We all know opening is just the beginning this video covers it… However, it’s still an important part of game that you need to know. I prefer to go indirect, but it depends on the situation. Savoy makes some interesting comments about different types of openers: functional-which he teaches, harder to transition, lowest risk/lowest reward, direct- high risk (AIA- decision made right away), indirect, opinion- AIA made later

These are just a few more will be covered later. Want to learn more openers? Check out the Love Systems Routines Manual.

**AIA- Am I Attracted decision made by the target

Want to add these type of girls to your social circle? You can!

First of all, I know I haven’t been posting on my progress of game lately. I recently have gone back to social circle… My reason was well I’m good at it and I like doing it… Don’t get me wrong I will be doing cold approach, however my primary focus now will be on getting my social circle much stronger…

Since going back, I have noticed how strong this method of game is.

#1- You are the one throwing the event, all eyes are on you… Talk about prizability here.

#2- Attraction triggers are automatically set. I love it because when I have my target and I want  to open another set in the social circle I can. Sets generally feel more attraction because you are around beautiful women.

#3- I’m having guys I know bring girls as well. So it’s not just me and a bunch of girls I know, I’m inviting out my wings and telling them to bring sets as well. This is working out for me because it enables new girls that are “gameable” and it increases my potential of meeting a good set. (Happened to me last night)

#4- It’s easy to create jealousy plotlines on girls you are targetting by simply talking to other girls in the social circle. This can create greater attraction for your target. More on this later, as I will be experimenting with jealousy plotlines in the coming months.

#5- It’s an engine. I think of social circle game as an engine. The reason is that this engine works by having  a constant supply of people. These people make it easier to open other sets around you. Not only that, but with these people you have your fair  share of women you can sarge.

These are just a few reasons why I have shifted back to social circle. Now, I will be posting some of my experiences with using this style of game and what is and isn’t working. Yes, you will here the GOOD and BAD as I chronicle my journey of running social circle I was looking around for products on social circle and sure enough lovesystems has a product. Check it out

If a girl gives you a “maybe”-type response to a date invitation or says “I’ll let you know”, this is a test from her that is very easy to fail because it’s easy for you to fall into a low-value situation where you’re waiting around with your schedule open for her. On the other hand, if you press her too hard to commit to plans, then you’re chasing her… which is also low-value.

(By the way, my good friend Soul and I have an audio interview on Handling Tests.)

So what I typically do in response to a “maybe” response is that I typically give her a deadline (in a playful way) of when she must respond to my invite by. For example:

“I’ll hold your spot for tomorrow night’s plans until 9pm tonight… after that, my offer either self-destructs or gets offered to somebody else.  :)”

That last part — about offering the plans to somebody else — is the scariest part to type out in a text or say over the phone, but it works wonders for a variety of reasons. It triggers the attraction switch of preselection by other women, it shows that you have other options out there, it shows that you’re not afraid to talk about those other options, and it can help trigger jealousy in her as well.
(Pre-selection is one of the few attraction switches. All of them can be found in the book Magic Bullets)

Then, as it gets closer to your deadline time, you can send her a text message along the lines of:

“Going once… going twice…”

And then, if you don’t hear back from her:

“Sold! To another bidder! We’ll try again some other time for plans.”

If she says something like “Okay! Yes! Call me tomorrow to confirm”, that “calling to confirm” part is just another way of saying maybe. At that point, you need to simply call her out on it and say: “So do we have plans or not? Should I reserve time for you? Because I can make other plans.” (Credit Savoy for this.)

Now, on the day of the date, she may flake on you just a few hours before the event. If she does that, your WORST possible reaction would be to get upset. That just shows her how much of an emotional investment you’ve made into her, and if she hasn’t put the same emotional investment into you yet, then it will tremendously lower your value and she probably won’t want to see you again.

My favorite response to a last-minute flake is: “I will wait to see how you make it up to me before I pass judgment.”

Savoy’s favorite response to a last-minute flake is: “Oh, it’s no problem. I can take someone else.”

