of Attraction, Johnny Wolf, Xavier, Troy Dizon and more and one thing they all agree on is that once Asian men realize that they can be attractive, they will automatically regain their confidence and become naturally attractive to women.

Asian Dating Superstars reveal how any Asian man can easily and effortlessly do that and transform himself to the confident, charismatic, masculine Asian man that had always been inside him.

Go ahead and click the link below to find out more.

Asian Dating Super Stars

Want to add these type of girls to your social circle? You can!

First of all, I know I haven’t been posting on my progress of game lately. I recently have gone back to social circle… My reason was well I’m good at it and I like doing it… Don’t get me wrong I will be doing cold approach, however my primary focus now will be on getting my social circle much stronger…

Since going back, I have noticed how strong this method of game is.

#1- You are the one throwing the event, all eyes are on you… Talk about prizability here.

#2- Attraction triggers are automatically set. I love it because when I have my target and I want  to open another set in the social circle I can. Sets generally feel more attraction because you are around beautiful women.

#3- I’m having guys I know bring girls as well. So it’s not just me and a bunch of girls I know, I’m inviting out my wings and telling them to bring sets as well. This is working out for me because it enables new girls that are “gameable” and it increases my potential of meeting a good set. (Happened to me last night)

#4- It’s easy to create jealousy plotlines on girls you are targetting by simply talking to other girls in the social circle. This can create greater attraction for your target. More on this later, as I will be experimenting with jealousy plotlines in the coming months.

#5- It’s an engine. I think of social circle game as an engine. The reason is that this engine works by having  a constant supply of people. These people make it easier to open other sets around you. Not only that, but with these people you have your fair  share of women you can sarge.

These are just a few reasons why I have shifted back to social circle. Now, I will be posting some of my experiences with using this style of game and what is and isn’t working. Yes, you will here the GOOD and BAD as I chronicle my journey of running social circle I was looking around for products on social circle and sure enough lovesystems has a product. Check it out

Pissed Off Asian

Hey guys. Bolo here. As some of you may know, I’m an Asian guy. Some of our non-Asian readers may be asking, “So what?” Well I’m tell you…being an Asian guy in the dating world can be tough. All around us we see Asian girls with all types of guys…white, black, brown…but we don’t see Asian men with other races. Why is this? I use to blame the media, family upbringings, Asian tradition…But blame is useless and took the power out of my hands. So I began my PUA journey…3 years later and my life has changed. Nowadays, it’s easy for me to go out and get girls.

Then I came across Asian Dating Super Stars….This is the resource I wish I had starting out. It’s a dating product designed especially for Asian men. My man Ryker Koh has brought together the best Asian PUAs together to share their secrets. This is something I wish I had when I first started getting into Pick Up. I caught up with Ryker…

Ryker Koh Interview

1. Tell Us A Little About Yourself And How You Got Into Pickup

Hey my fellow Asian readers, my name is Ryker and I entered pickup and seduction by complete and total accident. I first decided to aggressively improve this area of my life after I witnessed the phenomenal success of one Asian friend of mine.

This Asian dude was just a ordinary, confident yet somewhat quiet guy, but when it came to talking to women, he was a freaking beast with women. This guy was absolutely sick.

He was one of those guys who was born with pin-point precise natural ability to just enter a conversation with just about any girl he met and get her attracted in minutes. And he wasn’t even doing any magic tricks, any NLP patterns, any direct-game. Heck, this was back in 2000 before the community was famous.

All this guy did was talk about plain, simple stuff like hobbies and her life, and his life and fashion and entertainment, just about pretty normal stuff. But man, did these girls stick to him like bees to a honey.

And all the time, I stood there wondering, man, these topics he talks about are plain as peas and even sometimes about as interesting as watching grass grow but how the heck was he getting all these crazy results.

So I cornered the guy and decided to ask him and the thing was this dude had no idea what he was doing right, so everytime I started asking him for advice, he would squint and look really confused and feed me pretty feeble advice like “Just be natural, just be cool” which thinking back now, was precisely what he was doing. But because I was so way off the mark in my own skills, I still wound up getting no success.

And it was until I began aggressively studying and practicing “live” in the field, crashing and burning multiple times before I actually got good. But every since I was young, I have been blessed with a pretty thick skin, so even though I was humiliated and left embarrassed more than a few times, I licked my emotional wounds and soldiered on.

