Other notable blogs and sites:

BlueMystery

PickupAsia

Seduction List was created by AlphaWolf and Casual who created the site PUALingo.

What should you say to them? Ask Karea.

Karea is one of those dating coaches who you’ve probably never heard of but who your favorite Pick Up Guru knows and respects. He’s currently traveling South America and it was a crazy coincidence that LatinStylez and I met him (He found us by googleing for Colombia Wings and turns out he knows the Pick Up Asia crew). It just goes to show you all the different types of people you can meet when you travel.

1) How did you get into pickup?

I got lucky: when I was 16, I had a music teacher who was a real Casanova. He always had 4 girl-friends, he pushed me into sets when I was too shy to talk to girls and taught me more about women than about chords and scales. Years later, I met a natural who taught me a few more things and that’s when I really started cold approaching on my own. Only another 2 years later, in 2004, a friend of mine told me: “You know, there is a community on the internet of guys like you. They call themselves pickup artists.” I was skeptical – how much could these computer geeks really know about women? Haha. Little did I know. (:

2) What is your dating philosophy?

“Stack work is no less important for a PUA than it is for a comedian.” All the very best PUAs I know have a gameplan – Sinn, Captain Jack, Vision, Mystery, Style… If you write a stack, and then go out and run it often, it’s almost inevitable that you will improve. It’s also almost inevitable that your dating life will be more abundant than you will have free time for. I see the whole “natural game” trend in the community and it’s something I did for several years myself… until I got invited on Mystery’s Lounge in 2006 and realized that it’s the only forum where people consistently post 6-8 new lay reports a month each! Now, whether that’s your goal or not is a different question – but it sure showed me that there is something to this stack work.

3) How did you get good at dating to become an authority on it?

Enthusiasm. I love talking about girls and I love talking to them. What I was really looking for in the community were like minded people – cause most of my friends just got bored when I talked about chicks all the time. (:

4) What do you think guys greatest mistake with women is?

Rather than answer this question myself, I recommend you ask some of your girl-friends about the lame things guys do to try and pick up on them or impress them. It’s actually pretty funny (:

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

Day game. Two years ago I made a list of all my ex girl-friends, to look for patterns. All relationships with girls I had met in night game were chaotic, to say the least. Some of the most wonderful girls I’ve dated, I met in day game. Other great PUAs I’ve talked to about this topic confirm this experience.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

You really only need one friend… he can introduce you to 5 people, who introduce you to 5 more people each, and soon there is no stopping it. The only limit on the size of your social circle should be the free time at hand. And once you have more friends than time to spend with, you can start to be more picky.

7) What was your life like when you weren’t good with women? What is it like now?

I already had a few little “girl-friends” in primary school that I snuck in the bathroom with to kiss, but around age 8 I got into the wrong peer group and ended up being mostly AFC until I was 19. From 19 – 21 I dated one of the prettiest girls from my year, which didn’t really help my social life much at all because the popular guy was in love with her and so all his peer group hated on me. Now? I’m now at a point where, because of my travels, I often have to start a life in a new city where I don’t know anybody – but I know that within a week or two I will have a beautiful girl-friend and a cool social circle.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

I’ll share a technique here that I came up with years ago when I was reverse engineering the secret to charisma. It is to treat everybody like they were your best friend from high school that you haven’t seen in ages. Not just any friend… your BEST friend. Really imagine you’re not talking to some dude you just met or to some girl with a bitch shield – imagine you’re talking to that one friend from high school that you had all these inside jokes with.

9) Do you use props? If so, what gets the most reactions?

Well, sometimes. I wouldn’t recommend to be dependant on props, but one thing I did for a while was to show girls some pics on my digital camera. You can obviously choose interesting pictures that make you look good, pictures of yourself being social, travelling, doing sports, being on stage, etc. But the one that always got the best reaction was a picture of a cat with two different eyes – a green one and a blue one. The girl would call her friends over and be like “oh my God, look at this cat! That is amazing”. By the time her friends looked at the cam, I’d already flipped to the next picture – a picture of a perfectly normal cat – and show it to her friends. They’d all look at her like “What’s wrong with you? That’s just a normal cat”. Haha. Good times.

