1. Set a goal- My goal the first few weeks sarging in Taipei was to open 30 sets. I wrote that down as my target and I kept to it. Whatever goal that you set try to do it everyday. I’m now going on nearly a month in Taipei and have since lowered my goal to about 20 sets based on some adjustments I made to my game. We’re always tweaking our goals so don’t feel bad about changing them.

2. Are you seeing other women?- This is something I have faced this year. Since I am out approaching women on a daily basis, I have been asked by women “Are you seeing other girls?” I told a girl that I already closed “Yes.” And then she flipped out. I sought out advice from RedpoleQ who mentioned that in Asia it’s okay to be vague. Kane Vast added that you could tell stories about “How you shouldn’t make rules in a relationship” this could be done earlier in the sarge to prevent this question from popping up. Vitality, added that it’s okay to tell girls “I’m out with a friend” or “I’m having dinner with a friend.” So don’t be explicit because it could have the girl storming out of your place.

3. Logistics are everything- Always make sure your logistics are tight. What do I mean by tight logistics? Are you staying at your Mom’s house? Do you have a place you can bring girls back to? Square away your logistics before you even start sarging trust me. It can make or break your game! In Taipei, they have DVD rooms or motels. If you guys want, I can provide some of these on here for those going to Taipei.

4. Don’t be afraid to text girls a lot. I used to think that sending out a lot of text messages to girls came off as needy. In 2012, I have noticed that I have not come off as needy by sending out lots of fun and interesting text messages to girls. They seem to value the messages I send. I make sure that my texts add value. I might bring up something that we talked about that day or something that I genuinely like about the girl.

5. Get a counter. If you’re going to be out opening lots of sets, you should invest in a counter. They aren’t expensive at all and it helps you tally your sets as you open. If you have that target of 20 sets, you will be better able to keep track of it with your counter. Keep a notebook to log the number closes that you get and remember to write down observations that you made during the sarge. This could be her hair style, dress style, or something interesting that she did.

6. Getting back to the basics- I’m going to make another post in the future about the fundamentals of game, but in 2012 I’ve been getting back to the basics. That means writing field reports and using stories and games to make my sarges more effective. I like to relate pick up to basketball and good basketball players know the basics and stick to them.

These are a few things that have improve my game in 2012. I will continue to go out there and sarge and share my insights in 2012.

LS

As the New Year comes, I have some big plans in store for the 2012 year. I want to travel to many more countries, and update on my adventures there. I don’t want this to be just another “pua” blog. I would like to incorporate food and culture into the blog, and that is what I will be working on this year as I travel to new countries. I am wishing all of you a Merry Christmas and I look forward to making some posts next year. It will be good to start writing again.

Take Care All,

LS

Hey guys.

We’ve been getting a ton of comments about our Achilles interview. In fact, one of our friends got his first ever close after simply listening to it! He took Achilles advice to talk to every hot girl you see, no matter if you’re sarging or not. And what do you know!

Now Arash Is Having A Bootcamp With Matador Of Venusian Arts Fame On Novemeber 11 – 12!

Matador is a legend in The Game, having taught thousands of bootcamps all over the world and being a personal wing of Mystery since the beginning.

After watching The Pickup Artist on VH1, Achilles seeked out Mystery. So impressed was Mystery of Arash that he decided to introduce him to Matador. That’s now Achilles became Matador’s personal wings. And a legend was born.

Fuck! If I was anywhere near San Fran I’d take this bootcamp in a second.

However, As You Know From  Our Interview, Achilles Is Very Picky With What Students He Teaches. Punk Ass Bitches Need Not Apply.

He needs someone who has heart. Who’ll see their way through no matter what it takes.

Think you got what it takes?  Check out the youtube video above and then send an email to Arash at contact@seductiveinstinct.com for consideration.

While Gambler and AFC Adam may be some of the best pickup artists in the world, they can not out-game the people of PUA Training Korea for one reason: PUA Training Korea are more familiar with Korean culture, and thus, understand Korean women better than anyone else.

This boot camp will not teach any canned routines, and instead, will focus more on teaching natural game, teaching a man how to teach his own natural charm instead of acting like someone he’s not. Each trainee will be paired with a trainer who speaks fluent English. This trainer will be one who’s character is most compatible with that of the trainee. There will hours of theory sessions, teaching a person how to show their attractive qualities. This will be followed by intense field training. This field training will include day game in the coffee shops, bookstores, and streets while night game will be in the clubs, in which the trainees will be given VIP access.

After the training, the trainee may call his trainer to wing with him. This service will be free for the first three times during the first two months after the training. He will wing with you, hook you up with girls, and give you feedback on your performance.