If she continually shows low compliance by not responding to date offers or says “no” too many times in a row, then I usually call up and say (in a HIGH-ENERGY PLAYFUL tone, NOT a serious or reprimanding tone!):

“Samantha, you are such a DORK!! Do you know why you are such a dork?? Because I have called you SEVERAL TIMES over the last few weeks to make plans and you haven’t called me back (or haven’t been available). So this is your LAST CHANCE, your FINAL OPPORTUNITY to make plans with me. After this, there will be no more opportunities! All future opportunities disintegrate into thin air! So if you can stop being a dork for just a minute, call me back. Bye.”

You can even expand this into a playful list of 3 reasons why she is such a dork — and include some callback humor that will remind her of why she originally liked you enough to give you her phone number. Something like:

“Samantha, you are the BIGGEST DORK for 3 reasons! One, because you’re the only person in Los Angeles who eats sushi with white wine. Two, because you still listen to pop music even though I’ve told you to get rid of all those pop songs and switch to R&B instead. And three, because I have called you a HUNDRED TIMES to make plans and you haven’t called me back. So this is your LAST CHANCE… (then continue with above).”

And speaking of calling vs. text messaging, I think that the best way to accelerate getting girls to say YES to dates is to switch to PHONE CALLING instead of TEXTING. Texting is so low compliance, and the more you text a girl back-and-forth, the more she just sees you as words on a screen, and forgets all about your personality and why she gave you her number in the first place. Texting builds very little comfort or rapport. In fact, I urge all guys to try to start making PHONE CALLS more often than text messages… you will notice dramatic improvements in the responses you get from women. Yes, it’s more risky, but as I always say: with big risk comes big rewards.

Another thing to think about in regards to text messages, girls LOVE collecting text messages from guys, just like they love to collect friends on Facebook. It’s an ego boost for them — it validates that they are sexy & that they have tons of options — and they love getting text messages from all sorts of “orbiters” while they’re out fucking other guys. They love to giggle with their girlfriends about all these guys that are texting them and they fully admit to their girlfriends which ones they’re never going to sleep with. So the sooner you stop texting her, the sooner you can stop validating her for NOT seeing you in person. You can still text once in a while, but you need to use the phone to keep the emotional momentum going.

Switch to the phone, and things will get much easier. Switching to the phone will also help you realize sooner if a girl isn’t into you and it’s not going to go anywhere. Text messages can go on for MONTHS & MONTHS before you realize that it’s not going anywhere.

As Soul says, “The relationship does not begin until sex.”

A few other pointers:

- Always refer to your dates as “dates”. Be as clear as possible with your intentions, so she knows EXACTLY why you’re asking her out. Using the word “date” will force the girl to tell you “let’s just be friends” if she feels that way. Saves you time for those girls who aren’t interested.

- Always be willing to walk away from any girl that isn’t living up to your expectations. Think about how you’d treat your friends that weren’t living up to your expectations — you probably wouldn’t yell at them, but you would call them out in a playful way on their bad behavior.

If you want to learn more on how to prevent flakes, grab the interview series on preventing flaking. You can listen to the first 10 minutes for free here.

What should you say to them? Ask Karea.

Karea is one of those dating coaches who you’ve probably never heard of but who your favorite Pick Up Guru knows and respects. He’s currently traveling South America and it was a crazy coincidence that LatinStylez and I met him (He found us by googleing for Colombia Wings and turns out he knows the Pick Up Asia crew). It just goes to show you all the different types of people you can meet when you travel.

1) How did you get into pickup?

I got lucky: when I was 16, I had a music teacher who was a real Casanova. He always had 4 girl-friends, he pushed me into sets when I was too shy to talk to girls and taught me more about women than about chords and scales. Years later, I met a natural who taught me a few more things and that’s when I really started cold approaching on my own. Only another 2 years later, in 2004, a friend of mine told me: “You know, there is a community on the internet of guys like you. They call themselves pickup artists.” I was skeptical – how much could these computer geeks really know about women? Haha. Little did I know. (:

2) What is your dating philosophy?