10) What is your biggest sticking point?

State dependence. When I’m in state, I’m a rock star. When I’m not, I have AA… even after 7 years of cold approaching.

11) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

There are four I’d mention. David D is great for inner game, Mystery for outer. David Shade is the man when it comes to sexual mastery, and Captain Jack when it comes to Framing.

12) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

When I was 16, the music teacher I mentioned above told me that he used to be shy as a kid. I didn’t believe him… he was the most charismatic and social person I ever met, always the center of attention and flirting with beautiful women. But it showed me that these social skills are something that can be learned and practiced… and so I wanted to improve. Now, 12 years later, I’m the one who tells people that I was shy as a teenager – and they don’t believe me.

13) What advice do you give to newbies starting out?

It depends a lot on where they’re at and where they wanna go. But if somebody is not getting results with women, I warn them to stay away from “natural game” products. If being yourself hasn’t helped you so far, it won’t help you in the future just because you watched a DVD. In fact the schools that teach natural game are usually the ones that have forums almost void of lay-reports.

14) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

Fear. Fear of approaching, and fear of taking things to a romantic / physical level. Fear of saying something wrong and thus staying on safe, polite conversation. What helped me over this was to tell myself: “She is not my dream girl… she is not the perfect 10 that I will marry some day in the future… so this interaction doesn’t matter… at all.” Outcome independence, if you will.

15) What are your goals for the community? Your life?

Truth be told, I have achieved all the goals I set for myself in this area of my life… be it dating several dancers and models at the same time, or falling in love with one 10 and building an amazing, deep, exclusive relationship. So at the moment I’m enjoying the ride… but since I constantly work on my skills, the goal is mastery. You can always get better – there is no ceiling.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to South America?

I fell in love with this continent when I was a child, maybe 8 years old… we have family friends from there, and whenever they were around, I’d run up to them and go: “Cecilia, tell me about South America!” (: I was fascinated by her stories about the country… eternal summer, salsa music, perpetual smiles and beautiful people, great food and a cocktail under palm trees.

2) What’s the difference between sarging in North America and South America?

The three main differences, in my experience, are:
1.) Latinas don’t usually have bitch shields – they will be polite even if they’re not interested
2.) Latinas don’t cock block. If a girl sees that her friend likes you, she will usually help her get laid rather than sabotage it.
3.) Many Latinas are very catholic and conservative. They’re more flirtatious than Western girls and may even kiss you faster, but wait longer before they go all the way with a guy.

3) Can you relate a success story about one of your clients?

In 2008, I was teaching a lot of guys about relationship mastery, and I received great feedback from all my students. One of them was totally in love with a girl, but he didn’t know what to do about it and how to communicate with her… she obviously walked all over him. I coached him through the issues and I regularly get emails from him about how happy he is with the relationship now… it’s very satisfying for a teacher to see that.

4) Why did you choose the name Karea?

LOL. I had a different handle before, until a chick hacked into my email. Heaven hath no rage, nor hell a fury… The good side is, this made for a funny stalker story that I now tell in set sometimes.

5) What are your fundamental teachings?

There’s a lot… But one fundamental thing is definitely charisma – despite what I said about stack work above, I think it’s far more important to develop personal magnetism than it is to do body rocking or time constraints or negs or BHRR.

6) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

Much like Brad P, I figured a lot of stuff out before the community. So I know both perspectives – natural game and learned game – and how to integrate them with each other.

7) Your known as a “moral PUA” in the community. How do you respond to that?

Haha… yeah, I had a bunch of discussions with other famous PUA about this topic. I believe in pickup with harm to noone. I think it’s neither good nor necessary to destroy other people’s relationships, to cheat on your girl-friend or to lead girls on about your motives. If you truly have an abundance mindset, you will surely be able to find girls who are single, and be honest about it if you’re not ready to commit. Hey, I’m not pointing fingers here… I made mistakes in the past myself. But I experienced that there are ways to play this game win – win.