This bootcamp by PUA Training Korea, which is normally 1,180,000 won for Koreans, will only cost 800,000 won for foreigners. You can apply by writing an email to info@puatkorea.com. Tell them you’re interested in the boot camp, and write a bit about yourself, dating experiences, level of pickup skill, weaknesses and strengths of character, and motivation for doing this bootcamp.

Woo! Latinstylez.com’s first ever video interview!

We got to speak with Arash Dibazar (aka. Achilles) of SeductiveInstinct.com. This guy has a lot to say and you’ll watch a few gems in this interview.

Bolo:  Alright guys. This is Bolo from Latinstylez.com with my friend Arash, who’s currently… Uh, where you at?

Arash:  I’m in San José, California baby!

Bolo:  He’s in San Josey.  [LAUGHS] Arash is also known as Achilles from The Game. And he’s an up and coming PUA. And it’s a privilege to talk to you Arash.

Arash:  Thank you for having me. And uh, I’m glad to be alive.  Let’s go.

Bolo:  Alright, cool. Alright, first question. Most people don’t know that much about you.  You’re coming up.  And I’m just curious. Like, how did you get into The Game? How did you get into Pick Up?

Arash:  It’s a long story.  Let’s make it short. Well, I grew up and when I was six years old I had to leave my country which was Iran. And between the age of 6 and 11, I lived in Iran. I live in Turkey, in Syria, in Kuwait, in London, and Nebraska, and California.  In about 5 years I moved that much.  And uh, naturally, when I got to the United States, I wanted, you know, I started liking girls. And I wanted to have beautiful girls around me. And I liked the white, pretty cheerleader type. But they weren’t going to talk to me because I was a complete, just culture shock. You know what I mean? Like, everything was wrong about me at the time.

Arash:  So anyways, I got into the martial arts at a very young age. And I was interested in two things. One – how to defend myself. Two – how to get chicks. Which is survival and replication value, if you know anything about it now, right? So I spent all my life, every moment I could get my hands on, studying something about the mind, whether it was NLP, hypnosis, Dianetics. Anything you could think about. And martial arts. Because, one, I was getting beat up in school. So I had to learn how to defend myself. And two, I wanted the girls and nobody wanted to talk to me. Not the girls, not the boys.

Arash:  Until about two and a half years ago, I came across Mystery. It’s a really cool story how that happened. And, whatever, we got to talking and I became his student. And Matador, if you know who he is, James Matador, ended up becoming my personal mentor. And now I am a mother fucking beast. Beep. You know, without [INAUDIBLE], but we do cuss in California, San Jose.

Bolo:  Alright. That’s fine. You can cuss as much as you want here.

Arash:  Okay.

Bolo:  Alright. So how long have you been doing Pick Up for? Like 2, 3 years or something.

Arash:  About 2 and a half. Two years and four months, learning game. But prior to that, everything I studied, I tried to apply to picking up girls. I just didn’t have a structure or anything. So I was successful getting chicks but I didn’t know there was a group of Pick Up Artist. A community that was working at it. I understood that there was such a thing called Game. Being taught at two years and three months ago.

Bolo:  Interesting. So you use to be a dork and everything and you didn’t get any chicks. What’s your life like right now?

Arash:  [LAUGHS] Well, I did get chicks because at some point I achieved high status in the martial arts. And I was really bold and I, you know, I was the shit. So I would get girls, but it was so direct. And it was, again, lucky. But I would go after the hottest chicks. So I got girls after a certain point. When I was around, I think, 18 was when I got my really hot girlfriend and then it just moved forward.

Arash:  I’m 34 right now. But the difference is, the life that I live now… I’ll be honest with you, if I explained it to you, it would be out of reality and it wouldn’t fit. So if you could take the book The Game and go to the end and watch Neil’s life and what happens to it, I could tell you that’s very real to me. You know, when I first met Matador, after the first night he said to me, “Arash, you could live like a rock star. You could have so many women in your life that you won’t have time for them. And you wouldn’t know what to do. And that is what I have right now in my life. And I have a current, I have a girlfriend also.

Bolo:  Really nice dude. And it only took you two and a half years to get there?

Arash:  Yeah. It’s still a journey. I’m still evolving man. My game is still tightening up and I don’t think it’ll ever end. Just like martial arts. But it’s pretty high level. It really is. You ask some of the people who have seen me do stuff or talk to people who I have taught, who have been taught by the best in the world, and they’ll tell you I’m better than everybody right now. And I know that to be true.

Bolo:  Very nice. I’m curious, like, about your style. Like, do you have a dating philosophy? You know, like in the community, there’s all these different styles. Direct, indirect. You follow Mystery Method or what?