Now, all the time, I had another group of Asian friends who were also studying pickup and these guys really bought just about every course on the market. And these guys were really studious, they flooded their brains with pickup theory and could recite routines backwards in their sleep.

But their dating lives were still disappointing. No love, no girls and they still led pretty sad and lonely lives.

So one day, I asked them – “Yo guys, you have been studying this stuff for close to 2 years now, why do you still go home to a dark, empty house and sleep in your bed alone every night?”

And then, slowly, they began revealing a lot of limiting beliefs they had about being Asian, the whole Asian culture, Asian parents, Asian upbringing and as they did so, I winced and felt their pain because I too am Asian, and I had to overcome these same issues too.

And I thought to myself – hey, it’s time for the Asian man to stop feeling sorry and pathetic for himself. It’s time to get some respect, hence I created Asian Dating Superstars.

2. Why do you think Asian men have such a hard time dating and can’t get white girls? And why do Asian girls always seem to go with white guys?

This is a freaking awesome question.

Now let me break this down.

Why do Asian men have such a hard time dating?

Here’s the 3 biggest reasons.

Firstly, they spend too much time worrying and fearing that girls will mock them and dislike them straight away because they are Asian. No kidding, before they walk up, they feel the girls are already against them.

Now, most guys I know have 2 reactions to this. The first group decideds to resign himself to this sad fate and they slink away into the darkness, too afraid to approach. The second react in anger and outrage, and they approach over-aggressively, like they have a point to prove, and therefore scare the poor girl off.

Both positions assume an immediate “under-dog” mindset – that being Asian is some limitation to overcome.

Now most Asian guys feel this way because the media has been a total asshole and has flooded movies with a ton of negative Asian male stereotypes. Asians in movies are either the loser who is teased and mocked at by guys and girls alike, or the kungfu master who spends the whole show kicking ass and mouthing heavily-accented Chinese.

uhh...yeah...

Both of which are not the most attractive of male characters.

And prolonged watching of this Hollywood garbage means that most Asian guys have slowly assimilated this poisonous identity. Add to that the very lack of positive Asian male stereotypes and you have a growing generation of Asian men who think that being nerdy and geeky is the meaning of being Asian, which is a bunch of horsecrap.

Now the whole Asian upbringing by our parents and the whole Asian culture as an entity is such that we value obedience, harmony and respect, more than being vocal, over-expressive and opinionated.

Most Asian guys reading this know that when you are young and you decide to get too cocky, your boldness is not praised but immediately punished with a slap across the face.

After a while, you learn that the best way to live is to be quiet, be obedient and not say too much. We play it safe, we don’t over-step the boundaries, and we work hard – which is all and good, but it is absolutely destructive when you bring that attitude to meeting women.

The common complaint white girls and even just girls have in general about Asian guys are they are just too quiet, too stoic, too non-expressive. They sit in the corner, have barely nothing to say, just stare at the girl and after a while, the girl is either creeped out or she just plain overlooks you and thinks you are transparent.

Heck, sometimes she might even forget your name, and that you even existed. And that sucks.

Finally, as a culture, Asian guys are born thinking and analyzing a lot more. Just look at the number of computer scientists, engineers and mathematicians we produce as a culture, we are born analytical and we can break things down quickly.

Asian men vs. White men

Now, while that’s good for getting through college, that sucks for talking to girls because most Asian guys spend the whole time, plotting their next move like playing Chinese Chess. They try to over-think the interaction, second-guess the girl when they should be paying attention to her.

The end result is the conversation gets awkward, or the girl just feels she is ignored and that you are not paying attention to her and she walks off in an angry puff, leaving you there standing all alone with your drink in your hand.

Now why do Asian girls go with white guys? It’s not a race issue, I am not going to over-generalize here because I know there are Asian girls who are only into white guys but most Asian girls as a whole have no specific preference.

They are just into confident guys who make them feel good. And since Asian guys are not doing as good a job as white guys, Asian girls naturally pick the next best alternative.

As a culture, Asian guys should stop hating on white guys for “stealing” Asian women, neither should we be hating for Asian women for being “traitors” and “sleeping with the enemy”. It’s precisely that kind of thinking that leads to Asian guys struggling and failing with women.

3. What are some things Asian men can do to improve their dating lives?

Great question again. Here’s what I suggest Asian guys do.

Firstly, the only and best way to break a a stereotype in your head is to find a strong role-model, so dominant and so completely different that just watching or listening to him completely and permanently smashes all limiting beliefs you ever had.

