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I’ve been talking to a few people from around the world, and we were debating about whether or not Korean women, are different than women from anywhere else around the world.

First, I talk about the differences between the East and the West.  Having lived, met and dated women in both parts of the world, I can share with you some of the differences in both history, culture and dating expectations.

In the West, we are taught to stand up for ourselves and be seen an individual. In the Orient, the saying goes that “if a nail stands up, it will be hammered down”. If you read the book Geography of Thought by Professor Nisbett , you will learn about this in depth. This difference in paradigm is the core of why gaming Oriental vs Occidental women is different.

You can easily see this in Asian movies such as Hero with Jet Li, or The curse of the Golden Flower with Chow Yun Fat.

I’ll throw out a few examples, and let me know if there’s anything in particular you’d like to know about.

* let’s say you’ve approached a girl in a bar and have gone over the opener.

In the West, approaching a girl is not that much of a deal, and doesn’t generate enough attraction on it’s own.

In the East, it’s very rare to see guys approach girls. In fact, only us Westerners do it in the daytime. This causes you to have to re-calibrate, and be careful about not shying her away, because she will feel self-conscious.

* Let’s say you are talking to a girl in a bar who is with her friends. She likes you, it’s painfully obvious. Her friends come, but they see you going well with their friend.

In the West, your target is more than likely to stay talking to you, and her friends are more than likely to let you guys do your thing, unless they can tell that she’s not having a good time.

In the East, your target is more than likely to notice her friends in their own group, and feeling like she’s going against her group, she will excuse herself in spite of liking you.

* Let’s say you’re building comfort

In the West, girls tend to talk about a variety of things, and have many different goals and stories that they are more than willing to go into.

In the East, you begin noticing certain common patterns on what they want, and say they want, or just say, and they keep it short. Sometimes, it’s like sarging the same person over, and over again. Neutral

Now let’s talk some about Korean women.

What can I say? I love them. It’s not just their looks that
get me going, but also their personalities.  They are reputed for being the prettiest women in the world, and I can’t agree more. Sure, Japanese women put more make up, and being a foreigner with Chinese women has more pull, but Korean women are still my favorite.

Take it from me, I am speaking from my personal
experience: In general, they’re fun, energetic, CARING -
I used to have pleasant surprises on my birthday: all my
girls used to bring me gifts including wine and
champagne, not to mention the massages and of course,
good ol’ fun sex.

I really want you guys also to experience similar
situations – I want to be lying on a beach with my girl,
watching you guys having a blast with yours.
On the other hand, Koreans can be quite bratty (you’ll
come to love this though, or get tired of it), whiny,
and if you don’t own the context of the relationship, they
will own your wallet AND your time.

This is because they have what’s known as the ‘공주병’ which stands for ‘princess disease’. In general, they act whiny and bratty when they don’t get when they want, and some of them use their whining like kids to get men to bend to their will (and I recommend staying away from these ones).

What you need to understand, however, is that unlike Japan or China, being a foreigner in Korea is something ‘cool’ but something ‘different’.  You won’t get bonus points for being a foreigner. In fact, it can be a lot harder for you because Korean girls will shy away at not being able to communicate.

On the other hand, Korean women are the best at speaking English in North-East Asia, aside for Hong Kong.  English is so popular here that you can tease them for NOT speaking it!

All in all,  living and dating in Korea has taught me a lot about women and myself.  I love being surrounded by them, and wish the same for you.

Until then, have fun!

BlueM

–To see more of BlueM check out his blog. He also has a book on dating Korean Women.

See more of them here and you can find bootcamp information if you are in Asia and are interested here

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They also have a forum which is free to join

Before I walk into the coffee shop, I see two Asian looking girls. You know what I am thinking in the back of my mind… ” Are they Korean?” I grab my coffee and I head over in their direction. I hear them speaking and I know they are speaking Korean.

