Woo! Latinstylez.com’s first ever video interview!

We got to speak with Arash Dibazar (aka. Achilles) of SeductiveInstinct.com. This guy has a lot to say and you’ll watch a few gems in this interview.

Bolo:  Alright guys. This is Bolo from Latinstylez.com with my friend Arash, who’s currently… Uh, where you at?

Arash:  I’m in San José, California baby!

Bolo:  He’s in San Josey.  [LAUGHS] Arash is also known as Achilles from The Game. And he’s an up and coming PUA. And it’s a privilege to talk to you Arash.

Arash:  Thank you for having me. And uh, I’m glad to be alive.  Let’s go.

Bolo:  Alright, cool. Alright, first question. Most people don’t know that much about you.  You’re coming up.  And I’m just curious. Like, how did you get into The Game? How did you get into Pick Up?

Arash:  It’s a long story.  Let’s make it short. Well, I grew up and when I was six years old I had to leave my country which was Iran. And between the age of 6 and 11, I lived in Iran. I live in Turkey, in Syria, in Kuwait, in London, and Nebraska, and California.  In about 5 years I moved that much.  And uh, naturally, when I got to the United States, I wanted, you know, I started liking girls. And I wanted to have beautiful girls around me. And I liked the white, pretty cheerleader type. But they weren’t going to talk to me because I was a complete, just culture shock. You know what I mean? Like, everything was wrong about me at the time.

Arash:  So anyways, I got into the martial arts at a very young age. And I was interested in two things. One – how to defend myself. Two – how to get chicks. Which is survival and replication value, if you know anything about it now, right? So I spent all my life, every moment I could get my hands on, studying something about the mind, whether it was NLP, hypnosis, Dianetics. Anything you could think about. And martial arts. Because, one, I was getting beat up in school. So I had to learn how to defend myself. And two, I wanted the girls and nobody wanted to talk to me. Not the girls, not the boys.

Arash:  Until about two and a half years ago, I came across Mystery. It’s a really cool story how that happened. And, whatever, we got to talking and I became his student. And Matador, if you know who he is, James Matador, ended up becoming my personal mentor. And now I am a mother fucking beast. Beep. You know, without [INAUDIBLE], but we do cuss in California, San Jose.

Bolo:  Alright. That’s fine. You can cuss as much as you want here.

Arash:  Okay.

Bolo:  Alright. So how long have you been doing Pick Up for? Like 2, 3 years or something.

Arash:  About 2 and a half. Two years and four months, learning game. But prior to that, everything I studied, I tried to apply to picking up girls. I just didn’t have a structure or anything. So I was successful getting chicks but I didn’t know there was a group of Pick Up Artist. A community that was working at it. I understood that there was such a thing called Game. Being taught at two years and three months ago.

Bolo:  Interesting. So you use to be a dork and everything and you didn’t get any chicks. What’s your life like right now?

Arash:  [LAUGHS] Well, I did get chicks because at some point I achieved high status in the martial arts. And I was really bold and I, you know, I was the shit. So I would get girls, but it was so direct. And it was, again, lucky. But I would go after the hottest chicks. So I got girls after a certain point. When I was around, I think, 18 was when I got my really hot girlfriend and then it just moved forward.

Arash:  I’m 34 right now. But the difference is, the life that I live now… I’ll be honest with you, if I explained it to you, it would be out of reality and it wouldn’t fit. So if you could take the book The Game and go to the end and watch Neil’s life and what happens to it, I could tell you that’s very real to me. You know, when I first met Matador, after the first night he said to me, “Arash, you could live like a rock star. You could have so many women in your life that you won’t have time for them. And you wouldn’t know what to do. And that is what I have right now in my life. And I have a current, I have a girlfriend also.

Bolo:  Really nice dude. And it only took you two and a half years to get there?

Arash:  Yeah. It’s still a journey. I’m still evolving man. My game is still tightening up and I don’t think it’ll ever end. Just like martial arts. But it’s pretty high level. It really is. You ask some of the people who have seen me do stuff or talk to people who I have taught, who have been taught by the best in the world, and they’ll tell you I’m better than everybody right now. And I know that to be true.

Bolo:  Very nice. I’m curious, like, about your style. Like, do you have a dating philosophy? You know, like in the community, there’s all these different styles. Direct, indirect. You follow Mystery Method or what?

Arash:  Mystery’s my original teacher. And his method is the base for everything. I believe who is very successful at Pick Up has that as a base. So, my style is my style now. But it has Mystery Method as a base, for sure. Does that answer your question?

Bolo:  Yeah. Yeah, it does. Okay. That’s cool. Now, I’m curious, how did you become good enough at dating to become an authority at it?

Arash:  An authority is somebody who can do the job. That’s an authority to me. You know what I mean? It’s not someone who has a certificate. It’s not someone who other people think knows. It’s the person who can do the job. I can do the job. I’m surrounded by 9s and 10s. Now, in the Bay area, people thought they knew what 9s and 10s were until I got into the Game. Now, the guys, the guys that are the legit Pick Up Artists and quote, are some saying, you hear them, they meet around, they say, “No, we don’t get girls like Arash does. Those are 9s and 10s.” So I’m an authority in quotes, first, because people listen. But more importantly because I can get the job done. I can take someone and teach them from zero to be able to get hot chicks. And I can demonstrate it in my life. I live a life of Pick Up. You know?

Bolo:  Very nice. Like, when you first started, I mean, were you just going out every single day or…

Arash:  No. Well, let me explain something else on that. I just popped in my mind. I think the moment that it became really clear to me that I was okay to teach was when I was out with Matador and he introduced me to Laurence Fishburne. I think he was the black actor from The Matrix.

Bolo:  Yeah. Yeah. Ne-, Morpheus. Yeah.

Arash:  That’s right. And he introduced me. He said, “This is my former student, Arash.” And he goes, “The reason I say former student is because he is a master of Pick Up.” And that was a big moment for me. And there was many conversations after that. So being acknowledged by him, bona fide like that, I was like, “Okay.” You know? And I know I can really change people’s lives. ‘Cause this shit is powerful dude. You know what I mean? It’s fucking powerful. You can change a person’s life. Completely turn it around. No matter what is going on in their live; men are struggling with women. And I’ve seen it.

