Vang Vieng is a strange place. It is located in the middle of Laos, yet people come from all around the world to party. The main attraction of Vang Vieng is tubing; people sit on tubes and float down the river, stopping at bars along the way. There are many bars along the river, but only about 4 or 5 that people go to where you’ll find crazy parties. People start at the first bar and end up at the last. Not only are there bars, but there are also ziplines, rope swings, and water slides. Drunk people going on ziplines is always a good idea… This party begins around 1PM and ends at 6 or 7PM, or whenever the sun goes down over the mountains. By 4pm most people are too drunk to stand straight. After tubing,people eat dinner, then get ready to party again at night. The thing with Laos is that due to government regulations, bars must shut down by midnight. Some bars stay open later, but they either have a late license or do so illegally.

My first night out in Vang Vieng I saw this guy handing out free shots. I said that I’d be interested in working; 2 minutes later I found myself talking to the owner of the bar and agreed to start working the next day. In exchange for work I’d get free accommodation, free food, and all the free alcohol I wanted. The bar wasn’t particularly crowded, but why not. I’m always down for a new experience. I showed up at the river the following day at 12:30 PM. My job on the river was to hand out free shots, tie wrist bands around people, and promote for the night time. I got completely shit faced my first day on the job. Later that night I went out to the bar and got completely shit faced again. At 11:30 PM I was done for the day and was able to either stay out partying, or go to sleep.

I hadn’t gotten laid since I left Korea and was going on a 5 week dry spell. I was a bit rusty, to say the least. The good thing about working at the bar forced me to talk to A LOT of people in a short period of time. After a few days of work I started getting more on point and was making out with a new girl every day. My first make out was with this cute South African broad. The following night this Australian girl approached me and started making out with me about 8 seconds later. I was starting to get more on point.

One night at work I noticed these 2 Korean girl walking around the bar taking pictures of themselves. Surprising to see Asian girls taking unnecessary pictures of themselves, huh??? Haha. One of them was hot, the other fat. I approached them and asked if they were from Korea. They were surprised that I knew that they were Korean (I spent 5 weeks in Korea recently and live in the northeast of the USA, so I know damn well what Korean girls look like). I told them I spent 5 weeks in Korea and that I crashed at a friend’s place in Gangnam. They were Gangnam girls, so it was instantly on. I started talking about bolgogi and kimchi after this. They asked if I worked at the bar, and I said what I said, then offered them jobs at the bar. Of course my main motivation in doing this was to fuck the hot one. They started working at the river the next day.

The following day at the river I spent a lot of time talking to the cute one (as well as every other hot girl that came to party on the river). Great thing about working on the river was that it was an easy way to meet every girl who stopped by. When a girl hung out at my bar on the river and I actually had a conversation with her, if she came out to my bar later that night it was easy to continue where we left off. In addition to this, working at a bar is a great way to gets lots of social proof. Working at a somewhat low-key bar is nice because it makes it easy to meet everyone there. Working at a crowded bar is probably great, but it’s less obvious to the girls that you work there so you don’t stand out as much.

Later that night at the bar, it was me, my chick, her friend, and my friend. I suggested that we all go back to my room and smoke a joint. After the joint my friend and his chick went off to his room to fuck, so it was me and my chick in my room. She wasn’t ready to fuck that night. I went for the make out and got D-NIED. She went to her room after this. The following night I found myself in a hammock with her. We went back to my room and I got whiskey dick. I drank a bit too much. The next night we went back to my place again, except this time I railed her out really hard. After that night we fucked every night until she left. If I ever go back to Korea I’ll rail her brains out again.

Every day at the river this German girl would come down. This girl was absolutely gorgeous; cool girl too. I’d basically talk to her the entire time she was at my bar. I’d always tell her to come out to the bar at night, but she thought I was just promoting and not being sincere about it. Finally on her last night she came to the bar. She said to me “would it make you happy if I kissed you?” I said sure, and made out with her. I tried pulling her back to my hostel but she declined, due to a 5 AM bus ticket the next morning. This was also the Korean girls last night in town; luckily she showed up late… this gave me plenty of time to game the German girl. However I probably would have gamed the German girl regardless of if the Korean girl was there or not. Shortly after the German declined my attempt to go back to my hostel the Korean girl showed up. Being honest seemed like the best thing to do in this situation so I said to the German “I’ve been sleeping with this girl for the past week, but I want you tonight. Let’s go back to my place now.” She said no. She was getting ready to go to sleep anyway. We made out again, and she left. Not closing this girl was painful though. If I ever go to Germany I’ll finish what I started…