Arash:  Mystery’s my original teacher. And his method is the base for everything. I believe who is very successful at Pick Up has that as a base. So, my style is my style now. But it has Mystery Method as a base, for sure. Does that answer your question?

Bolo:  Yeah. Yeah, it does. Okay. That’s cool. Now, I’m curious, how did you become good enough at dating to become an authority at it?

Arash:  An authority is somebody who can do the job. That’s an authority to me. You know what I mean? It’s not someone who has a certificate. It’s not someone who other people think knows. It’s the person who can do the job. I can do the job. I’m surrounded by 9s and 10s. Now, in the Bay area, people thought they knew what 9s and 10s were until I got into the Game. Now, the guys, the guys that are the legit Pick Up Artists and quote, are some saying, you hear them, they meet around, they say, “No, we don’t get girls like Arash does. Those are 9s and 10s.” So I’m an authority in quotes, first, because people listen. But more importantly because I can get the job done. I can take someone and teach them from zero to be able to get hot chicks. And I can demonstrate it in my life. I live a life of Pick Up. You know?

Bolo:  Very nice. Like, when you first started, I mean, were you just going out every single day or…

Arash:  No. Well, let me explain something else on that. I just popped in my mind. I think the moment that it became really clear to me that I was okay to teach was when I was out with Matador and he introduced me to Laurence Fishburne. I think he was the black actor from The Matrix.

Bolo:  Yeah. Yeah. Ne-, Morpheus. Yeah.

Arash:  That’s right. And he introduced me. He said, “This is my former student, Arash.” And he goes, “The reason I say former student is because he is a master of Pick Up.” And that was a big moment for me. And there was many conversations after that. So being acknowledged by him, bona fide like that, I was like, “Okay.” You know? And I know I can really change people’s lives. ‘Cause this shit is powerful dude. You know what I mean? It’s fucking powerful. You can change a person’s life. Completely turn it around. No matter what is going on in their live; men are struggling with women. And I’ve seen it.

Bolo:  That’s interesting.

Arash:  I missed the other question you said.

Bolo:  Yeah. Just… What was it? How did you get good enough to become a dating authority? How did you start out? Were you just going out a whole lot or…?

Arash:  I actually barely went to the clubs. On this, I was in LA visiting and I would go with Matador. But other than that, here, my game was created in a way where when I would go shopping I would game everybody there. I would go eat, I would game all the waitresses. Then I would go and, let’s say I’m working out, I would game everybody there. Wherever I was I would game. So, then I created this thing where, for me, game and life are the same. It’s a lifestyle. For me it’s not like, “Oh, now I’m gonna go to the club and game.” So you said, did I go out every night and game? I didn’t go out, but I gamed almost every moment when I was around a chick. Almost every moment. You know? It was unbelievable. So I got very good at it. And my hired gun game is pretty ridiculous. What I can…

Bolo:  Oh. Really nice. Like, do you teach boot camps or what exactly, what type of coaching do you do?

Arash:  Oh yeah. We do boot camps. We do Skype coaching. We do webinars. I have a boot camp coming up this weekend. We do one on ones. Man, you name. I’m just interested in creating the next generation of incredible Pick Up Artists. I benefit from that. It’s important to me.

Bolo:  Yeah. You’ve had a lot of students at this point, right?

Arash:  A lot, you know, is a relative term. No, I don’t think so. I’ve had students and they’ve been very successful. But I was very picky and I still am. I don’t teach everybody. There’s a lot of people that want to learn, but they don’t want to learn. You know what I mean? So I teach people, we go put them in the interview. We find out what they’re all about. If they have a passion for this. If they really want to do this. If they do, I meet with them. And I accept them as students and I change their life. And if again, if they’re not a good student while I’m teaching them, I actually will get rid of them. And I did that to four people.

Bolo:  You’re kidding.

Arash:  No, I can because my name is on it. It’s a brand. You know? I’m a brand name. I’ve done martial arts long enough. I have a very successful martial arts business. And this is now my business in Pick Up. And I want to have a brand. I want it to be, if you were trained by Arash, if you were trained by Achilles, if you’re from SeductiveInstinct.com, you are good. Or you’re on your way to being very good. I don’t want people to say, “I studied with him, but I don’t get any chicks.” No, no, no. Not me. So I’m very selective. The ones that don’t make it, I give them a few chances. You know, if they’re not doing their reading, if they’re not doing their practice, if they’re not showing up, they need to go somewhere else. I don’t care how much they pay. It’s just not the way that I do things.

Bolo:  Okay. Like, during the interview process, what are you looking for, like, in a prospective student?

