You got the number! But don't blow your load yet, you still got work to do.
I go in to the bar, greet my friends, and start scoping around for the sets I want to open. Then there she is: wearing the tight pink shirt revealing her curves and generous cleavage. I smile and approach as she gazes over me like some cosmic energy is calling her and directing her attention my way.
Open then qualify and build comfort. My game is tight and shit is going well!
But you just get a random call that your dog is on fire or some other bullshit while you’re thinking: WHY NOW?! Suddenly you have to close fast. Such is life: so full of mysteries and bad timings. Time bridge and number close, this shit is going down! But not tonight. Damn.
This brings us to the point of this post. When do I call her again?
Well… the myth states that you call her about 2 or more days upon your initial meet so you don’t convey too much interest, like some stalker pervert. But forget that. Throw that belief out the window and throw yourself out that window as well if you can’t bring yourself to call her.
The first thing you should do is text her as you leave your venue. Comment on something you noticed about her. Something like this:
“Hey I noticed your shoes and it looks very nice on you. Great fashion sense! I’ll see you Saturday.”
Another thing to try is to take her phone and you give her your phone. After you punch in your number on her phone for the number close you make the call. Get her to pick-up the call on your phone and toss in some witty comment. You smile then when she smiles back at you, you win. This scenario gets her comfortable talking on the phone with you.
I have personally found that women do not receive negative vibes when I break the 2 days rule. In fact, I get the opposite reaction. Women are more keen to show up day 2s than they are to flake. There are instances where the women initiate the conversations on day 2s about the warm and fuzzy feeling they had when I noticed minor details upon the initial meet. I have also experienced immediate responses back where the conversation continues throughout my whole day via texts.
Don’t be shy about talking to her earlier than the 2 days garbage rule. If any longer she might forget your sorry ass.
Good timing with this. I just returned from my time in Medellin, and # closed a sexy Bolivian girl at a salsa club last Friday night. I sent a post-venue text – no response. I gave her a call Sunday evening to invite her out (left vm) – no response. Now I’m thinking wait a week before trying her again, in case I bump into her at the same salsa club this weekend (I can gauge her reaction).
Any advice for where this is headed? What’s worse for me than the first call is trying to figure out when to make a follow-up. Right now, it doesn’t look good.
From my experience it doesn’t sound too good. It’s basically a fact of life that chicks flake. You can have the best set in the world and girls will still flake. You already send a text so the ball is in her court. If you keep texting or phoning then it reinforces a loser frame.
Go out and sarge more. There’s a couple of things that can help reduce your flake ratio. Try doing some more DHVs like The Cube and Strawberry Fields. Leave some open loops so she’ll be curious to see you again. Stuff like “There’s something about you that…no nevermind…I shouldn’t say it”. Wave the bone in front of her but never let her have it. It’ll drive her crazy. Also, instead of having a date with just the two of you, have some big group thing so there’s less pressure.
It’s just as Bolo said.
I personally think its time to move on. Delete her number and forget her. It should be a privilege to be with you. If she is not picking up her phone, there are plenty others better that are wanting to be with you.