Bolo:  That’s interesting.

Arash:  I missed the other question you said.

Bolo:  Yeah. Just… What was it? How did you get good enough to become a dating authority? How did you start out? Were you just going out a whole lot or…?

Arash:  I actually barely went to the clubs. On this, I was in LA visiting and I would go with Matador. But other than that, here, my game was created in a way where when I would go shopping I would game everybody there. I would go eat, I would game all the waitresses. Then I would go and, let’s say I’m working out, I would game everybody there. Wherever I was I would game. So, then I created this thing where, for me, game and life are the same. It’s a lifestyle. For me it’s not like, “Oh, now I’m gonna go to the club and game.” So you said, did I go out every night and game? I didn’t go out, but I gamed almost every moment when I was around a chick. Almost every moment. You know? It was unbelievable. So I got very good at it. And my hired gun game is pretty ridiculous. What I can…

Bolo:  Oh. Really nice. Like, do you teach boot camps or what exactly, what type of coaching do you do?

Arash:  Oh yeah. We do boot camps. We do Skype coaching. We do webinars. I have a boot camp coming up this weekend. We do one on ones. Man, you name. I’m just interested in creating the next generation of incredible Pick Up Artists. I benefit from that. It’s important to me.

Bolo:  Yeah. You’ve had a lot of students at this point, right?

Arash:  A lot, you know, is a relative term. No, I don’t think so. I’ve had students and they’ve been very successful. But I was very picky and I still am. I don’t teach everybody. There’s a lot of people that want to learn, but they don’t want to learn. You know what I mean? So I teach people, we go put them in the interview. We find out what they’re all about. If they have a passion for this. If they really want to do this. If they do, I meet with them. And I accept them as students and I change their life. And if again, if they’re not a good student while I’m teaching them, I actually will get rid of them. And I did that to four people.

Bolo:  You’re kidding.

Arash:  No, I can because my name is on it. It’s a brand. You know? I’m a brand name. I’ve done martial arts long enough. I have a very successful martial arts business. And this is now my business in Pick Up. And I want to have a brand. I want it to be, if you were trained by Arash, if you were trained by Achilles, if you’re from SeductiveInstinct.com, you are good. Or you’re on your way to being very good. I don’t want people to say, “I studied with him, but I don’t get any chicks.” No, no, no. Not me. So I’m very selective. The ones that don’t make it, I give them a few chances. You know, if they’re not doing their reading, if they’re not doing their practice, if they’re not showing up, they need to go somewhere else. I don’t care how much they pay. It’s just not the way that I do things.

Bolo:  Okay. Like, during the interview process, what are you looking for, like, in a prospective student?

Arash:  A few things. One is that they really have to want to make a change. They’re not just talking. You know what I mean? They have to have a passion for doing it. They have to be willing to go through rough times. It’s not roses man. Are you kidding me? It was difficult getting good. Very difficult. Thank God it was difficult because now if it wasn’t, everybody else would be running around getting chicks. I put in my time and my dues. So those are the basics. More than that. It’s a vibe, you know? Lucky, he does the interviews and I trust his judgment. So he does the interview and you’d ask him what he specifically goes for. What I look for in a student are those things. Passion. A person who’s willing to go through the ups and downs. And a person who really wants to make a change in their life. Then I’ll make it happen.

Bolo:  Sounds good dude. Now, what about the guys who don’t make it. The four guys you had to kick out? Like, what common traits do they have?

Arash:  Well, they can go fuck themselves as far as I’m concerned.

Bolo:  [LAUGHS]

Arash:  You know what I mean? Probably looking at the pictures of my girls online. But anyways, they, the traits they have is they don’t want to get better man. They don’t do it. You know, you have to take the next step. That’s it. You know? So if they don’t do their reading, if they don’t show up, if they don’t look like they really want to get better, they just want to sit around and talk about it. No dude. This is an action based activity. There’s theory and there’s application. You gotta put them together.

Arash:  There’s people that can sit there and talk all theory all the time. But they can’t demonstrate shit. On the other hand, there’s some guys that get chicks, but they don’t know any theory. So when they teach, there’s a guy, a joke, you know, he was like, you know, I did a seminar, and then he did one right after me and he was like, “Well, just go out there and be yourself. And just be ballsy and be confident.” I’m like, “Dude, you’re a joke. Get the fuck outta here.” You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  How are you going to teach someone that? That’s not game. That’s ridiculous. You’re the good looking guy. So he gets to do that. I wasn’t a good looking guy. I’m an interesting looking guy, I know. But I’m not a good looking guy.

Bolo:  Yeah dude. I know what you’re saying. It’s a little too, too much esoteric, you know, advice. Like, “Oh, be yourself. Grab your balls and just go.” You know?

Arash:  Yeah. Find out who you really are. It’s like, “Yo man. If I knew the answer I’d be Buddha right now.” You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah. [LAUGHS] Yeah dude.

Arash:  Don’t fucking go there. Give me some specific technique, like look over your shoulder, lean away, smile, tell them you gotta take off in a minute, and ask a neutral question. Those are techniques any person can apply. And that technique will improve their chances just by doing that, talking to a chick. And that was directly from the Mystery Method. An open.

Bolo:  Yeah. Now, what do you think the greatest mistake guys make with women is? Just like in sarging in general.

Arash:  They show too much interest too fast.

Bolo:  And what can they do to correct that?

Arash:  Well, keep doing it. Keep losing the chick. Keep doing it. Keep losing the chick. And then some point get sick of your sickness and say, “Fuck! What am I supposed to do?” At that moment, stop showing her so much interest. So she has to earn, she has to earn it from you. Honestly, that’s the very first thing I ever learned in game when I started studying it. That was the first thing. I applied it that night and it completely changed my experience with women. She has to earn you. You know?