Arash:  A few things. One is that they really have to want to make a change. They’re not just talking. You know what I mean? They have to have a passion for doing it. They have to be willing to go through rough times. It’s not roses man. Are you kidding me? It was difficult getting good. Very difficult. Thank God it was difficult because now if it wasn’t, everybody else would be running around getting chicks. I put in my time and my dues. So those are the basics. More than that. It’s a vibe, you know? Lucky, he does the interviews and I trust his judgment. So he does the interview and you’d ask him what he specifically goes for. What I look for in a student are those things. Passion. A person who’s willing to go through the ups and downs. And a person who really wants to make a change in their life. Then I’ll make it happen.

Bolo:  Sounds good dude. Now, what about the guys who don’t make it. The four guys you had to kick out? Like, what common traits do they have?

Arash:  Well, they can go fuck themselves as far as I’m concerned.

Bolo:  [LAUGHS]

Arash:  You know what I mean? Probably looking at the pictures of my girls online. But anyways, they, the traits they have is they don’t want to get better man. They don’t do it. You know, you have to take the next step. That’s it. You know? So if they don’t do their reading, if they don’t show up, if they don’t look like they really want to get better, they just want to sit around and talk about it. No dude. This is an action based activity. There’s theory and there’s application. You gotta put them together.

Arash:  There’s people that can sit there and talk all theory all the time. But they can’t demonstrate shit. On the other hand, there’s some guys that get chicks, but they don’t know any theory. So when they teach, there’s a guy, a joke, you know, he was like, you know, I did a seminar, and then he did one right after me and he was like, “Well, just go out there and be yourself. And just be ballsy and be confident.” I’m like, “Dude, you’re a joke. Get the fuck outta here.” You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  How are you going to teach someone that? That’s not game. That’s ridiculous. You’re the good looking guy. So he gets to do that. I wasn’t a good looking guy. I’m an interesting looking guy, I know. But I’m not a good looking guy.

Bolo:  Yeah dude. I know what you’re saying. It’s a little too, too much esoteric, you know, advice. Like, “Oh, be yourself. Grab your balls and just go.” You know?

Arash:  Yeah. Find out who you really are. It’s like, “Yo man. If I knew the answer I’d be Buddha right now.” You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah. [LAUGHS] Yeah dude.

Arash:  Don’t fucking go there. Give me some specific technique, like look over your shoulder, lean away, smile, tell them you gotta take off in a minute, and ask a neutral question. Those are techniques any person can apply. And that technique will improve their chances just by doing that, talking to a chick. And that was directly from the Mystery Method. An open.

Bolo:  Yeah. Now, what do you think the greatest mistake guys make with women is? Just like in sarging in general.

Arash:  They show too much interest too fast.

Bolo:  And what can they do to correct that?

Arash:  Well, keep doing it. Keep losing the chick. Keep doing it. Keep losing the chick. And then some point get sick of your sickness and say, “Fuck! What am I supposed to do?” At that moment, stop showing her so much interest. So she has to earn, she has to earn it from you. Honestly, that’s the very first thing I ever learned in game when I started studying it. That was the first thing. I applied it that night and it completely changed my experience with women. She has to earn you. You know?

Arash:  They demonstrate interest when they walk up. Already opening a girl you’re showing interest. So as quickly as you can you gotta calibrate and take that away as soon as possible. So she knows that okay, well, you were playing on level ground with her. Or even you gotta be higher really. You gotta have more value. So I think the biggest mistake is they show interest too quickly. The way they can correct is just recognize that’s not the way to get the girl man. It’s just not. I mean, where do you get that from? It’s not proven. It’s lucky. I don’t want to be, I don’t want to get lucky when I get chicks. I want to have skill. You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  It’s like do you want to be lucky if the parachute opened or do you want to know you fucking put that shit together. You know what I mean? And you put the parachute together. You check everything. And then you jump. Even then, some people’s chutes don’t open. Just like Pick Up. You could be a master Pick Up Artist. Sometimes you ain’t gonna get the chick dude. You gonna fuck up. Big deal. But you do all the pieces right and your chances are greatly improved. And you jump, still with adrenaline, but trusting your chute which is the game. Damn, that was…

Bolo:  Okay. [LAUGHS] Yeah, I’ve jumped out of a couple airplanes before and it helps to be prepared.

Arash:  Oh. Have you really jumped out?

Bolo:  Yeah. I’ve done AFF and Tandem. You do AFF by yourself , you go train for like 10 hours. Like, I had to go at 6 in the morning. Didn’t jump until like 6 in the afternoon.

Arash:  Wow.

