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This was sent in by a reader who remains anonymous. My answers are italicized in blue.

hey, i just graduated from college and was planning on going to central or south america to learn spanish for a year. I’m really drawn to buenos aires for the girls, but i’ve heard that colombian girls are pretty too. can you tell if a certain pu approach worked better in argentina than in colombia?

Hey. I’d say between the two the Colombian girls are more exotic than the Buenos Aires girls, but BA has a better nightlife. Also, the Spanish in Colombia is a bit easier to understand. Have you looked into Peru? The girls there aren’t bad either.

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Are you more about the nightlife or the women? If you are just looking for hot exotic women, then check out Colombia or Lima, Peru. But, if you like nightlife and pretty cute girls, then check out BA.
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No problem if you have anymore questions let me know. You won’t be dissapointed in Lima.

I’ve been talking to a few people from around the world, and we were debating about whether or not Korean women, are different than women from anywhere else around the world.

First, I talk about the differences between the East and the West.  Having lived, met and dated women in both parts of the world, I can share with you some of the differences in both history, culture and dating expectations.

In the West, we are taught to stand up for ourselves and be seen an individual. In the Orient, the saying goes that “if a nail stands up, it will be hammered down”. If you read the book Geography of Thought by Professor Nisbett , you will learn about this in depth. This difference in paradigm is the core of why gaming Oriental vs Occidental women is different.

You can easily see this in Asian movies such as Hero with Jet Li, or The curse of the Golden Flower with Chow Yun Fat.

I’ll throw out a few examples, and let me know if there’s anything in particular you’d like to know about.

* let’s say you’ve approached a girl in a bar and have gone over the opener.

In the West, approaching a girl is not that much of a deal, and doesn’t generate enough attraction on it’s own.

In the East, it’s very rare to see guys approach girls. In fact, only us Westerners do it in the daytime. This causes you to have to re-calibrate, and be careful about not shying her away, because she will feel self-conscious.

* Let’s say you are talking to a girl in a bar who is with her friends. She likes you, it’s painfully obvious. Her friends come, but they see you going well with their friend.

In the West, your target is more than likely to stay talking to you, and her friends are more than likely to let you guys do your thing, unless they can tell that she’s not having a good time.

In the East, your target is more than likely to notice her friends in their own group, and feeling like she’s going against her group, she will excuse herself in spite of liking you.

* Let’s say you’re building comfort

In the West, girls tend to talk about a variety of things, and have many different goals and stories that they are more than willing to go into.

In the East, you begin noticing certain common patterns on what they want, and say they want, or just say, and they keep it short. Sometimes, it’s like sarging the same person over, and over again. Neutral

Now let’s talk some about Korean women.

What can I say? I love them. It’s not just their looks that
get me going, but also their personalities.  They are reputed for being the prettiest women in the world, and I can’t agree more. Sure, Japanese women put more make up, and being a foreigner with Chinese women has more pull, but Korean women are still my favorite.

Take it from me, I am speaking from my personal
experience: In general, they’re fun, energetic, CARING -
I used to have pleasant surprises on my birthday: all my
girls used to bring me gifts including wine and
champagne, not to mention the massages and of course,
good ol’ fun sex.

I really want you guys also to experience similar
situations – I want to be lying on a beach with my girl,
watching you guys having a blast with yours.
On the other hand, Koreans can be quite bratty (you’ll
come to love this though, or get tired of it), whiny,
and if you don’t own the context of the relationship, they
will own your wallet AND your time.

This is because they have what’s known as the ‘공주병’ which stands for ‘princess disease’. In general, they act whiny and bratty when they don’t get when they want, and some of them use their whining like kids to get men to bend to their will (and I recommend staying away from these ones).

What you need to understand, however, is that unlike Japan or China, being a foreigner in Korea is something ‘cool’ but something ‘different’.  You won’t get bonus points for being a foreigner. In fact, it can be a lot harder for you because Korean girls will shy away at not being able to communicate.