Me: Are you speaking Korean? (Thinking they only spoke English maybe a little Spanish…)
Her: Si… Then starts speaking to me in Spanish…

This was a two set. I knew right away who my target was. I made sure to talk to the friend more and sat down next to them after opening them and talking for a bit. But I can tell you this, the set HOOKED… They said “You are the only person to ever speak to us in Korean.” And they kept asking me questions about Korea, instant IOI’s etc….

Then, I asked my target in Korean if she could cook… (thanks BlueMystery) They can cook and they actually offered to cook Korean food for me at their place (Day 2.) I made sure to run some light kino on my target I sat next to her and threw out future projections for meeting up. Made sure to qualify as well… They left me their contact info and asked me for my number.

As they were about to leave, I spun them and gave them a kiss on the cheek. My target is 30 and very interested in Latin culture… Keep you posted…

I hope you guys enjoy this special interview. I have gotten a chance to interview one of the top PUA’S  in Japan known as RedpoleQ. He is a personal friend of mine. We will be working together on some projects in the future as well.

Basic Questions
1) How did you get into pickup?

We offer 3 day boot camps that run over 25 hours.  Only about 5 hours of that is spent in seminar time while the other 20+ is spent in set, getting as much experience as possible under coaching. We have the Sexual Mastery Seminar which is really popular as well and focuses on developing sexual confidence–having the skills to be able to please any woman, and being able to live out your sexual fantasies. I just put out a 40-minute audio, called “Debunking 7 PickUp Myths” that does just that by discussing some of the big controversies in the pickup community like that around “natural game”, “negs”, and indirect vs. direct openers.  You can find it a www.redpoleq.com

I got into pickup by desperately needing it, and through my desperation, I found a website called ‘www.pickupguide.com‘.

I believe that the masculine and the feminine are both thrown into this ‘dating game’ by the gods with different advantages and disadvantages, and in the end want to share deeply intimate moments with each other.

I started with the end in mind.  I knew that I wanted to be an authority in dating in Asia, and so I decided to go to Korea and build my vision from the first step ‘going to Asia’. From there, I realized that I needed three things to build my skills:  Experience, support and mentorship.  I gained experience by going out regularly, support by going out with wings from the KoreaLair and mentorship from PickupAsia.  The recipe was designed for me to succeed.   Then my first niche became being successful with Korean women in their culture, and currently I’m the only PUA who is an authority in Korea.

The biggest mistake I see guys make is not take enough risks.  Guys make the mistake of either not going to talk to the woman, or not ‘pulling the trigger’ when it comes to sex, when clearly the women want them to.  In other words, the biggest mistake that men make is thinking that women will act like men when it comes to dating and lead the interaction. Men need to understand that they need to lead, and women will give them the feedback they need to take the interaction where it needs to go, just like driving a car from point A to point B.

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

First of all, I want your readers to know that finding a “quality girlfriend” isn’t the only ultimate goal that Pickup can offer you, or the only goal that any student of Pickup should shoot for.  To answer your question, there must be some groundwork set up.  A man must both know what qualities a woman has to be his quality girlfriend, and that he is worthy of such a woman.  Once a man knows that, he can get an idea of where to find her and what she’ll be like.  So for example, if guy#1 likes a woman who exercises a lot, and is studious, he has the best chances of meeting her at a University gym.  If guy#2 likes a woman who is extravagant and gorgeous then he can meet her in clubs.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

Build it with the endgoal in mind.  I wanted a social circle that would allow me to accomplish my goals of being a Pickup master, businessman, teacher and lover.  Currently, my social circle involves Pickup Masters, Business Mentors, fellow PUAs, and my women.   To build a social circle, learn to cultivate value and give it to the people you want to attract into your social circle.  The next step would be to become a social node, where you make yourself the person to talk to when your social circle wants something of valuable.