Bolo:  It’s a fun time dude. You should give it a shot.

Arash:  I will never jump out of a plane unless it’s burning. Otherwise, I’m good. I’ll just take it from one place to the other.

Bolo:  Well, any tips or techniques you can give the guys? Like, any newbies listening here. Or any, like, you know, just any, anything that your particularly like to do.

Arash:  Yes. Yes, I have so many fucking hints and techniques and shit. So let me just go over a few basic ones. This goes, talk about for everybody, inner game is so important man. Inner… That’s what I had. That’s what… You asked me what made me so good. I had monster inner game. Monstrous. Because of martial arts and the study of the mind that I had all my mind been doing.

Arash:  So ,anyways, let’s get into this. Just like anything worth achieving, whether it’s a black belt in a legit martial arts or its surgeon, become a surgeon or anything legit, you have to put in your time.   And you gotta be willing to do what it takes and go through the hard times. So anybody picking up Pick Up for the first time should understand, you  know, you are going to get the chick one day. You’re totally going to get the chick one day, but you better be willing to go through some shit to get there. Like, really go through it. You gotta put yourself out there, so if you’re not willing have both sides of the coin, my teacher would say, Manu, that was his name, then you can’t have one or the other. You can’t just study game and go get all the hot chicks.

Arash:  The guys who are getting the supremely hot chicks using game, the way it’s taught, have put in their time. Personally, me, I’ve been picked out of two restaurants in San José because I was miscalibrated. Manager came up, “Sir. You’re going to have to leave.” And it’s fucked up. It’s an uncomfortable, uncomfortable experience. That’s the least of it man. I’ve got story after story of shit I’ve done. Boyfriends threatening me. Husbands threaten to kill me. It’s, like, fucked up.

Arash:  But now I’m at a point where it’s rare to get any reaction like that. So the advice is to recognize what you’re getting into, but it’s worth it. If it’s worth it for you to be able to get super-hot chicks and handle this part of your life once and for all. Once and for all, where you just know you have some skill. Then do it. For more advanced Pick Up Artists, I tell you this, straight up, if you have not studied and understood the Mystery Method, you’re missing out. And I guarantee you’re not as good as you could be. I guarantee you’re not as good as you could be, okay? You gotta study it and understand it, even if you’re good.

Arash:  I have Pick Up Artist here who are already good. And now they’re all going back and their game is tremendously improving. Because it’s scientific method. It has a structure where you can always find out where you are if you’re fucking up. It’s incredible. That’s for the people that have been studying game and maybe haven’t had the experience of the Mystery Method done correctly. A lot of people talk about it. They can’t demonstrate it, right? Find a good teacher. And thirdly, for people who have and they’re still struggling, you need to find a good teacher. You got to find a good teacher. How many good teachers do I know? I know four. You and Mystery and you know Matador. ‘Kay? The other two? Don’t worry about it. [LAUGH]

Bolo: [LAUGH]

Arash:  Legit, legit teachers. You would never in the field of martial arts, if your life is on the line, if someone’s gonna knock you out or break your limb or choke you out, you’re not going to go to some shmoe who hasn’t demonstrated his skills before. Doesn’t matter how many certificates he has. No matter what kind of website he has. You need to find a legit teacher who can teach and has already demonstrated who he is.

Arash:  That’s why it’s important for me to have a family tree. Mystery taught Matador. Matador, Arash. Good. We can trace that shit. I didn’t come out of nowhere, right? And if you call him up or if you see Matador, you say, “What do you think of Arash’s game?” He’ll tell you. It’s the way it is. That’s life, right? So for everybody else who’s been studying, maybe stuck somewhere, find a real teacher who can help you. Period. Simple. Done.

Bolo: Oh, very… Yeah dude. Very nice. Like, you seem to live a really kick ass life. You’re an accomplished martial artist. You met all these famous guys. You met Mystery. You met Matador.

Arash:  Ross Jefferies.

Bolo: You met Ross Jefferies before. Manu. I looked up his stuff on youtube. He was on the A-Team!

Arash:  Yeah. Manu was incred-. Man. Yeah, I’ll talk all day about Manu. But yes, he was my original teacher. Everything I can do is because of him as a base I have. Manu Tupou.

Bolo: Like, I’m curious. How did you build up this lifestyle. How did you meet all these people?

Arash:  That I still… Hey. Your voice, by the way, is really faded. So if you could fix it ‘cause I’m trying to desperately hear you, right now.

Bolo:  Can you hear me?

Arash:  That’s better.

Bolo:  Alright. I’ll just have to hold up my mike up like this. Alright, so yeah. How did you meet all these guys?