Arash:  They demonstrate interest when they walk up. Already opening a girl you’re showing interest. So as quickly as you can you gotta calibrate and take that away as soon as possible. So she knows that okay, well, you were playing on level ground with her. Or even you gotta be higher really. You gotta have more value. So I think the biggest mistake is they show interest too quickly. The way they can correct is just recognize that’s not the way to get the girl man. It’s just not. I mean, where do you get that from? It’s not proven. It’s lucky. I don’t want to be, I don’t want to get lucky when I get chicks. I want to have skill. You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  It’s like do you want to be lucky if the parachute opened or do you want to know you fucking put that shit together. You know what I mean? And you put the parachute together. You check everything. And then you jump. Even then, some people’s chutes don’t open. Just like Pick Up. You could be a master Pick Up Artist. Sometimes you ain’t gonna get the chick dude. You gonna fuck up. Big deal. But you do all the pieces right and your chances are greatly improved. And you jump, still with adrenaline, but trusting your chute which is the game. Damn, that was…

Bolo:  Okay. [LAUGHS] Yeah, I’ve jumped out of a couple airplanes before and it helps to be prepared.

Arash:  Oh. Have you really jumped out?

Bolo:  Yeah. I’ve done AFF and Tandem. You do AFF by yourself , you go train for like 10 hours. Like, I had to go at 6 in the morning. Didn’t jump until like 6 in the afternoon.

Arash:  Wow.

Bolo:  It’s a fun time dude. You should give it a shot.

Arash:  I will never jump out of a plane unless it’s burning. Otherwise, I’m good. I’ll just take it from one place to the other.

Bolo:  Well, any tips or techniques you can give the guys? Like, any newbies listening here. Or any, like, you know, just any, anything that your particularly like to do.

Arash:  Yes. Yes, I have so many fucking hints and techniques and shit. So let me just go over a few basic ones. This goes, talk about for everybody, inner game is so important man. Inner… That’s what I had. That’s what… You asked me what made me so good. I had monster inner game. Monstrous. Because of martial arts and the study of the mind that I had all my mind been doing.

Arash:  So ,anyways, let’s get into this. Just like anything worth achieving, whether it’s a black belt in a legit martial arts or its surgeon, become a surgeon or anything legit, you have to put in your time.   And you gotta be willing to do what it takes and go through the hard times. So anybody picking up Pick Up for the first time should understand, you  know, you are going to get the chick one day. You’re totally going to get the chick one day, but you better be willing to go through some shit to get there. Like, really go through it. You gotta put yourself out there, so if you’re not willing have both sides of the coin, my teacher would say, Manu, that was his name, then you can’t have one or the other. You can’t just study game and go get all the hot chicks.

Arash:  The guys who are getting the supremely hot chicks using game, the way it’s taught, have put in their time. Personally, me, I’ve been picked out of two restaurants in San José because I was miscalibrated. Manager came up, “Sir. You’re going to have to leave.” And it’s fucked up. It’s an uncomfortable, uncomfortable experience. That’s the least of it man. I’ve got story after story of shit I’ve done. Boyfriends threatening me. Husbands threaten to kill me. It’s, like, fucked up.

Arash:  But now I’m at a point where it’s rare to get any reaction like that. So the advice is to recognize what you’re getting into, but it’s worth it. If it’s worth it for you to be able to get super-hot chicks and handle this part of your life once and for all. Once and for all, where you just know you have some skill. Then do it. For more advanced Pick Up Artists, I tell you this, straight up, if you have not studied and understood the Mystery Method, you’re missing out. And I guarantee you’re not as good as you could be. I guarantee you’re not as good as you could be, okay? You gotta study it and understand it, even if you’re good.

Arash:  I have Pick Up Artist here who are already good. And now they’re all going back and their game is tremendously improving. Because it’s scientific method. It has a structure where you can always find out where you are if you’re fucking up. It’s incredible. That’s for the people that have been studying game and maybe haven’t had the experience of the Mystery Method done correctly. A lot of people talk about it. They can’t demonstrate it, right? Find a good teacher. And thirdly, for people who have and they’re still struggling, you need to find a good teacher. You got to find a good teacher. How many good teachers do I know? I know four. You and Mystery and you know Matador. ‘Kay? The other two? Don’t worry about it. [LAUGH]

Bolo: [LAUGH]

Arash:  Legit, legit teachers. You would never in the field of martial arts, if your life is on the line, if someone’s gonna knock you out or break your limb or choke you out, you’re not going to go to some shmoe who hasn’t demonstrated his skills before. Doesn’t matter how many certificates he has. No matter what kind of website he has. You need to find a legit teacher who can teach and has already demonstrated who he is.

Arash:  That’s why it’s important for me to have a family tree. Mystery taught Matador. Matador, Arash. Good. We can trace that shit. I didn’t come out of nowhere, right? And if you call him up or if you see Matador, you say, “What do you think of Arash’s game?” He’ll tell you. It’s the way it is. That’s life, right? So for everybody else who’s been studying, maybe stuck somewhere, find a real teacher who can help you. Period. Simple. Done.

Bolo: Oh, very… Yeah dude. Very nice. Like, you seem to live a really kick ass life. You’re an accomplished martial artist. You met all these famous guys. You met Mystery. You met Matador.

Arash:  Ross Jefferies.

Bolo: You met Ross Jefferies before. Manu. I looked up his stuff on youtube. He was on the A-Team!

Arash:  Yeah. Manu was incred-. Man. Yeah, I’ll talk all day about Manu. But yes, he was my original teacher. Everything I can do is because of him as a base I have. Manu Tupou.

Bolo: Like, I’m curious. How did you build up this lifestyle. How did you meet all these people?

Arash:  That I still… Hey. Your voice, by the way, is really faded. So if you could fix it ‘cause I’m trying to desperately hear you, right now.

Bolo:  Can you hear me?

Arash:  That’s better.

Bolo:  Alright. I’ll just have to hold up my mike up like this. Alright, so yeah. How did you meet all these guys?

Arash:  I really can’t answer that with a fact because I thought about that question all my life. I don’t know. I don’t know. I do know when I met them , I instinctively knew how to act. And they saw something in me that they appreciated. And I dedicated, like, really dedicated myself to these teachers. I really did.

Arash:  Right now I’m doing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu with them, one of the best Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu masters in the world. And I’ve dedicated my whole life to the guy, you know? For the last 10 years I’ve been studying with him. September is 10 years. That’s, I love that. I love being a good student. You know? So, I don’t know how I met them. I really don’t know. If you try to work out the math of it, it’s impossible. So, I can’t figure out how I met them, but after I did I knew what to do.