This was a cool night for me though. In the first part of the night I was making out with a hot German girl, and after she left I hung out with my Korean girl and banged her. It’s as if all of my hard work in the past was paying off right before my eyes…

The day after my Korean chick left town I moved into a new hostel. A hostel called Spicy Laos. I HIGHLY recommend this place if you ever visit Vang Vieng; it is by far the best and easiest place to meet new people. There’s a common area where everyone hangs out, and the beds are separated by nothing more than thin bamboo walls and mosquito nets. Very cool place but a bit cold at night. Plus, it’s literally the cheapest place in town and there’s free wifi, free breakfast, and hot showers. (There’s also a Spicy Laos in Luang Prabong. I highly recommend this hostel for all backpackers visiting Laos).

So pretty much everybody had quit working at the bar except for me and my English friend. He was ready to quit and move to a new bar, but I told him that the rewards would be GREAT if we both stuck it out… we both moved into Spicy Laos at the same time. Seize the day and jump on good opportunities. Shortly after moving into my new hostel I found myself talking to this cute Aussie girl. At the time she was travelling solo, but her friends were arriving the next day. Our conversation was very casual and pretty short. My English friend and I told everyone to come out to our bar later that night. Another benefit of staying at this hostel was that it was a great location for us to promote the bar to everyone.

That night the bar was decent, but I was exhausted. At 11:30 PM, I was ready to go to sleep. One of the Lao guys who owned the bar told me that I should stay until 12. I said why not, and stayed… at about 11:35 PM everybody from the hostel showed up, including the Aussie broad. She came up to me and was ALL over me. We went to the dance floor… I was wearing these thin Thai-style pants, and she was wearing those stretchy black pants (I fucking love those things). She started grinding on me and I told her “be careful… these pants are REALLY thin…” After this she suggested we go to a hammock. Hammocks are a fun place to take girls. She jumped me and started kissing my neck. I had to physically push her off to make her stop. After she stopped, I said to her “I’m going to FUCK THE SHIT out of you later…” She liked this. I found myself with the biggest hickey of my life, on my neck. I said that we should go back to the hostel. She replied with, “we’re going to end up there anyway, let’s wait a bit. This quote really stuck with me; it’s a great mindset to have, one of patience. We went back to the hostel 15 minutes later. No resistance. Only problem is that I got whiskey dick (story of my life). I fucked her for a solid 20 seconds then lost it. Get a good night sleep and don’t get too drunk! After this she was not sexually attracted to me anymore. It wasn’t awkward between us and we’d still talk, but she didn’t want to fuck again.

The night I pulled the Aussie girl was particularly fun for me though. My English friend I worked with was the next bed over from me. He had a new girl with him and I had a new girl with me. At one point he goes “Travolta, is that you?” I said back to him, “Yep. What’s up?” and continued with my business. Good good times.

The day after I sort of banged the Aussie broad I felt like the man. I was overly exhausted from partying so much and was feeling narcissistic. I didn’t want to do anything but sit around all day and not speak to anyone. About 3 days later I quit working at the bar; it was far too draining for me to be around drunk people all day. I could not deal with that shit any longer. Two days after I quit I left Vang Vieng and went to Luang Prabong. The cool thing about working in a bar is that is teaches you to be unreactive to all of the external stimuli going on around you. Everybody would be getting drunk and going crazy, but I’d be standing there completely chilled out. I was used to the environment from working there, so it had absolutely no affect. Girls would approach me every night because there was something different about me and everyone else in the bar. I miss working at a bar… I hope to do it again someday somewhere else.

My 2 weeks spent in Vang Vieng was the time of my life, hands down. I made out with some really hot girls, banged 2 different girls, and also did some amazing things. I went rock climbing and went on this intense and dangerous trek through the mountains. Traveling Southeast Asia made me discover that I love hiking through the mountains. It has actually inspired my near-future plans to go to Nepal. In Nepal I am planning on taking a 2 week trek to the base camp of Nepal. The majority of people go to Vang Vieng for the sole purpose of partying. The partying is great, but the best thing about the place has got to be the scenery. The town is surrounded by tall, steep limestone mountains. Every day I was there I’d stare at the mountains and they never failed to amaze me.