When you feel such a role model, so strong, so capable, so full of confidence and ability and you hear his stories, his thoughts and listen to him talk, you will immediately realize that all you once believed was false, and that being Asian is not a handicap, and that Asians can get good with women.

In my product Asian Dating Superstars, I don’t just provide you with one role model – I provide you with 12!

No kidding, 12 Asian guys who have had to rise from deeper ashes than most probably all the Asian readers reading this right now.

Some of them had to endure more shame, teasing, mocking, racist Asian comments than you can ever imagine, but each of them rose above these to become successful.

So when you listen to their stories and their thoughts, you begin to think – hey these guys are Asian, they understand how I feel but they too manage to succeed, maybe I can do this after all!

And you bet they understand how you feel, because they have the same, (if not deeper) emotional scars to prove it – and having walked the path you have walked, they can fix your issues faster than anyone else can.

The next important thing is to understand that reality can definitely be shifted and changed, but ONLY if you know how.

A lot of Asian guys have gone through their entire lives so far with no success with girls, and they automatically assume it’s lights out and game over for them. They assume they are destined to die single, and that no girl will even take a fancy to them.

WRONG!

Look, the 12 Asian dating coaches on my product each started in about the same bad shape as most Asian guys. Rejected left and right, girls avoiding them or toying with them before breaking their hearts, they have all been there.

But look where they are now, the same guys who used to laugh at them are now their students. You can be just as successful if you know how.

What I have done with Asian Dating Superstars is gotten them to reveal their own personal journey and transformation, and the very best of their personal learnings – and along the way, shatter every single one of the common limiting beliefs most Asian guys have that prevents them from succeeding.

Quite a few Asian guys carry a ton of emotional baggage when it comes to meeting and attracting women and you bet the women can sense it. They can smell if you have low-esteem, if you are afraid, if you don’t think much of yourself.

The key is after listening to the Asian Dating Superstar series, you will learn to drop a lot of this emotional baggage you’ve been carrying for so long, and begin to feel better about being an Asian male, regardless of what your past history is.

It’s like that strange moment of total clarity when you realize that yes, I can actually do this and you feel absolute self-confidence.

And one final piece of advice is this. You have to take risks.

Quit being too safe, too obedient, there are times when there is an opportunity you want right in front of you, and you have to squash everything else and go and grab it.

Screw being obedient all the time, sometimes when fear pops up, you gotta kick it in the balls and just charge forward to get what you want. You gotta be bigger than your fear.

Go do it, and don’t think. Who cares what they think? Please yourself first, and if you really want to do something, go ahead and do it, without fear or need of approval.

In Asian Dating Superstars, I get the 12 Asian coaches to reveal how they used highly-effective techniques to re-wire their previously negative and harmful thinking, and enable them to achieve great confidence with women.

With this, you will learn how to get in touch with your natural masculine self and build unstoppable confidence. The fears and insecurities you had previously will melt away and you will find that your hands stop shaking, your teeth stop chattering and you stop shivering or stammering when you talk to girls.

You will be more expressive, more fluid and more natural.

I have not seen any other program out there this specific for the Asian population. I am Asian and I have been in the dumps before, girls rejecting me like I was invisible and transparent so I know exactly how Asian guys feel.

I am going to go one step further and say this – if you want to stop being rejected by women, stop feeling insecure about being Asian, stop leaving parties and social events feeling shitty and disappointed with your lack of confidence, you will find the solution right here.

Do it for yourself. You deserve it this time.

It’s time for Asian men to stop feeling sorry for themselves and to dust themselves up and get the respect we have always deserved, both as an individual and as a culture.

And I feel the journey begins here.

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Asian Dating Superstars

It’s not everyday you come across a product specifically for Asian men only. I mean Asians have it hard sometimes, the media’s not kind on them and then there are stereotypes like having a small dick and stuff like that.

That said, some of my best friends are Asian and they are some of the biggest pimps I have ever seen. They just seem to exude confidence from their skin pores.

Stereotype, what stereotype?

Anyway, most Asian guys I know aren’t all that smooth and charming. Some of them have crappy body language, bad handshakes, are nervous wrecks around women and give in too easily.

It could be the whole “Asian” culture and the whole Asian upbringing and strict discipline and stuff but I have no idea.