When I wasn’t good with women, I lived with a little demon by my side, that would torture me daily.  The demon was the knowledge of knowing that I didn’t have any sexual partners in my life, and that I didn’t know how to bring any into it.  Nowadays, I’ve finally put that demon to rest and can confidently move into other projects, such as teaching men how to get good with women.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

One technique I learned from RedpoleQ (www.redpoleQ.com) with PickupAsia is the “D-move”.  It involves taking the girls hand and putting it on your cock.  Yes, it’s very direct. Yes, it’s very sexual. The woman has no doubts of your intentions, and now knows that it’s time for her to step up to the plate as she’s with a man who knows what he wants, or go home.

Yes I do.  Props are non-verbal ways of showing women who you are and what you’re about.  My props evolve around the theme of travelling and learning about cultures, as does my game BECAUSE my quality girl is into those things.  What gets me the most reactions are women who are into traveling and cultures.

10) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

Kid44  (www.PickupAsia.com)  I’m fortunate enough to have him in my social circle, and have been able to learn from him.  He taught me a lot non-verbally as well as verbally. Him and RedpoleQ have really taught me about giving a lot of value to people, and how to teach PickUp as well as business ethics.

11) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

For me, I always needed to work on that part of my life. I never believed that some had “it” and some didn’t. It wasn’t until the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back” was when I was in love with a girl I didn’t want to be, and when I saw her with another guy yet she knew how I felt about her.

Dream big, and start small. Have a vision of what you want firmly in your mind and make sure it moves you. Whether it be to get out of a depression you’re dealing with for being lonely, or wanting to be as famous as Mystery, or being able to “just know” that you can get girls.  Then be sure to start with small goals at first, such as the “newbie missions”, joining a Lair or a forum such as www.pickupasiaforum.com WITH THE GOAL of finding wingmen and mentors.  If you really want to invest in yourself and cut down the time it takes to improve, definitely consider taking a bootcamp. If you’re in Asia, I strongly recommend the people I took a bootcamp from: PickupAsia (www.pickupasia.com)

13) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

In my opinion, being able to generate ‘attraction’ is overrated.  The fact is that it doesn’t take much for a woman to be attracted to you. the biggest issue is guys not believing that they are worthy of a woman’s attraction, not to mention sexual lust, and being able to move on in the process of going from ‘meet to sex’.

14) What are you goals for the community? Your life?

My goals with it the community is to build it in Asia, and see that it’s helping people on this side of the world.  For my life, my goal is to attract better experiences in my life, including women, health and wealth, and I wish the same for everyone else.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to Korea/Japan/etc?

I chose Korea because of my personal fascination with it. Ever since I was a child I was involved with Korean culture through Taekwondo and loved it.  I’m also in love with Asian women, specifically Korean at this point in my life.

The clients who have been most successful with what I and fellow partners have to offer are those that learned from us and went out regularly to implement what we had to teach while coming back to us for support.  In other words, the successful ones are those who took action.

One student that comes to mind read my e-book and then took a bootcamp with PickupAsia but most importantly, he’s going out in the field and practicing what he’s paid good money to learn and has gotten some impressive results:  He went from powerlessness with respect to women, to having had sex after a bit more one month, and still making progress.

3) Why did you choose the name _BlueMystery__?
It’s really silly lol.  I chose ‘Blue’ because my favorite band at the time was, and is “Deepest Blue” (I recommend listening to them on Youtube) and ‘Mystery’ because at the time, I was using ‘mystery’ as a main tool to picking up women.  Now it’s changed and I love being open to the women I’m talking to.

4) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

My focus is specifically on Korean women and culture at this time.  PickupAsia and I are currently working on helping Foreign and Asian men have amazing relationships in Asia and with Asian women as we currently help men in both Korea and Japan.  Soon we will be able to help men in Australia, China, Taiwan and more.

5) Your known as a(n) expert in Korea in the community. How do you respond to that?
I appreciate what the community has done for me, and will always consider myself to be a brother of that group. It has helped me and I’m honored to help it back.