Arash:  I really can’t answer that with a fact because I thought about that question all my life. I don’t know. I don’t know. I do know when I met them , I instinctively knew how to act. And they saw something in me that they appreciated. And I dedicated, like, really dedicated myself to these teachers. I really did.

Arash:  Right now I’m doing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu with them, one of the best Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu masters in the world. And I’ve dedicated my whole life to the guy, you know? For the last 10 years I’ve been studying with him. September is 10 years. That’s, I love that. I love being a good student. You know? So, I don’t know how I met them. I really don’t know. If you try to work out the math of it, it’s impossible. So, I can’t figure out how I met them, but after I did I knew what to do.

Bolo:  Like, I’m sure a lot of these people, like, they have students all on them. Wanting to be, you know, their students personally. Like, what do you think separate you from the other guys?

Arash:  You gotta ask them that question. I can only guess. You know what I mean? I know my qualities, that if I was, you know, I am a teacher. As a teacher, I would see this sincere determination, desire and passion of this person to really learn and give proper acknowledgement to that teacher. That’s very important. That’s why I keep dropping Matador’s name or Mystery’s name because, and even Manu who’s passed away 7 years ago. That’s important to me.

Arash:  People have lost that tradition. You have to give respect to the people who came before you. There’s people who have said to me,” Man, your game is so great.” You know, it’s better than so-and-so. I say, “Listen. I don’t even compare myself to Matador. I don’t even compare myself to Mystery. I would be foolish. I don’t even… Who cares? Who cares?” Without them, there would be no me. So let’s just get that straight. Right? But it’s this Western mentality of, like, step over everybody. Get to the top and blah blah blah. And be the best. Shut the fuck up. You know? So, I don’t know. Maybe that’s what they saw. I don’t know. You would have to ask them. I think I would see this in myself. A guy who knows that he’s going to do whatever it takes to be the best.

Bolo:  Very nice. Alright. I looked up some of your videos on YouTube, you know? And are you, like, a club promoter?

Arash:  No, I’m not. I’m not. I actually use the game to create a lifestyle of a rock star. I want to be on the stage. I want to have a mike. I want to have girls around me. I want to perform. But I don’t have a voice. Besides what you hear. I can’t sing worth shit. So , it’s my secret how I did it. But I used game to position myself where I’m at now. I do shows. I get hired as an artist to go into a club and put on a show. A promoter is someone who promotes people to go to the club and get paids off of it. I get hired by the club as an outside. I go in. I do a show and I leave. That’s what I…

Bolo:  Okay. Can you drop any hints if one of the guys wants to do something similar?

Arash:  Absolutely. Hints are this. First of all, I have skills. You know? I’m on stage. I’m capable because of Manu. I’m a theater, master of theater. I know what I’m doing. And so you have to have something, right? So I can produce. I can produce a show. I can direct and produce shit. So that’s what I have. But the big hint in regards to game is if you have beautiful women around you, enough of them, it opens many, many doors for you. And I knew that. So I knew that having that, I could open doors. And I did.

Bolo:  Okay. So, like, social circle.

Arash:  You better believe it man. You wouldn’t believe my life. You should add me on Facebook. You literally… I tell you. I bet you there’s nobody else, nobody else in the world that we know that has a Facebook like me unless it’s Hugh Hefner. There’s nobody surrounded… Because even the celebrities bro, they get chicks, but they don’t have them in their social circle the way I have them. You gotta believe… We’ll you’ll see it for yourself.

Bolo: Okay. I saw your Facebook. You do… I saw, like, I think your Picasa web photos. Yeah, I can attest to what you’re saying.

Arash:  That’s my life. That’s what I do.

Bolo: Like, how did you build up your social circle? How do you get that many females around you?

Arash:  By having very tight, meticulous game. Very tight game. That’s it. Because…

Bolo: It all just goes back to game.

Arash:  If you know the structure of the Mystery Method , there’s comfort in the middle, C2 is deep comfort and connection. If you have a comfort and connection with a beau-… And I just did it with the 9s and 10s. Now, just like that, every relationship will end eventually. You gotta know how to end it. So girls will come and go. But the core group keeps getting stronger and stronger.

Arash:  My vision is to one day have, be the guy who establishes what is sexy in our current culture because of the way I look and who I am, I’m a rebel. You see how I look. And my girls are the new playmates. They’re the new, you know what I mean, the new Playboy Playmates. They’re the IMC Sinful Angels. That’s who we are. And you’ll see this. ‘Cause it is in our area, we’re known as the hottest girls in the Bay Area our under Arash. So now all we gotta do is get the word out to bigger than Bay Area. And it’s happening already. You know?