That said, I had a chance to review a product by a guy named Ryker Koh. Ryker had interviewed 13 of the world’s top Asian PUAs and asked them Asian-specific questions. It was a literally a product made by an Asian for other Asians.

Instead of FUBU, it’s FABA! (For Asian By Asian, lol)

Click here to find out more.

If you are Asian, you better read this.

If you ever wondered whether being shorter than a white guy, or being less muscular is an issue … or if you ever wondered whether white women find Asian guys attractive…. or if you ever thought that being stereotyped with a small penis is a problem – guess what, this is your answer right here.

I heard the first 5 interviews and this Ryker guy really drills these Asian dating coaches hard. It really looks like the guy has done his research here and man, some of the questions he asked were so specific and right-on-the-money I was nodding in approval.

Even from a non-Asian perspective, this product is value for money. First of, the cast Ryker brought together is insane.

It’s DJ Fuji (who just won the PUA Summit 2009′s Best Fresh Blood PUA), Daniel Rose of Sex God Method fame, Jeremy Soul (Day Game Expert from LoveSystems), the mysterious Mr M whose legendary Playmate pickup has become big news around the community, Troy Dizon, William from ABCs of Attraction and even an Asian-American PhD Professor of Evolutionary and Mating Science.

What are you taking for? Get Asian Dating Superstars.

The content is not just for Asians too, ’cause it deals with limiting beliefs as a whole. I remember the time when I thought being short was a problem and after listening to the series, I struggled to remember why I even let that thought affect me in the first place.

All I can say is this – if you are Asian and you are reading this, you will do well by checking this product out here. Hey, if anything, Ryker has gotten these coaches to surrender some of their best lay-reports and articles – some of which I have never seen anywhere else before and I hear are only given to their private-instruction clients, who pay freaking thousands of dollars to get.

And I was browsing some of these lay-reports and *pleep*, some of the stuff inside is GOLD, GOLD, GOLD man …. read it and see if you won’t just agree straight-away with me.

And if you are not Asian, it’s definitely still worth checking out. You will learn something from the all-star lineup and clear some of these small, nagging limiting beliefs that sometimes pop up and bite you in the ass.

After listening to it, I guarantee you will feel a deeper sense of clarity and self-belief. Well, I certainly did.

Anyway, check it out here –> Click me!

I went through the whole set, and I highly recommend it. Read the sales-letter too, it’s one of the funniest, most sarcastic sales-letters I have read in a long, long time.

Once again, it’s here –>  Asian Dating Superstars

Interested in being the next top pick-up artist?

Being a pick-up artist, isn’t only about picking up women. It’s about building a lifestyle around you where you will be happy and achieve the goals you desire. When I first joined the community in 2004, I thought that being a pick-up artist was just about picking up women. Sure, we do have a goal in mind and that is picking up women, but there are many other factors involved. Like, what type of pick up artist you will be?

Now, in 2009 I have a better idea of who I am as a pick-up artist to give new people an idea about this community and what we do. So, you want to pick up girls? Well, my first advice would be to find a reputable company that offers bootcamps. I waited until later to do this, but I wish I would have done it earlier. First, it offers you a good support system. Second, bootcamps offer you a program that will not only make you a better pick-up artist, but change your life. There are good companies offering bootcamps in the States.

Besides taking a bootcamp, what other factors can you improve on? I liked to take my weaker areas and improve on them. I was always good at nightgame, but I wanted to improve on my daygame. Daygame is where you go to meet girls during the day. This can be done at coffee shops, bookstores, and the street. Daygame is fun because most guys don’t approach women during the day. And the cool thing is, you can have success from approaching a girl during the day. I recommend approaching in high traffic areas. For example, coffee shops that get lots of traffic.

I mentioned nightgame previously. This is where I started my journey in pick-up. Nightgame is easier for most guys because they can have alcohol to approach. This is something that they can’t do during the day. When I go out, I try to limit my alcohol intake. This is because drinking too much can make your sarges sloppy. Then, the next day you will be thinking did I really do that? The good thing is if you limit your alcohol intake you can do better.

There is also social circle an advanced form of game, but one of the better ways to have women in your life. Social circle is great because once you have it the work is done for you for the most part. Going out to a club or a bar with tons of people including good looking girl can trigger attraction switches in other girls around the venue. Not only that, but you always have your social circle to rely on. A good tip for social circle is to just start going out and meeting people. Be cool and social and invite them out with you. There’s a lot more ground to cover, but if your seriously looking at becoming a pick-up artist or have thought of it you have come to the right place.