Vang Vieng was amazing, but I have no plans on returning for AT LEAST another few years. Go there if you ever get the chance. I could write another few pages about the rest of my experience in Laos, but I don’t want to get carried away.

Where to meet Korean women in Cebu?

I have yet to explore the other malls in Cebu, but I know that they like to go to Ayala Mall. I’ve been opening around 4 or so today, and today I met a K-girl that was worth posting an FR. I know I don’t post many FR’s these days!

I was walking around the mall, and I opened two sets. One was another Korean girl that was waiting on her taxi, and she didn’t open well so I ejected. The next set was a Filipino girl that had a Japanese style to her. After I opened her, she looked like she was in a hurry so I didn’t pursue it…

I was a bit hungry so I went over to the third floor of Ayala Mall where the restaurants are, and decided that I wanted to get something healthier. A lot of the restaurants in the Philippines are fast food and unhealthy. I go inside Kenny Roger’s and after a few minutes I see this tall sort of tanned chick ordering some food. She was really nitpicky asking if they wouldn’t add rice to her meal and butter on her vegetables. She was talking to the Filipino workers like they were worthless pieces of shit. After she ordered her food, I laughed with the guy at the front desk saying “Wow she’s picky.” He gave me a light laugh then extended convo with me asking where I was from…

The chick that ordered the food sat down, and I thought to myself “I should open her…” Then a few minutes later she answers her phone and I hear “Yoboseyo.” For those of you who don’t know Korean, that’s how they say “hello” on the phone. I took a seat near here after I ordered my food. Eventually, she sat back down. They brought rice out to her and she said “I told you I didn’t order rice blah blah blah…” The worker listened to her with a smirk on his face and he went to the kitchen to change the order. Many of the people in the restaurant were looking at her in a strange way.

I opened her with “Annyong. You’re Korean right?” I told her I lived in Korea for some time. Then she goes over to me and sits next to me. She was really good looking and talkative. That’s what I like about Korean women a lot of them express their feelings. They are fun to sarge. We chit chat about Seoul and turns out she was from Apujeong which is the higher class area in Seoul. Her food arrives and everything looks good for her this time. I made a joke about her being nitpicky and called her “khonju pyeong” when she asked the guy working at the restaurant “Can you get me a straw?” Khongu pyeong basically means princess fever. It’s a word that Koreans use for women who can be whiny, bratty, and what things done their way…

This was a huge bt spike, and she was laughing the entire time. I set up a time to meet with her which she switched to Friday. I liked how she was into fitness, eats healthy, and was also a broadcaster. She had done some traveling so I found that nice because it showed she was open to seeing new places.

After eating our food, we parted ways. I had light kino and tried to give her a spin, but she didn’t turn around… Ahh, the failed spin move! It usually works with K-girls…

All in all, I learned something in this sarge. Just because a girl might be rude to others or she might be in her own little world isn’t an excuse to NOT open her. I opened this chick, and she turned out to be quite an interesting cute “yeoja.” Yeoja means woman in Korean

LS

My first venue covered will be Rainbow Bar in Gangnam, Seoul.

Hookah lounges are good for comfort building

This venue is best used as a bounce location. It is good for kino and also for building a good atmosphere with you and your target. The hookah’s here are good and the music as well. So, bring your target and be ready to enjoy the times. It opens at 6PM and stays open pretty late.

Wanna know the difference between Korean women and other women? Check out Korean Girls: Different Than Girls in General?

Wanna date beautiful Korean women? Check out Bluemystery’s blog or download his ebook here.

I’ve been talking to a few people from around the world, and we were debating about whether or not Korean women, are different than women from anywhere else around the world.

First, I talk about the differences between the East and the West.  Having lived, met and dated women in both parts of the world, I can share with you some of the differences in both history, culture and dating expectations.

In the West, we are taught to stand up for ourselves and be seen an individual. In the Orient, the saying goes that “if a nail stands up, it will be hammered down”. If you read the book Geography of Thought by Professor Nisbett , you will learn about this in depth. This difference in paradigm is the core of why gaming Oriental vs Occidental women is different.

You can easily see this in Asian movies such as Hero with Jet Li, or The curse of the Golden Flower with Chow Yun Fat.

I’ll throw out a few examples, and let me know if there’s anything in particular you’d like to know about.

* let’s say you’ve approached a girl in a bar and have gone over the opener.

In the West, approaching a girl is not that much of a deal, and doesn’t generate enough attraction on it’s own.