Bolo:  Very nice. Like, I’m curious though. What do you think is your biggest sticking point right now?

Arash:  Hmm… Good question. At the moment, I haven’t… My confidence has not caught up to my game. If that makes any sense. My confidence is lower than my ability to do game. So I’m starting to see that at some point they’re reacting to my game, which is really tight. But I start to fuck it up because my confidence is not there yet. And that incongruency  has been killing me. And now I’m getting it.

Arash:  That’s what I’m currently working on right now, is to see myself as they see me. Because I still have in me that little boy who was fucked up, with a lot more confidence now, but I see it come out at times. Somewhere in that structure that shit comes out. And now I’ve been in the progress… It’s funny you ask. For the last 3 days, I’ve seen it. To just nuke it out. It’s, like, it’s incongruent. That’s it. And you may never see. My lifestyle and what I can do, but that’s why I’m stuck, what’s what I need to fix right now.

Bolo:  Okay. Well, what about, like, the rest of your life. What other goals do you have? I mean, you seem to be doing pretty damn well already.

Arash:  You know who Lil Wayne is?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  My goal is to achieve material and fame, success higher than him. He’s the one, his picture is in the background for that purpose. It’s in the back. Point to him. There.

Bolo:  Yeah. I see him.

Arash:  Yeah. To spread the teachings of my teachers and help, honestly, because that seems to be the one activity that fulfills me at the end of the night, more than anything else is when I help people. And it’s very selfish. And it’s not all fucking vain and shit, “Oh. He wants to help people.” I only want to do it ‘cause it actually makes me feel better.

Arash:  The final analysis; that’s what it is. And to really just open my eyes and see… There’s a lot of goals. I’ve very goal orientated and shit. But in the big picture, Lil Wayne status and higher. Than use that and what I know to help as many people as I can. And on a personal level, just continue evolving as an individual and see, see what it is man. I mean, like, you know, it’s quiet a journey – living. It’s a trip. You know, it’s a trip. So I enjoy thinking about life and philosophizing about it and seeing what it’s all about.

Bolo:  Okay. Yeah. Sounds good to me dude. Like, what’s your day to day life like nowadays?

Arash:  I have a very strict schedule, I’ll tell you. I get up a 9AM every single day. I make myself some kind of smoothie juice for breakfast. I go and I do Jiu-Jitsu from 11. I finish at 2. I get home. I showered. This is every day. I shower. Hang out with my girlfriend till around 4. Some days at 3:30 or 4, I come to this office, what you’re seeing, and I teach game on Skype or meet with people. At 5 I’m in my martial arts academy teaching till 8:30. At 8:30, I head back to this office. Teach. Lecture. Or hangout with a friend. This goes Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. Friday is very similar to that except at the end of the night I hang out with my girlfriend. Saturday I teach in the morning. I have an open schedule in the middle of the day, where I hang out with a friend or go out gaming, whatever. And then I hang out with the girlfriend. Sunday I hang out with the girlfriend, having a meeting. Sunday night, hang out with a friend. Literally every single week is like that. And it’s been like that for years now.

Bolo:  What about your products? Can you tell us, like, just what you have? Like, you got boot camps? What else do you have?

Arash:  If a person if interested in learning from me, it’s really easy. They go to SeductiveInstinct.com. Can they email us there? They just shoot an email and they say what they want to learn, okay? Then somebody. 48 hours is my turn around time for everything man. If you haven’t heard in 48 hours from us, we didn’t get it. Straight up. Two days is long enough to go to another country and come back, you know? So, they say what they want. Based on that, we’ll email them. And say, “Look. Here are the options dude.”

Arash:  You know, and money is an issue for a lot of people. I don’t know from where you are, but in this economy in the United States it is. And I don’t give a shit about that too much. It has to be fair. It has to be something where, you know, I feel like it’s worth the time. You know, I gave you my schedule. Somewhere in there I fit somebody. That’s it. Straight up. That’s my schedule.

Arash:  So there’s an infinite number of products because it’s tailored to the person. Now, on the other hand, there’s, we just released that Alpha Male series. It’s a 6 DVD set. 5, 6 DVD set. I don’t remember. And that’s really cool because  that has so much, so much information, up and down the scale, on alpha males. And there’s language patterns, and there’s everything. Okay? So that’s for somebody who just wants to check it out. And there’s also, you know, again, webinars. We have this thing called Secret Diaries, where I interview some of these 9s and 10s. And you can see me talking to them and there’s a lot to learn. So those are some of the actual products that are out.