Bolo:  Like, I’m sure a lot of these people, like, they have students all on them. Wanting to be, you know, their students personally. Like, what do you think separate you from the other guys?

Arash:  You gotta ask them that question. I can only guess. You know what I mean? I know my qualities, that if I was, you know, I am a teacher. As a teacher, I would see this sincere determination, desire and passion of this person to really learn and give proper acknowledgement to that teacher. That’s very important. That’s why I keep dropping Matador’s name or Mystery’s name because, and even Manu who’s passed away 7 years ago. That’s important to me.

Arash:  People have lost that tradition. You have to give respect to the people who came before you. There’s people who have said to me,” Man, your game is so great.” You know, it’s better than so-and-so. I say, “Listen. I don’t even compare myself to Matador. I don’t even compare myself to Mystery. I would be foolish. I don’t even… Who cares? Who cares?” Without them, there would be no me. So let’s just get that straight. Right? But it’s this Western mentality of, like, step over everybody. Get to the top and blah blah blah. And be the best. Shut the fuck up. You know? So, I don’t know. Maybe that’s what they saw. I don’t know. You would have to ask them. I think I would see this in myself. A guy who knows that he’s going to do whatever it takes to be the best.

Bolo:  Very nice. Alright. I looked up some of your videos on YouTube, you know? And are you, like, a club promoter?

Arash:  No, I’m not. I’m not. I actually use the game to create a lifestyle of a rock star. I want to be on the stage. I want to have a mike. I want to have girls around me. I want to perform. But I don’t have a voice. Besides what you hear. I can’t sing worth shit. So , it’s my secret how I did it. But I used game to position myself where I’m at now. I do shows. I get hired as an artist to go into a club and put on a show. A promoter is someone who promotes people to go to the club and get paids off of it. I get hired by the club as an outside. I go in. I do a show and I leave. That’s what I…

Bolo:  Okay. Can you drop any hints if one of the guys wants to do something similar?

Arash:  Absolutely. Hints are this. First of all, I have skills. You know? I’m on stage. I’m capable because of Manu. I’m a theater, master of theater. I know what I’m doing. And so you have to have something, right? So I can produce. I can produce a show. I can direct and produce shit. So that’s what I have. But the big hint in regards to game is if you have beautiful women around you, enough of them, it opens many, many doors for you. And I knew that. So I knew that having that, I could open doors. And I did.

Bolo:  Okay. So, like, social circle.

Arash:  You better believe it man. You wouldn’t believe my life. You should add me on Facebook. You literally… I tell you. I bet you there’s nobody else, nobody else in the world that we know that has a Facebook like me unless it’s Hugh Hefner. There’s nobody surrounded… Because even the celebrities bro, they get chicks, but they don’t have them in their social circle the way I have them. You gotta believe… We’ll you’ll see it for yourself.

Bolo: Okay. I saw your Facebook. You do… I saw, like, I think your Picasa web photos. Yeah, I can attest to what you’re saying.

Arash:  That’s my life. That’s what I do.

Bolo: Like, how did you build up your social circle? How do you get that many females around you?

Arash:  By having very tight, meticulous game. Very tight game. That’s it. Because…

Bolo: It all just goes back to game.

Arash:  If you know the structure of the Mystery Method , there’s comfort in the middle, C2 is deep comfort and connection. If you have a comfort and connection with a beau-… And I just did it with the 9s and 10s. Now, just like that, every relationship will end eventually. You gotta know how to end it. So girls will come and go. But the core group keeps getting stronger and stronger.

Arash:  My vision is to one day have, be the guy who establishes what is sexy in our current culture because of the way I look and who I am, I’m a rebel. You see how I look. And my girls are the new playmates. They’re the new, you know what I mean, the new Playboy Playmates. They’re the IMC Sinful Angels. That’s who we are. And you’ll see this. ‘Cause it is in our area, we’re known as the hottest girls in the Bay Area our under Arash. So now all we gotta do is get the word out to bigger than Bay Area. And it’s happening already. You know?

Bolo:  Very nice. Like, I’m curious though. What do you think is your biggest sticking point right now?

Arash:  Hmm… Good question. At the moment, I haven’t… My confidence has not caught up to my game. If that makes any sense. My confidence is lower than my ability to do game. So I’m starting to see that at some point they’re reacting to my game, which is really tight. But I start to fuck it up because my confidence is not there yet. And that incongruency  has been killing me. And now I’m getting it.

Arash:  That’s what I’m currently working on right now, is to see myself as they see me. Because I still have in me that little boy who was fucked up, with a lot more confidence now, but I see it come out at times. Somewhere in that structure that shit comes out. And now I’ve been in the progress… It’s funny you ask. For the last 3 days, I’ve seen it. To just nuke it out. It’s, like, it’s incongruent. That’s it. And you may never see. My lifestyle and what I can do, but that’s why I’m stuck, what’s what I need to fix right now.

Bolo:  Okay. Well, what about, like, the rest of your life. What other goals do you have? I mean, you seem to be doing pretty damn well already.

Arash:  You know who Lil Wayne is?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  My goal is to achieve material and fame, success higher than him. He’s the one, his picture is in the background for that purpose. It’s in the back. Point to him. There.

Bolo:  Yeah. I see him.

Arash:  Yeah. To spread the teachings of my teachers and help, honestly, because that seems to be the one activity that fulfills me at the end of the night, more than anything else is when I help people. And it’s very selfish. And it’s not all fucking vain and shit, “Oh. He wants to help people.” I only want to do it ‘cause it actually makes me feel better.

Arash:  The final analysis; that’s what it is. And to really just open my eyes and see… There’s a lot of goals. I’ve very goal orientated and shit. But in the big picture, Lil Wayne status and higher. Than use that and what I know to help as many people as I can. And on a personal level, just continue evolving as an individual and see, see what it is man. I mean, like, you know, it’s quiet a journey – living. It’s a trip. You know, it’s a trip. So I enjoy thinking about life and philosophizing about it and seeing what it’s all about.

Bolo:  Okay. Yeah. Sounds good to me dude. Like, what’s your day to day life like nowadays?