In the East, it’s very rare to see guys approach girls. In fact, only us Westerners do it in the daytime. This causes you to have to re-calibrate, and be careful about not shying her away, because she will feel self-conscious.

* Let’s say you are talking to a girl in a bar who is with her friends. She likes you, it’s painfully obvious. Her friends come, but they see you going well with their friend.

In the West, your target is more than likely to stay talking to you, and her friends are more than likely to let you guys do your thing, unless they can tell that she’s not having a good time.

In the East, your target is more than likely to notice her friends in their own group, and feeling like she’s going against her group, she will excuse herself in spite of liking you.

* Let’s say you’re building comfort

In the West, girls tend to talk about a variety of things, and have many different goals and stories that they are more than willing to go into.

In the East, you begin noticing certain common patterns on what they want, and say they want, or just say, and they keep it short. Sometimes, it’s like sarging the same person over, and over again. Neutral

Now let’s talk some about Korean women.

What can I say? I love them. It’s not just their looks that
get me going, but also their personalities.  They are reputed for being the prettiest women in the world, and I can’t agree more. Sure, Japanese women put more make up, and being a foreigner with Chinese women has more pull, but Korean women are still my favorite.

Take it from me, I am speaking from my personal
experience: In general, they’re fun, energetic, CARING -
I used to have pleasant surprises on my birthday: all my
girls used to bring me gifts including wine and
champagne, not to mention the massages and of course,
good ol’ fun sex.

I really want you guys also to experience similar
situations – I want to be lying on a beach with my girl,
watching you guys having a blast with yours.
On the other hand, Koreans can be quite bratty (you’ll
come to love this though, or get tired of it), whiny,
and if you don’t own the context of the relationship, they
will own your wallet AND your time.

This is because they have what’s known as the ‘공주병’ which stands for ‘princess disease’. In general, they act whiny and bratty when they don’t get when they want, and some of them use their whining like kids to get men to bend to their will (and I recommend staying away from these ones).

What you need to understand, however, is that unlike Japan or China, being a foreigner in Korea is something ‘cool’ but something ‘different’.  You won’t get bonus points for being a foreigner. In fact, it can be a lot harder for you because Korean girls will shy away at not being able to communicate.

On the other hand, Korean women are the best at speaking English in North-East Asia, aside for Hong Kong.  English is so popular here that you can tease them for NOT speaking it!

All in all,  living and dating in Korea has taught me a lot about women and myself.  I love being surrounded by them, and wish the same for you.

Until then, have fun!

BlueM

–To see more of BlueM check out his blog. He also has a book on dating Korean Women.

See more of them here and you can find bootcamp information if you are in Asia and are interested here

I got into pickup by desperately needing it, and through my desperation, I found a website called ‘www.pickupguide.com‘.

I believe that the masculine and the feminine are both thrown into this ‘dating game’ by the gods with different advantages and disadvantages, and in the end want to share deeply intimate moments with each other.

I started with the end in mind.  I knew that I wanted to be an authority in dating in Asia, and so I decided to go to Korea and build my vision from the first step ‘going to Asia’. From there, I realized that I needed three things to build my skills:  Experience, support and mentorship.  I gained experience by going out regularly, support by going out with wings from the KoreaLair and mentorship from PickupAsia.  The recipe was designed for me to succeed.   Then my first niche became being successful with Korean women in their culture, and currently I’m the only PUA who is an authority in Korea.

The biggest mistake I see guys make is not take enough risks.  Guys make the mistake of either not going to talk to the woman, or not ‘pulling the trigger’ when it comes to sex, when clearly the women want them to.  In other words, the biggest mistake that men make is thinking that women will act like men when it comes to dating and lead the interaction. Men need to understand that they need to lead, and women will give them the feedback they need to take the interaction where it needs to go, just like driving a car from point A to point B.

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

First of all, I want your readers to know that finding a “quality girlfriend” isn’t the only ultimate goal that Pickup can offer you, or the only goal that any student of Pickup should shoot for.  To answer your question, there must be some groundwork set up.  A man must both know what qualities a woman has to be his quality girlfriend, and that he is worthy of such a woman.  Once a man knows that, he can get an idea of where to find her and what she’ll be like.  So for example, if guy#1 likes a woman who exercises a lot, and is studious, he has the best chances of meeting her at a University gym.  If guy#2 likes a woman who is extravagant and gorgeous then he can meet her in clubs.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

Build it with the endgoal in mind.  I wanted a social circle that would allow me to accomplish my goals of being a Pickup master, businessman, teacher and lover.  Currently, my social circle involves Pickup Masters, Business Mentors, fellow PUAs, and my women.   To build a social circle, learn to cultivate value and give it to the people you want to attract into your social circle.  The next step would be to become a social node, where you make yourself the person to talk to when your social circle wants something of valuable.