On the other hand, Korean women are the best at speaking English in North-East Asia, aside for Hong Kong.  English is so popular here that you can tease them for NOT speaking it!

All in all,  living and dating in Korea has taught me a lot about women and myself.  I love being surrounded by them, and wish the same for you.

Until then, have fun!

BlueM

–To see more of BlueM check out his blog. He also has a book on dating Korean Women.

The cool thing about Florianopolis is that it’s a rich resort. Tons of people speak English so I haven’t had to deal with as many frustrations as I did with the rest of South America. Although I’ve been told that the girls here weren’t as friendly as other parts of Brasil. Not sure how true this is because damn near every set I’ve opened has been warm and friendly. If the girls are friendlier elsewhere then I imagine they’d take you in, feed you dinner, then blow you under the table (Hmm…I have heard of those places here.)

Anyhoot…

I was at the bus stop with my wing, Brasil Pirate, when I saw a petite, black chick with curly hair standing by herself. I asked her what time it was and she told me…in perfect English! “Oh! You speak English!” I said. She said you had spend time in the US and many other countries. I told her about my South American travels and joked about how I was surfing on the sidewalk because there’s been so much rain here lately. Then I asked her where she has traveled. America, Germany…and China! “Do you speak Chinese?” I inquired. Then I started speaking to her in Chinese. To my surprise she replied back and we had a full conversation in Chinese. Having commonalities like this is fucking killer.

Soon the bus same and we both got on. We stand up and continue our conversation. A good sign since there was an empty chair for her to sit next in. I told her it was cool if she said but she insisted on standing. I told her about how my love for foreign places started when I moved out of America when I was 12. She told me she was born in Brasil and left for Germany when she was three years old. After that she moved to China.

“I bet you’re going to meet a Brasilian guy and had 20 Brasilian children…all of whom will be boys. You’ll have your own Brasilian soccer team!” She laughed and said she rather move to China and meet a
Chinese guy. SCORE!

Then I ran the cube on her. She was really into it and closed her eyes to visualize. I got to the flowers when the bus got to my stop. “Damn, looks like I can’t finish the test.” Brasil chick looked really disappointed. That’s when Pirate informed me that we were getting off on another stop. Cool. False take away.

I finish the Cube and asked her if she really wants to know the results. She was practically begging me to know the meaning. I tell her, being sure to ask questions to draw out the conversation longer.  Then I number close and ask her where she’s staying. Same area as me. Logistics. Check. We end up getting off at the same stop.

As we were about to part, I could see her giving me the doggy dinner bowl eyes and she said she would call me.

The next night I give her a call. Turns out she lives about a 20 minute walk to me but agrees to walk to my location. I see her and immediately pick up her and spin her in circles then carried her across the street.  After I put her down, I run the trust test and say good when she follows my movements.

We sit at a park bench and I tell her about my family. She tells me a bit about her daughter. Now I know she fucks. I start to wonder how old she is and joke about how she’s probably only 16. Ahh, she’s 25. Then I bounce to a bar. Brasil girl is worried and says beer is expensive. Don’t worry babe, I’ll take care of it. At the bar my hero story comes out and I saw she was touched by it.

I find out she lives with her sister and brother in law. Big sister is pretty conservative and my girl has a curfew. Alright, gotta wrap this one up quick. I seed in taking a walk on the beach and we leave. As we walk she tells me how she plans to move out with a couple of gay guys. Perfect time to tell my non-judgmental story about stumbling into a gay bar (Why do all the guys have their shirts off?) and hooking two guys up.

She grabs my hand and I know it’s on. I stop, give her laser guys, pull her in and we kiss. I toss her off of me and say that’s enough. Then push her against a wall and make out some more. Just to be safe I run Strawberry Fields. Then seed in pictures at my place.

Pull her into the pad, show pictures, make out some more, and carry her into my bedroom.