Arash:  I have a very strict schedule, I’ll tell you. I get up a 9AM every single day. I make myself some kind of smoothie juice for breakfast. I go and I do Jiu-Jitsu from 11. I finish at 2. I get home. I showered. This is every day. I shower. Hang out with my girlfriend till around 4. Some days at 3:30 or 4, I come to this office, what you’re seeing, and I teach game on Skype or meet with people. At 5 I’m in my martial arts academy teaching till 8:30. At 8:30, I head back to this office. Teach. Lecture. Or hangout with a friend. This goes Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. Friday is very similar to that except at the end of the night I hang out with my girlfriend. Saturday I teach in the morning. I have an open schedule in the middle of the day, where I hang out with a friend or go out gaming, whatever. And then I hang out with the girlfriend. Sunday I hang out with the girlfriend, having a meeting. Sunday night, hang out with a friend. Literally every single week is like that. And it’s been like that for years now.

Bolo:  What about your products? Can you tell us, like, just what you have? Like, you got boot camps? What else do you have?

Arash:  If a person if interested in learning from me, it’s really easy. They go to SeductiveInstinct.com. Can they email us there? They just shoot an email and they say what they want to learn, okay? Then somebody. 48 hours is my turn around time for everything man. If you haven’t heard in 48 hours from us, we didn’t get it. Straight up. Two days is long enough to go to another country and come back, you know? So, they say what they want. Based on that, we’ll email them. And say, “Look. Here are the options dude.”

Arash:  You know, and money is an issue for a lot of people. I don’t know from where you are, but in this economy in the United States it is. And I don’t give a shit about that too much. It has to be fair. It has to be something where, you know, I feel like it’s worth the time. You know, I gave you my schedule. Somewhere in there I fit somebody. That’s it. Straight up. That’s my schedule.

Arash:  So there’s an infinite number of products because it’s tailored to the person. Now, on the other hand, there’s, we just released that Alpha Male series. It’s a 6 DVD set. 5, 6 DVD set. I don’t remember. And that’s really cool because  that has so much, so much information, up and down the scale, on alpha males. And there’s language patterns, and there’s everything. Okay? So that’s for somebody who just wants to check it out. And there’s also, you know, again, webinars. We have this thing called Secret Diaries, where I interview some of these 9s and 10s. And you can see me talking to them and there’s a lot to learn. So those are some of the actual products that are out.

Arash:  But what I like my business to be is someone contacts us, we develop a personal relationship, find out what they’re all about. Based on that, we give them a few options. The one that fits their budget, they take it. I change their life. They go out and they tell the world how incredible I am. And then Lil Wayne can be my little bitch afterwards.

Bolo: [LAUGH] Alright dude. Sounds good. Anything else you want to say to the audience from here?

Arash:  Yeah man. First of all, thank you for doing this. You get the word out. You know what I mean? We all have our jobs. So now because of you more people are going to have an opportunity to learn from me and the stuff that I know. To the audience, any final messages, bottom line, and it’s going to sound weird and cheesy, but it is what it is. Let’s just make it a better place for everybody. You know what I mean? Somehow, someway. Whatever your skills are. Whether you’re, you know. Whether you work as a doctor. Whatever the fuck you do. You sweep the streets. You know, let’s wake up and go to bed and try to make it a little bit better for everybody. You know what I mean? Then it’s worth it. Teacher Manu would always say, “Be the best and fuck the rest.” So that’s the message. Be the best and fuck the rest.

Bolo: Alright. Thank you Arash and it was good talking to you.

I think of limiting beliefs as a major deterrent in developing your game. It’s always easy to make an excuse right. I’ve been in the game for a while, and you wouldn’t believe the excuses I sometimes here guys make.

1. “I don’t want to talk to her because I don’t know what to say”- Alot of guys get caught up in the opener. They think that they must have some amazing opener so they can attract the girl. Not really actually. If you have trouble deciding what to open with, just ask for the time or the directions. Make it seem natural as to the reason why you are talking to your target.

2. “What’s the point in wasting my time talking to women”- You aren’t wasting your time. Your developing a skill set, and over time you will develop relationships with women. You have to look at it as a time investment. We invest time in approaching women to reap the rewards later as our skill set improves.

3. “What if she doesn’t want to give me her number?”- I know the truth that many guys are afraid of rejection. When I first started picking up, I also felt bad if a girl wasn’t interested in me. You know what I do know? I don’t let it bother me if she doesn’t want to have further contact with me. I go out there and approach more girls because at the end of the day I will find a girl that wants to invest in our relationship.

4. “I don’t know how to talk to girls during the day.”- Many PUA’s focus on approaching at night. As a matter of fact, I specialize in day game these days for that very reason. There is less competition when you are out there during the day. Alot of guys need some beer to give them the courage to approach. When I first started approaching girls during the day, I had alot of approach anxiety. It took months and months of practice to get more comfortable approaching during the day. So my advice for this limiting belief is to get out of your shell, and just start talking to a few girls a day. Set a goal of how many women you want to approach. Start small then work towards bigger goals.

Those are a few limiting beliefs. If you can think of some more you have had or you know others have had, post them on here.

LS

Here are a few solutions that I use pretty regularly:

1) Observations. Make an observation about ANYTHING around you. It could be, “Isn’t this weather great?” if you’re day gaming or, “Hey look at those two over there ya think they’re gonna hook up later?” if you’re at a nightclub. Women LOVE talking about people so if you can make a comment about people around you then they will have fun with it.

2) “So how do you and your friends here know each other?” Anyone who have ever been in set with me a lot knows I use that line about as frequently as Charlie Sheen uses prostitutes. It’s a SOCIAL question that will get your target talking and she will eventually say something you can easily make a comment on to continue the conversation.

3) LEAD her somewhere. Those of you who know what I teach or are familiar with social psychology know that I’m a big fan of INVESTMENT. Basically the more she says, “yes” to your requests the more likely she will be to say “yes” later. SO if you say something simple like, “Let’s go to the bar and get shots,” or “Let’s go outside for some fresh air,” or “Let’s find somewhere we can sit down and hear each other talk better,” not only is it something NEW and FUN to do and demonstrating that you’re a leader; it’s also making her start to invest in you.