Pay attention to class students!

Two types of game exist in a college atmosphere – both of which I feel are important to master: cold approach game and social circle game. Most PUA’s are fluent in methods and strategies of cold approach game – which essentially focuses on closing a new girl as soon as possible. The quicker you close, the quicker she will backwards-rationalize sleeping with you and essentially put the future direction of the relationship in your hands, so it is important to close as soon as possible. Many naturals are skilled at social circle game and are able to close “friends-of-friends” by unconsciously running basic attraction spikes/switches. With most of the local night clubs in college towns heavily populated with social circles, it is important to learn the skills to effectively gain access to these “tribes” for pre-selection purposes.

Cold approaching in college can be divided into two categories – day game and night game. Day game is extremely effective due to the non-threatening environment and opportunity to quickly isolate without dealing with obstacles or interrupts. The best venues for day game in a college atmosphere are campus, shopping malls, and book stores. On campus, the best time to sarge is in the late afternoon when classes are almost over near dorms and basic class buildings. I typically run situational openers that allow me to say something funny and spike BT right away. After that a bounce or #close comes easy.

In shopping malls, the best places to sarge are retail clothing stores and the food court. I typically bounce girls from there to a restaurant bar then my place for hookah and if kino has been effectively escalated throughout the process, the same day close comes easily. The best venues for night game are the most exclusive and expensive clubs because they typically have the hottest girls, the lowest noise levels, and are the least crowded – which essentially provides optimal logistics.

Great social circle game skills will not only give you instant social proof in large social circles such as sororities, but also save you thousands of dollars in cover charges, allowing you to go out more often and reach a higher level of success in a shorter period of time. Working my way up the social ladder and becoming a club promoter saves me an average of $15/night, 7 days/week, which saves over $400/month and allows me to open around 140 sets/week (at night) opposed to the practically affordable 40 sets/week.

Once both styles of college game have been optimized and calibrated effectively, you will be closing more beautiful women than you ever imagined.

-Falcon (Leader of the Tallahassee, FL, USA Lair)

Want to approach her? You can.

I haven’t been posting lately and this is because I have been going through a transformation since my bootcamp. I’ve been out constantly sarging and bettering my game…

An interesting thing happened this week. You know when I started pick up I ran social circle and alot of nightgame… I have run day game some of the time, but this week I went through a realization.

I ran a street pickup and bounced the hb to a coffee shop. I was able to close her on the Day 3 it could have been a Day 2 close, but there were time constraints. The sarge was done entirely during the day. From opening to closing it was run during the day.

Now, I am more determined than ever to improve my day game. Street game probably has the lowest probably of the different types of day game. However, I find street game the most exciting

There’s so many things going on with my game right now but the main focus on this post is day game.

Day Game Tips:

1. High traffic areas- make sure to hit up high traffic areas since this has the most amount of people and potential sets to open

2. Street Game- although street game is an area I am improving I have noticed if you move the sarge quickly (kinoing early, locking in, bouncing) you can have a higher rate of success

3. Bookstores- bookstores are a great place to game during the day. One thing I have done lately is take hb’s to the travel section of the bookstore and pick out the place they would most like to travel to. From there, we sit down and look through the pictures in the book (good for kino). Also, you can bounce around other areas of the bookstore.

4. Coffee shops- these are good as well. Make sure not to talk to the hb’s from a standing position for a long time.

**Know your bounce locations during the day. You never know when you will have a set that will go well. Then, if you don’t know your bounce locations, you will be walking around looking. This is not good trust me I have been there.

Don’t be afraid to kino during the day either. Kino’ing was one of my weaker areas after my bootcamp, but I have gotten my kino calibration tighter now. Kino works well after your bt spikes…

A few tips for day game. Keep on Sarging!

By the way, the new David Guetta cd is hott!

If a girl gives you a “maybe”-type response to a date invitation or says “I’ll let you know”, this is a test from her that is very easy to fail because it’s easy for you to fall into a low-value situation where you’re waiting around with your schedule open for her. On the other hand, if you press her too hard to commit to plans, then you’re chasing her… which is also low-value.

(By the way, my good friend Soul and I have an audio interview on Handling Tests.)