When I wasn’t good with women, I lived with a little demon by my side, that would torture me daily.  The demon was the knowledge of knowing that I didn’t have any sexual partners in my life, and that I didn’t know how to bring any into it.  Nowadays, I’ve finally put that demon to rest and can confidently move into other projects, such as teaching men how to get good with women.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

One technique I learned from RedpoleQ (www.redpoleQ.com) with PickupAsia is the “D-move”.  It involves taking the girls hand and putting it on your cock.  Yes, it’s very direct. Yes, it’s very sexual. The woman has no doubts of your intentions, and now knows that it’s time for her to step up to the plate as she’s with a man who knows what he wants, or go home.

Yes I do.  Props are non-verbal ways of showing women who you are and what you’re about.  My props evolve around the theme of travelling and learning about cultures, as does my game BECAUSE my quality girl is into those things.  What gets me the most reactions are women who are into traveling and cultures.

10) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

Kid44  (www.PickupAsia.com)  I’m fortunate enough to have him in my social circle, and have been able to learn from him.  He taught me a lot non-verbally as well as verbally. Him and RedpoleQ have really taught me about giving a lot of value to people, and how to teach PickUp as well as business ethics.

11) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

For me, I always needed to work on that part of my life. I never believed that some had “it” and some didn’t. It wasn’t until the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back” was when I was in love with a girl I didn’t want to be, and when I saw her with another guy yet she knew how I felt about her.

Dream big, and start small. Have a vision of what you want firmly in your mind and make sure it moves you. Whether it be to get out of a depression you’re dealing with for being lonely, or wanting to be as famous as Mystery, or being able to “just know” that you can get girls.  Then be sure to start with small goals at first, such as the “newbie missions”, joining a Lair or a forum such as www.pickupasiaforum.com WITH THE GOAL of finding wingmen and mentors.  If you really want to invest in yourself and cut down the time it takes to improve, definitely consider taking a bootcamp. If you’re in Asia, I strongly recommend the people I took a bootcamp from: PickupAsia (www.pickupasia.com)

13) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

In my opinion, being able to generate ‘attraction’ is overrated.  The fact is that it doesn’t take much for a woman to be attracted to you. the biggest issue is guys not believing that they are worthy of a woman’s attraction, not to mention sexual lust, and being able to move on in the process of going from ‘meet to sex’.

14) What are you goals for the community? Your life?

My goals with it the community is to build it in Asia, and see that it’s helping people on this side of the world.  For my life, my goal is to attract better experiences in my life, including women, health and wealth, and I wish the same for everyone else.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to Korea/Japan/etc?

I chose Korea because of my personal fascination with it. Ever since I was a child I was involved with Korean culture through Taekwondo and loved it.  I’m also in love with Asian women, specifically Korean at this point in my life.

The clients who have been most successful with what I and fellow partners have to offer are those that learned from us and went out regularly to implement what we had to teach while coming back to us for support.  In other words, the successful ones are those who took action.

One student that comes to mind read my e-book and then took a bootcamp with PickupAsia but most importantly, he’s going out in the field and practicing what he’s paid good money to learn and has gotten some impressive results:  He went from powerlessness with respect to women, to having had sex after a bit more one month, and still making progress.

3) Why did you choose the name _BlueMystery__?
It’s really silly lol.  I chose ‘Blue’ because my favorite band at the time was, and is “Deepest Blue” (I recommend listening to them on Youtube) and ‘Mystery’ because at the time, I was using ‘mystery’ as a main tool to picking up women.  Now it’s changed and I love being open to the women I’m talking to.

4) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

My focus is specifically on Korean women and culture at this time.  PickupAsia and I are currently working on helping Foreign and Asian men have amazing relationships in Asia and with Asian women as we currently help men in both Korea and Japan.  Soon we will be able to help men in Australia, China, Taiwan and more.

5) Your known as a(n) expert in Korea in the community. How do you respond to that?
I appreciate what the community has done for me, and will always consider myself to be a brother of that group. It has helped me and I’m honored to help it back.