4) Say something you notice about her OTHER than her looks. For example, all the time I tell women that I appreciate a woman with a sense of style or a woman who actually has a REAL passion for something and is going somewhere in life. Saying something like that to a woman will help establish the type of connection she possibly hasn’t had all her life. She probably gets compliments about her hotness 10 times a day but NEVER about where she’s actually going in life and spends most of her time during the week working towards.

5) Basic flirting. There’s a million ways to flirt; my favorite is playful cockiness and role-reversal and pretending like she keeps trying to have sex with me. Kill the silence with, “Listen I know my good looks are distracting but it’s okay to talk with me also,” or something like, “You know what we should do. We should travel the world teaching people how to be awesome. If we did that years ago then there wouldn’t be so many idiots on TV like the Jersey Shore and the Kardashians.” Yes I know, my lines are brilliant, however the important thing isn’t to use lines; it’s to understand the PRINCIPLES behind them because then you can create your own on the spot!

6) Just shut up. Seriously. A lot of my female friends complain about when they meet hot guys and then the hot guys talk too much and it comes off as insecurity and they get turned off. Enjoy a few seconds of silence by just looking around and smiling and she’ll probably eventually say something to you. Thinking SUCKS and it’s against our male nature so the less thinking you do the more comfortable you will feel and the more opportunities SHE will have to speak and ask the right kind of questions she needs to ask to feel comfortable enough to hook up with you later.

7) Preparation. Before I have REALLY good nights I’ll usually get ready 2 hours before I plan on going out then for the hour before I go out I’ll have an energy drink, listen to some good music, and IMAGINE every possible situation I could get into that night and how to handle it properly. If you are prepared for every possible situation then you will win every time. If you KNOW how you’re going to open groups and singles, what conversation topics you can start, you know the venue you’re going to be gaming at, what you can say to get your target’s friends on your side, how you’re going to handle possible AMOG’s, have possible closing locations in mind and prepared if you’re going for a same night lay, and you’ve set up every advantage possible then your game is going to be better than 99% of the other guys who you will be competing with you for that target and you will be her best option.

Ali On The Air (Ali MAcLean) goes behind the scenes at the PUA Wold Summit to speak to the top pick up artists about why pick up lines are gross and how these puas are actually teaching guys to be better men.

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Two weeks ago, I had the party and I made the reservations in advance and managed things much better. Reserved the restaurant and a room at the bar we went too. Next thing, after the bar I should have planned what we were going to do next since some people split up…

Overall, it was a good time. So, next time you throw a social circle event plan it in advance. Trust me!

Take a look at our other social circle articles:

Expand your social circle by becoming a club promoter.

Learn how to expand and manage your social circle.

Want to add these type of girls to your social circle? You can!

First of all, I know I haven’t been posting on my progress of game lately. I recently have gone back to social circle… My reason was well I’m good at it and I like doing it… Don’t get me wrong I will be doing cold approach, however my primary focus now will be on getting my social circle much stronger…

Since going back, I have noticed how strong this method of game is.

#1- You are the one throwing the event, all eyes are on you… Talk about prizability here.

#2- Attraction triggers are automatically set. I love it because when I have my target and I want  to open another set in the social circle I can. Sets generally feel more attraction because you are around beautiful women.

#3- I’m having guys I know bring girls as well. So it’s not just me and a bunch of girls I know, I’m inviting out my wings and telling them to bring sets as well. This is working out for me because it enables new girls that are “gameable” and it increases my potential of meeting a good set. (Happened to me last night)

#4- It’s easy to create jealousy plotlines on girls you are targetting by simply talking to other girls in the social circle. This can create greater attraction for your target. More on this later, as I will be experimenting with jealousy plotlines in the coming months.

#5- It’s an engine. I think of social circle game as an engine. The reason is that this engine works by having  a constant supply of people. These people make it easier to open other sets around you. Not only that, but with these people you have your fair  share of women you can sarge.

These are just a few reasons why I have shifted back to social circle. Now, I will be posting some of my experiences with using this style of game and what is and isn’t working. Yes, you will here the GOOD and BAD as I chronicle my journey of running social circle I was looking around for products on social circle and sure enough lovesystems has a product. Check it out

Pay attention to class students!

Two types of game exist in a college atmosphere – both of which I feel are important to master: cold approach game and social circle game. Most PUA’s are fluent in methods and strategies of cold approach game – which essentially focuses on closing a new girl as soon as possible. The quicker you close, the quicker she will backwards-rationalize sleeping with you and essentially put the future direction of the relationship in your hands, so it is important to close as soon as possible. Many naturals are skilled at social circle game and are able to close “friends-of-friends” by unconsciously running basic attraction spikes/switches. With most of the local night clubs in college towns heavily populated with social circles, it is important to learn the skills to effectively gain access to these “tribes” for pre-selection purposes.

Cold approaching in college can be divided into two categories – day game and night game. Day game is extremely effective due to the non-threatening environment and opportunity to quickly isolate without dealing with obstacles or interrupts. The best venues for day game in a college atmosphere are campus, shopping malls, and book stores. On campus, the best time to sarge is in the late afternoon when classes are almost over near dorms and basic class buildings. I typically run situational openers that allow me to say something funny and spike BT right away. After that a bounce or #close comes easy.

In shopping malls, the best places to sarge are retail clothing stores and the food court. I typically bounce girls from there to a restaurant bar then my place for hookah and if kino has been effectively escalated throughout the process, the same day close comes easily. The best venues for night game are the most exclusive and expensive clubs because they typically have the hottest girls, the lowest noise levels, and are the least crowded – which essentially provides optimal logistics.

Great social circle game skills will not only give you instant social proof in large social circles such as sororities, but also save you thousands of dollars in cover charges, allowing you to go out more often and reach a higher level of success in a shorter period of time. Working my way up the social ladder and becoming a club promoter saves me an average of $15/night, 7 days/week, which saves over $400/month and allows me to open around 140 sets/week (at night) opposed to the practically affordable 40 sets/week.

Once both styles of college game have been optimized and calibrated effectively, you will be closing more beautiful women than you ever imagined.

-Falcon (Leader of the Tallahassee, FL, USA Lair)

8 hours? Try 30 minutes.