“Stack work is no less important for a PUA than it is for a comedian.” All the very best PUAs I know have a gameplan – Sinn, Captain Jack, Vision, Mystery, Style… If you write a stack, and then go out and run it often, it’s almost inevitable that you will improve. It’s also almost inevitable that your dating life will be more abundant than you will have free time for. I see the whole “natural game” trend in the community and it’s something I did for several years myself… until I got invited on Mystery’s Lounge in 2006 and realized that it’s the only forum where people consistently post 6-8 new lay reports a month each! Now, whether that’s your goal or not is a different question – but it sure showed me that there is something to this stack work.

3) How did you get good at dating to become an authority on it?

Enthusiasm. I love talking about girls and I love talking to them. What I was really looking for in the community were like minded people – cause most of my friends just got bored when I talked about chicks all the time. (:

4) What do you think guys greatest mistake with women is?

Rather than answer this question myself, I recommend you ask some of your girl-friends about the lame things guys do to try and pick up on them or impress them. It’s actually pretty funny (:

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

Day game. Two years ago I made a list of all my ex girl-friends, to look for patterns. All relationships with girls I had met in night game were chaotic, to say the least. Some of the most wonderful girls I’ve dated, I met in day game. Other great PUAs I’ve talked to about this topic confirm this experience.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

You really only need one friend… he can introduce you to 5 people, who introduce you to 5 more people each, and soon there is no stopping it. The only limit on the size of your social circle should be the free time at hand. And once you have more friends than time to spend with, you can start to be more picky.

7) What was your life like when you weren’t good with women? What is it like now?

I already had a few little “girl-friends” in primary school that I snuck in the bathroom with to kiss, but around age 8 I got into the wrong peer group and ended up being mostly AFC until I was 19. From 19 – 21 I dated one of the prettiest girls from my year, which didn’t really help my social life much at all because the popular guy was in love with her and so all his peer group hated on me. Now? I’m now at a point where, because of my travels, I often have to start a life in a new city where I don’t know anybody – but I know that within a week or two I will have a beautiful girl-friend and a cool social circle.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

I’ll share a technique here that I came up with years ago when I was reverse engineering the secret to charisma. It is to treat everybody like they were your best friend from high school that you haven’t seen in ages. Not just any friend… your BEST friend. Really imagine you’re not talking to some dude you just met or to some girl with a bitch shield – imagine you’re talking to that one friend from high school that you had all these inside jokes with.

9) Do you use props? If so, what gets the most reactions?

Well, sometimes. I wouldn’t recommend to be dependant on props, but one thing I did for a while was to show girls some pics on my digital camera. You can obviously choose interesting pictures that make you look good, pictures of yourself being social, travelling, doing sports, being on stage, etc. But the one that always got the best reaction was a picture of a cat with two different eyes – a green one and a blue one. The girl would call her friends over and be like “oh my God, look at this cat! That is amazing”. By the time her friends looked at the cam, I’d already flipped to the next picture – a picture of a perfectly normal cat – and show it to her friends. They’d all look at her like “What’s wrong with you? That’s just a normal cat”. Haha. Good times.

10) What is your biggest sticking point?

State dependence. When I’m in state, I’m a rock star. When I’m not, I have AA… even after 7 years of cold approaching.

11) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

There are four I’d mention. David D is great for inner game, Mystery for outer. David Shade is the man when it comes to sexual mastery, and Captain Jack when it comes to Framing.

12) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

When I was 16, the music teacher I mentioned above told me that he used to be shy as a kid. I didn’t believe him… he was the most charismatic and social person I ever met, always the center of attention and flirting with beautiful women. But it showed me that these social skills are something that can be learned and practiced… and so I wanted to improve. Now, 12 years later, I’m the one who tells people that I was shy as a teenager – and they don’t believe me.