Tell me about your products.

I used to teach a Relationship Mastery Seminar with a major pickup company last year, and I’m also working on a product about Relationship Mastery myself, but it will be a few months at least before I’m ready to publish that. I also wrote some chapters for the number one Mexican pickup book, and for a book that will soon be published by LoveSystems (former Mystery Method) – about very fast lays in day game (within 15 minutes to 1 hour from meeting a girl).

Currently, I only do private consultations (over the phone or in person) about both those topics – pickup and relationships. So if you’re interested in talking to me and unfuck some sticking points, or simply to take your game to the next level, get in touch through the blog and we’ll have a chat. (:

My best to you all,

-Karea.

Want dating advice from Karea? Email karea at rocketmail.com

I hope you guys enjoy this special interview. I have gotten a chance to interview one of the top PUA’S  in Japan known as RedpoleQ. He is a personal friend of mine. We will be working together on some projects in the future as well.

Basic Questions
1) How did you get into pickup?

We offer 3 day boot camps that run over 25 hours.  Only about 5 hours of that is spent in seminar time while the other 20+ is spent in set, getting as much experience as possible under coaching. We have the Sexual Mastery Seminar which is really popular as well and focuses on developing sexual confidence–having the skills to be able to please any woman, and being able to live out your sexual fantasies. I just put out a 40-minute audio, called “Debunking 7 PickUp Myths” that does just that by discussing some of the big controversies in the pickup community like that around “natural game”, “negs”, and indirect vs. direct openers.  You can find it a www.redpoleq.com

I got into pickup by desperately needing it, and through my desperation, I found a website called ‘www.pickupguide.com‘.

I believe that the masculine and the feminine are both thrown into this ‘dating game’ by the gods with different advantages and disadvantages, and in the end want to share deeply intimate moments with each other.

I started with the end in mind.  I knew that I wanted to be an authority in dating in Asia, and so I decided to go to Korea and build my vision from the first step ‘going to Asia’. From there, I realized that I needed three things to build my skills:  Experience, support and mentorship.  I gained experience by going out regularly, support by going out with wings from the KoreaLair and mentorship from PickupAsia.  The recipe was designed for me to succeed.   Then my first niche became being successful with Korean women in their culture, and currently I’m the only PUA who is an authority in Korea.

The biggest mistake I see guys make is not take enough risks.  Guys make the mistake of either not going to talk to the woman, or not ‘pulling the trigger’ when it comes to sex, when clearly the women want them to.  In other words, the biggest mistake that men make is thinking that women will act like men when it comes to dating and lead the interaction. Men need to understand that they need to lead, and women will give them the feedback they need to take the interaction where it needs to go, just like driving a car from point A to point B.

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

First of all, I want your readers to know that finding a “quality girlfriend” isn’t the only ultimate goal that Pickup can offer you, or the only goal that any student of Pickup should shoot for.  To answer your question, there must be some groundwork set up.  A man must both know what qualities a woman has to be his quality girlfriend, and that he is worthy of such a woman.  Once a man knows that, he can get an idea of where to find her and what she’ll be like.  So for example, if guy#1 likes a woman who exercises a lot, and is studious, he has the best chances of meeting her at a University gym.  If guy#2 likes a woman who is extravagant and gorgeous then he can meet her in clubs.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

Build it with the endgoal in mind.  I wanted a social circle that would allow me to accomplish my goals of being a Pickup master, businessman, teacher and lover.  Currently, my social circle involves Pickup Masters, Business Mentors, fellow PUAs, and my women.   To build a social circle, learn to cultivate value and give it to the people you want to attract into your social circle.  The next step would be to become a social node, where you make yourself the person to talk to when your social circle wants something of valuable.