So what I typically do in response to a “maybe” response is that I typically give her a deadline (in a playful way) of when she must respond to my invite by. For example:

“I’ll hold your spot for tomorrow night’s plans until 9pm tonight… after that, my offer either self-destructs or gets offered to somebody else.  :)”

That last part — about offering the plans to somebody else — is the scariest part to type out in a text or say over the phone, but it works wonders for a variety of reasons. It triggers the attraction switch of preselection by other women, it shows that you have other options out there, it shows that you’re not afraid to talk about those other options, and it can help trigger jealousy in her as well.
(Pre-selection is one of the few attraction switches. All of them can be found in the book Magic Bullets)

Then, as it gets closer to your deadline time, you can send her a text message along the lines of:

“Going once… going twice…”

And then, if you don’t hear back from her:

“Sold! To another bidder! We’ll try again some other time for plans.”

If she says something like “Okay! Yes! Call me tomorrow to confirm”, that “calling to confirm” part is just another way of saying maybe. At that point, you need to simply call her out on it and say: “So do we have plans or not? Should I reserve time for you? Because I can make other plans.” (Credit Savoy for this.)

Now, on the day of the date, she may flake on you just a few hours before the event. If she does that, your WORST possible reaction would be to get upset. That just shows her how much of an emotional investment you’ve made into her, and if she hasn’t put the same emotional investment into you yet, then it will tremendously lower your value and she probably won’t want to see you again.

My favorite response to a last-minute flake is: “I will wait to see how you make it up to me before I pass judgment.”

Savoy’s favorite response to a last-minute flake is: “Oh, it’s no problem. I can take someone else.”

If she continually shows low compliance by not responding to date offers or says “no” too many times in a row, then I usually call up and say (in a HIGH-ENERGY PLAYFUL tone, NOT a serious or reprimanding tone!):

“Samantha, you are such a DORK!! Do you know why you are such a dork?? Because I have called you SEVERAL TIMES over the last few weeks to make plans and you haven’t called me back (or haven’t been available). So this is your LAST CHANCE, your FINAL OPPORTUNITY to make plans with me. After this, there will be no more opportunities! All future opportunities disintegrate into thin air! So if you can stop being a dork for just a minute, call me back. Bye.”

You can even expand this into a playful list of 3 reasons why she is such a dork — and include some callback humor that will remind her of why she originally liked you enough to give you her phone number. Something like:

“Samantha, you are the BIGGEST DORK for 3 reasons! One, because you’re the only person in Los Angeles who eats sushi with white wine. Two, because you still listen to pop music even though I’ve told you to get rid of all those pop songs and switch to R&B instead. And three, because I have called you a HUNDRED TIMES to make plans and you haven’t called me back. So this is your LAST CHANCE… (then continue with above).”

And speaking of calling vs. text messaging, I think that the best way to accelerate getting girls to say YES to dates is to switch to PHONE CALLING instead of TEXTING. Texting is so low compliance, and the more you text a girl back-and-forth, the more she just sees you as words on a screen, and forgets all about your personality and why she gave you her number in the first place. Texting builds very little comfort or rapport. In fact, I urge all guys to try to start making PHONE CALLS more often than text messages… you will notice dramatic improvements in the responses you get from women. Yes, it’s more risky, but as I always say: with big risk comes big rewards.

Another thing to think about in regards to text messages, girls LOVE collecting text messages from guys, just like they love to collect friends on Facebook. It’s an ego boost for them — it validates that they are sexy & that they have tons of options — and they love getting text messages from all sorts of “orbiters” while they’re out fucking other guys. They love to giggle with their girlfriends about all these guys that are texting them and they fully admit to their girlfriends which ones they’re never going to sleep with. So the sooner you stop texting her, the sooner you can stop validating her for NOT seeing you in person. You can still text once in a while, but you need to use the phone to keep the emotional momentum going.

Switch to the phone, and things will get much easier. Switching to the phone will also help you realize sooner if a girl isn’t into you and it’s not going to go anywhere. Text messages can go on for MONTHS & MONTHS before you realize that it’s not going anywhere.

As Soul says, “The relationship does not begin until sex.”

A few other pointers:

- Always refer to your dates as “dates”. Be as clear as possible with your intentions, so she knows EXACTLY why you’re asking her out. Using the word “date” will force the girl to tell you “let’s just be friends” if she feels that way. Saves you time for those girls who aren’t interested.

- Always be willing to walk away from any girl that isn’t living up to your expectations. Think about how you’d treat your friends that weren’t living up to your expectations — you probably wouldn’t yell at them, but you would call them out in a playful way on their bad behavior.

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