13) What advice do you give to newbies starting out?

It depends a lot on where they’re at and where they wanna go. But if somebody is not getting results with women, I warn them to stay away from “natural game” products. If being yourself hasn’t helped you so far, it won’t help you in the future just because you watched a DVD. In fact the schools that teach natural game are usually the ones that have forums almost void of lay-reports.

14) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

Fear. Fear of approaching, and fear of taking things to a romantic / physical level. Fear of saying something wrong and thus staying on safe, polite conversation. What helped me over this was to tell myself: “She is not my dream girl… she is not the perfect 10 that I will marry some day in the future… so this interaction doesn’t matter… at all.” Outcome independence, if you will.

15) What are your goals for the community? Your life?

Truth be told, I have achieved all the goals I set for myself in this area of my life… be it dating several dancers and models at the same time, or falling in love with one 10 and building an amazing, deep, exclusive relationship. So at the moment I’m enjoying the ride… but since I constantly work on my skills, the goal is mastery. You can always get better – there is no ceiling.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to South America?

I fell in love with this continent when I was a child, maybe 8 years old… we have family friends from there, and whenever they were around, I’d run up to them and go: “Cecilia, tell me about South America!” (: I was fascinated by her stories about the country… eternal summer, salsa music, perpetual smiles and beautiful people, great food and a cocktail under palm trees.

2) What’s the difference between sarging in North America and South America?

The three main differences, in my experience, are:
1.) Latinas don’t usually have bitch shields – they will be polite even if they’re not interested
2.) Latinas don’t cock block. If a girl sees that her friend likes you, she will usually help her get laid rather than sabotage it.
3.) Many Latinas are very catholic and conservative. They’re more flirtatious than Western girls and may even kiss you faster, but wait longer before they go all the way with a guy.

3) Can you relate a success story about one of your clients?

In 2008, I was teaching a lot of guys about relationship mastery, and I received great feedback from all my students. One of them was totally in love with a girl, but he didn’t know what to do about it and how to communicate with her… she obviously walked all over him. I coached him through the issues and I regularly get emails from him about how happy he is with the relationship now… it’s very satisfying for a teacher to see that.

4) Why did you choose the name Karea?

LOL. I had a different handle before, until a chick hacked into my email. Heaven hath no rage, nor hell a fury… The good side is, this made for a funny stalker story that I now tell in set sometimes.

5) What are your fundamental teachings?

There’s a lot… But one fundamental thing is definitely charisma – despite what I said about stack work above, I think it’s far more important to develop personal magnetism than it is to do body rocking or time constraints or negs or BHRR.

6) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

Much like Brad P, I figured a lot of stuff out before the community. So I know both perspectives – natural game and learned game – and how to integrate them with each other.

7) Your known as a “moral PUA” in the community. How do you respond to that?

Haha… yeah, I had a bunch of discussions with other famous PUA about this topic. I believe in pickup with harm to noone. I think it’s neither good nor necessary to destroy other people’s relationships, to cheat on your girl-friend or to lead girls on about your motives. If you truly have an abundance mindset, you will surely be able to find girls who are single, and be honest about it if you’re not ready to commit. Hey, I’m not pointing fingers here… I made mistakes in the past myself. But I experienced that there are ways to play this game win – win.

Tell me about your products.

I used to teach a Relationship Mastery Seminar with a major pickup company last year, and I’m also working on a product about Relationship Mastery myself, but it will be a few months at least before I’m ready to publish that. I also wrote some chapters for the number one Mexican pickup book, and for a book that will soon be published by LoveSystems (former Mystery Method) – about very fast lays in day game (within 15 minutes to 1 hour from meeting a girl).

Currently, I only do private consultations (over the phone or in person) about both those topics – pickup and relationships. So if you’re interested in talking to me and unfuck some sticking points, or simply to take your game to the next level, get in touch through the blog and we’ll have a chat. (:

My best to you all,

-Karea.

Want dating advice from Karea? Email karea at rocketmail.com