Lately, in the community there has been more of an interest in SNL Game. Here’s the misconception. Many guys believe there is a 7 hr rule that you must follow to getting the close. Take that and throw it down the drain. There’s guys closing in less than 4 hours and my SNL’S usually average about 4-5 hours with my last one being in 2 hours. Well, Latinstylez what are the keys to SNL Game?

1. Logistics

Yup, this is where most guys fail. A friend of mine by the name of RedpoleQ always stresses logistics. If you have a solid game plan, of where you will take the girl from point A-Z, then you will be that much better off when you are running game. Combine that with being comfortable in the venues and also knowing the people there. Guess what that creates? It creates a person who is comfortable within himself in the areas he goes to and it shows by the way you act and also by the way you talk to other people in the venue.

Tip: Start looking around your area for some good venues to bounce your girls to. Think of at least 3-4 venues that you can rotate between.

2. Use plausible deniability to bring her back to your place

Plausible deniability is created when she doesn’t feel responsible. Again, my buddy RedpoleQ and BlueM stress this in their teaching. I have used this technique and have been able to escalate at a quicker pace and also deal with less LMR when I pull her back. A good example would be to tell her about vacation photos that you want to show her or some funny you tube videos. What this does is it doesn’t make her responsible. Remember the man is responsible!

3. Escalate

Escalating is where most guys fuck up on. You have a guy who is clearly interested in the girl he is sarging but when it comes to kinoing her he freezes out. Afraid to touch her the guy goes into a state and loses out on the girl he is interested in.This is one of the most important parts of SNL game because physical touch is very important in the HB feeling comfortable with you. Without touch, there is nothing!

Escalation tips:

Start small. This can be your hand on her shoulder or lightly touching  her arm and progressing. RedpoleQ teaches a bootcamp where he goes over this with guys. Remember to continue progressing!

4. Sexualize

Well what is sexualizing, Latin?  Here are some quick sexualization tips. Make sure to run Questions Game later on in the sarge. This is typically done at the seduction location or prior to the seduction location.

You want to make sure to find out how sexual she is…

Start by asking questions on how many people she has kissed and slowly progressing from there. The key here is to progress with each question.

Strawberry Fields is another great way to sexualize typically in the bounce location before the seduction location or you can roll it out in the seduction location. Sexualizing takes practice; I am still working on getting it tighter.

5. Pull the trigger

She’s laying there in the bed looking at you all sexual. You look down and decide that you “feel” right now is not the time after you have progressed this far in the SAME DAY! We’ve been there. This is the main reason I am writing this post. Well, don’t just sit there looking  at her pull the f…. trigger… Go on that bed and play with her hair and give her a kiss.

I’m sick of hearing crap about all these games in the community. Just go in for the k close and escalate. Pulling the trigger means going after what you want. Do you want that girl? Then pull the trigger!

SNL Game:

Just a few tips from someone who has experience in SNL Game. Most of the time I don’t even go for the SNL’s they just happen. They happen because of some of the steps I have listed above. There is much more to expand on this topic and we are working on ways to make our game harder, better, faster, and stronger. Most commonly in SNL Game, faster!

Latin

Olalala...

This was sent in by a reader who remains anonymous. My answers are italicized in blue.

hey, i just graduated from college and was planning on going to central or south america to learn spanish for a year. I’m really drawn to buenos aires for the girls, but i’ve heard that colombian girls are pretty too. can you tell if a certain pu approach worked better in argentina than in colombia?

Hey. I’d say between the two the Colombian girls are more exotic than the Buenos Aires girls, but BA has a better nightlife. Also, the Spanish in Colombia is a bit easier to understand. Have you looked into Peru? The girls there aren’t bad either.

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Are you more about the nightlife or the women? If you are just looking for hot exotic women, then check out Colombia or Lima, Peru. But, if you like nightlife and pretty cute girls, then check out BA.
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No problem if you have anymore questions let me know. You won’t be dissapointed in Lima.

What should you say to them? Ask Karea.

Karea is one of those dating coaches who you’ve probably never heard of but who your favorite Pick Up Guru knows and respects. He’s currently traveling South America and it was a crazy coincidence that LatinStylez and I met him (He found us by googleing for Colombia Wings and turns out he knows the Pick Up Asia crew). It just goes to show you all the different types of people you can meet when you travel.

1) How did you get into pickup?

I got lucky: when I was 16, I had a music teacher who was a real Casanova. He always had 4 girl-friends, he pushed me into sets when I was too shy to talk to girls and taught me more about women than about chords and scales. Years later, I met a natural who taught me a few more things and that’s when I really started cold approaching on my own. Only another 2 years later, in 2004, a friend of mine told me: “You know, there is a community on the internet of guys like you. They call themselves pickup artists.” I was skeptical – how much could these computer geeks really know about women? Haha. Little did I know. (:

2) What is your dating philosophy?

“Stack work is no less important for a PUA than it is for a comedian.” All the very best PUAs I know have a gameplan – Sinn, Captain Jack, Vision, Mystery, Style… If you write a stack, and then go out and run it often, it’s almost inevitable that you will improve. It’s also almost inevitable that your dating life will be more abundant than you will have free time for. I see the whole “natural game” trend in the community and it’s something I did for several years myself… until I got invited on Mystery’s Lounge in 2006 and realized that it’s the only forum where people consistently post 6-8 new lay reports a month each! Now, whether that’s your goal or not is a different question – but it sure showed me that there is something to this stack work.

3) How did you get good at dating to become an authority on it?

Enthusiasm. I love talking about girls and I love talking to them. What I was really looking for in the community were like minded people – cause most of my friends just got bored when I talked about chicks all the time. (:

4) What do you think guys greatest mistake with women is?

Rather than answer this question myself, I recommend you ask some of your girl-friends about the lame things guys do to try and pick up on them or impress them. It’s actually pretty funny (:

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

Day game. Two years ago I made a list of all my ex girl-friends, to look for patterns. All relationships with girls I had met in night game were chaotic, to say the least. Some of the most wonderful girls I’ve dated, I met in day game. Other great PUAs I’ve talked to about this topic confirm this experience.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

You really only need one friend… he can introduce you to 5 people, who introduce you to 5 more people each, and soon there is no stopping it. The only limit on the size of your social circle should be the free time at hand. And once you have more friends than time to spend with, you can start to be more picky.