When I wasn’t good with women, I lived with a little demon by my side, that would torture me daily.  The demon was the knowledge of knowing that I didn’t have any sexual partners in my life, and that I didn’t know how to bring any into it.  Nowadays, I’ve finally put that demon to rest and can confidently move into other projects, such as teaching men how to get good with women.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

One technique I learned from RedpoleQ (www.redpoleQ.com) with PickupAsia is the “D-move”.  It involves taking the girls hand and putting it on your cock.  Yes, it’s very direct. Yes, it’s very sexual. The woman has no doubts of your intentions, and now knows that it’s time for her to step up to the plate as she’s with a man who knows what he wants, or go home.

Yes I do.  Props are non-verbal ways of showing women who you are and what you’re about.  My props evolve around the theme of travelling and learning about cultures, as does my game BECAUSE my quality girl is into those things.  What gets me the most reactions are women who are into traveling and cultures.

10) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

Kid44  (www.PickupAsia.com)  I’m fortunate enough to have him in my social circle, and have been able to learn from him.  He taught me a lot non-verbally as well as verbally. Him and RedpoleQ have really taught me about giving a lot of value to people, and how to teach PickUp as well as business ethics.

11) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

For me, I always needed to work on that part of my life. I never believed that some had “it” and some didn’t. It wasn’t until the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back” was when I was in love with a girl I didn’t want to be, and when I saw her with another guy yet she knew how I felt about her.

Dream big, and start small. Have a vision of what you want firmly in your mind and make sure it moves you. Whether it be to get out of a depression you’re dealing with for being lonely, or wanting to be as famous as Mystery, or being able to “just know” that you can get girls.  Then be sure to start with small goals at first, such as the “newbie missions”, joining a Lair or a forum such as www.pickupasiaforum.com WITH THE GOAL of finding wingmen and mentors.  If you really want to invest in yourself and cut down the time it takes to improve, definitely consider taking a bootcamp. If you’re in Asia, I strongly recommend the people I took a bootcamp from: PickupAsia (www.pickupasia.com)

13) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

In my opinion, being able to generate ‘attraction’ is overrated.  The fact is that it doesn’t take much for a woman to be attracted to you. the biggest issue is guys not believing that they are worthy of a woman’s attraction, not to mention sexual lust, and being able to move on in the process of going from ‘meet to sex’.

14) What are you goals for the community? Your life?

My goals with it the community is to build it in Asia, and see that it’s helping people on this side of the world.  For my life, my goal is to attract better experiences in my life, including women, health and wealth, and I wish the same for everyone else.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to Korea/Japan/etc?

I chose Korea because of my personal fascination with it. Ever since I was a child I was involved with Korean culture through Taekwondo and loved it.  I’m also in love with Asian women, specifically Korean at this point in my life.

The clients who have been most successful with what I and fellow partners have to offer are those that learned from us and went out regularly to implement what we had to teach while coming back to us for support.  In other words, the successful ones are those who took action.

One student that comes to mind read my e-book and then took a bootcamp with PickupAsia but most importantly, he’s going out in the field and practicing what he’s paid good money to learn and has gotten some impressive results:  He went from powerlessness with respect to women, to having had sex after a bit more one month, and still making progress.

3) Why did you choose the name _BlueMystery__?
It’s really silly lol.  I chose ‘Blue’ because my favorite band at the time was, and is “Deepest Blue” (I recommend listening to them on Youtube) and ‘Mystery’ because at the time, I was using ‘mystery’ as a main tool to picking up women.  Now it’s changed and I love being open to the women I’m talking to.

4) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

My focus is specifically on Korean women and culture at this time.  PickupAsia and I are currently working on helping Foreign and Asian men have amazing relationships in Asia and with Asian women as we currently help men in both Korea and Japan.  Soon we will be able to help men in Australia, China, Taiwan and more.

5) Your known as a(n) expert in Korea in the community. How do you respond to that?
I appreciate what the community has done for me, and will always consider myself to be a brother of that group. It has helped me and I’m honored to help it back.