7) What was your life like when you weren’t good with women? What is it like now?

I already had a few little “girl-friends” in primary school that I snuck in the bathroom with to kiss, but around age 8 I got into the wrong peer group and ended up being mostly AFC until I was 19. From 19 – 21 I dated one of the prettiest girls from my year, which didn’t really help my social life much at all because the popular guy was in love with her and so all his peer group hated on me. Now? I’m now at a point where, because of my travels, I often have to start a life in a new city where I don’t know anybody – but I know that within a week or two I will have a beautiful girl-friend and a cool social circle.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

I’ll share a technique here that I came up with years ago when I was reverse engineering the secret to charisma. It is to treat everybody like they were your best friend from high school that you haven’t seen in ages. Not just any friend… your BEST friend. Really imagine you’re not talking to some dude you just met or to some girl with a bitch shield – imagine you’re talking to that one friend from high school that you had all these inside jokes with.

9) Do you use props? If so, what gets the most reactions?

Well, sometimes. I wouldn’t recommend to be dependant on props, but one thing I did for a while was to show girls some pics on my digital camera. You can obviously choose interesting pictures that make you look good, pictures of yourself being social, travelling, doing sports, being on stage, etc. But the one that always got the best reaction was a picture of a cat with two different eyes – a green one and a blue one. The girl would call her friends over and be like “oh my God, look at this cat! That is amazing”. By the time her friends looked at the cam, I’d already flipped to the next picture – a picture of a perfectly normal cat – and show it to her friends. They’d all look at her like “What’s wrong with you? That’s just a normal cat”. Haha. Good times.

10) What is your biggest sticking point?

State dependence. When I’m in state, I’m a rock star. When I’m not, I have AA… even after 7 years of cold approaching.

11) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

There are four I’d mention. David D is great for inner game, Mystery for outer. David Shade is the man when it comes to sexual mastery, and Captain Jack when it comes to Framing.

12) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

When I was 16, the music teacher I mentioned above told me that he used to be shy as a kid. I didn’t believe him… he was the most charismatic and social person I ever met, always the center of attention and flirting with beautiful women. But it showed me that these social skills are something that can be learned and practiced… and so I wanted to improve. Now, 12 years later, I’m the one who tells people that I was shy as a teenager – and they don’t believe me.

13) What advice do you give to newbies starting out?

It depends a lot on where they’re at and where they wanna go. But if somebody is not getting results with women, I warn them to stay away from “natural game” products. If being yourself hasn’t helped you so far, it won’t help you in the future just because you watched a DVD. In fact the schools that teach natural game are usually the ones that have forums almost void of lay-reports.

14) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

Fear. Fear of approaching, and fear of taking things to a romantic / physical level. Fear of saying something wrong and thus staying on safe, polite conversation. What helped me over this was to tell myself: “She is not my dream girl… she is not the perfect 10 that I will marry some day in the future… so this interaction doesn’t matter… at all.” Outcome independence, if you will.

15) What are your goals for the community? Your life?

Truth be told, I have achieved all the goals I set for myself in this area of my life… be it dating several dancers and models at the same time, or falling in love with one 10 and building an amazing, deep, exclusive relationship. So at the moment I’m enjoying the ride… but since I constantly work on my skills, the goal is mastery. You can always get better – there is no ceiling.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to South America?

I fell in love with this continent when I was a child, maybe 8 years old… we have family friends from there, and whenever they were around, I’d run up to them and go: “Cecilia, tell me about South America!” (: I was fascinated by her stories about the country… eternal summer, salsa music, perpetual smiles and beautiful people, great food and a cocktail under palm trees.

2) What’s the difference between sarging in North America and South America?

The three main differences, in my experience, are:
1.) Latinas don’t usually have bitch shields – they will be polite even if they’re not interested
2.) Latinas don’t cock block. If a girl sees that her friend likes you, she will usually help her get laid rather than sabotage it.
3.) Many Latinas are very catholic and conservative. They’re more flirtatious than Western girls and may even kiss you faster, but wait longer before they go all the way with a guy.

3) Can you relate a success story about one of your clients?

In 2008, I was teaching a lot of guys about relationship mastery, and I received great feedback from all my students. One of them was totally in love with a girl, but he didn’t know what to do about it and how to communicate with her… she obviously walked all over him. I coached him through the issues and I regularly get emails from him about how happy he is with the relationship now… it’s very satisfying for a teacher to see that.

4) Why did you choose the name Karea?

LOL. I had a different handle before, until a chick hacked into my email. Heaven hath no rage, nor hell a fury… The good side is, this made for a funny stalker story that I now tell in set sometimes.

5) What are your fundamental teachings?

There’s a lot… But one fundamental thing is definitely charisma – despite what I said about stack work above, I think it’s far more important to develop personal magnetism than it is to do body rocking or time constraints or negs or BHRR.

6) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

Much like Brad P, I figured a lot of stuff out before the community. So I know both perspectives – natural game and learned game – and how to integrate them with each other.

7) Your known as a “moral PUA” in the community. How do you respond to that?

Haha… yeah, I had a bunch of discussions with other famous PUA about this topic. I believe in pickup with harm to noone. I think it’s neither good nor necessary to destroy other people’s relationships, to cheat on your girl-friend or to lead girls on about your motives. If you truly have an abundance mindset, you will surely be able to find girls who are single, and be honest about it if you’re not ready to commit. Hey, I’m not pointing fingers here… I made mistakes in the past myself. But I experienced that there are ways to play this game win – win.

Tell me about your products.

I used to teach a Relationship Mastery Seminar with a major pickup company last year, and I’m also working on a product about Relationship Mastery myself, but it will be a few months at least before I’m ready to publish that. I also wrote some chapters for the number one Mexican pickup book, and for a book that will soon be published by LoveSystems (former Mystery Method) – about very fast lays in day game (within 15 minutes to 1 hour from meeting a girl).

Currently, I only do private consultations (over the phone or in person) about both those topics – pickup and relationships. So if you’re interested in talking to me and unfuck some sticking points, or simply to take your game to the next level, get in touch through the blog and we’ll have a chat. (:

My best to you all,

-Karea.

Want dating advice from Karea? Email karea at rocketmail.com