Arash:  But what I like my business to be is someone contacts us, we develop a personal relationship, find out what they’re all about. Based on that, we give them a few options. The one that fits their budget, they take it. I change their life. They go out and they tell the world how incredible I am. And then Lil Wayne can be my little bitch afterwards.

Bolo: [LAUGH] Alright dude. Sounds good. Anything else you want to say to the audience from here?

Arash:  Yeah man. First of all, thank you for doing this. You get the word out. You know what I mean? We all have our jobs. So now because of you more people are going to have an opportunity to learn from me and the stuff that I know. To the audience, any final messages, bottom line, and it’s going to sound weird and cheesy, but it is what it is. Let’s just make it a better place for everybody. You know what I mean? Somehow, someway. Whatever your skills are. Whether you’re, you know. Whether you work as a doctor. Whatever the fuck you do. You sweep the streets. You know, let’s wake up and go to bed and try to make it a little bit better for everybody. You know what I mean? Then it’s worth it. Teacher Manu would always say, “Be the best and fuck the rest.” So that’s the message. Be the best and fuck the rest.

Bolo: Alright. Thank you Arash and it was good talking to you.

The shit that comes out of this guys mouth is incredible!

Sasha is a PUA based out in London. He’s one of the guys behind the Direct Dating Summit. Talking about sex within 2 minutes of opening her? That’s what Sasha does.

I really like the beginning where Sasha talks with the model. He doesn’t fawn over the fact that she’s a model. The part where he imitates her like, “Oh, I’m a model. Look at me,” is fucking hilarious. It’s also a very realistic view on what Pick Up looks like. No super fancy ninja moves. No flash game to impress the Lair (well…maybe a little bit) Just a guy having fun. Sasha is the very definition of self amusing. Watch the video, it’s worth it.

If you like the video or just want to know more about Day Game in general then be sure to check out Sasha PUAs website.

I apologize for taking a while to post on the blog. Things have been quite busy, but I wanted to let you in on something that has helped me when I’m out on the field. I’ve been keeping a journal with me, and it has helped me tremendously. When I first started using my journal, I would log every set that I opened.

Now, I just log all of the good sets and some facts about each girl I number closed. Trust me it will help! I open between 10-20 sets a day, and sometimes it’s hard to keep track of which girl you met on what day. There were times before when a girl would message me a week or two after meeting her then I would message her back and not know anything about her.

It’s much better to have the background info on her. I like to write down anything that interests me about her. For example, she lived in Italy for two years and speaks Italian. That would be great information to write down. When you meet her next time, you can bring it up. It also shows that you have a good memory.If you are in a foreign country, you can also write new words that you encounter when you are out in the field.

Also, I like to write down notes if she was doing anything when I met her. For example, if she was looking for a gift I would respond in the text message:

Me: Did you find a good gift for your friend? I bet you did…

How is that different from

Me: Hi, it was nice to meet you…

The first message relates to the situation and shows your target that you remembered something about her during the interaction. This message gives you more value and increases her chances of replying back to you.

Tips for the journal:

1. Make sure it’s pocket size- don’t buy a notebook size journal and carry it by hand all day!

2. Use it to your advantage- find certain things that may help you such as a good venue you came across or a systematic method of noting down your best sets of the day.

3. Reflect- after your done sarging for the day, write down something you can reflect on. Maybe you did something differently in set that could help you out next time. Bolo made a comment to me that I shouldn’t continue walking with girls after they walk away. I made sure to correct this and wrote it down in my journal as something to work on.

For the readers, do any of you use a journal in the field? What do you think are the advantages of using one?

LS

I didn’t make any plans. Didn’t even look up where I would stay. I just packed my bag and headed to the Train Station.

Getting There

If you take the regular train (aka. the slow one) it takes about 6 hours to arrive. The bus is about the same, depending on traffic. The high speed rail takes only 2.5 hours.

First Impressions – Nice Weather

First, the weather is a billion times nicer than Taipei. When I left Taipei, it was raining like crazy. I took my umbrella but still got soaked. Kaohsiung was nice and sunny. I was felt carrying my umbrella looking like one of those guys who wants to keep his skin milky white.

From what I understand it doesn’t rain much in Kaohsiung.

Chillax Ppl But Not Many Sights To See

The city is a lot slower and laid back than Taipei. MRT’s only come along every 4-6 minutes. When they do arrive you’re almost guaranteed to find a seat. I’ve been told that this MRT is hemorrhaging money.

If you exit Kaohshiung Main Station and head towards the MRT, you’ll see a building up ahead. It’s where you can pick up a map detailing all the sights to see here. Stuff is pretty Taiwan typical. Night markets and uhhh….. more night markets.

However, there is Monkey Mountain. The name is self explanatory. I didn’t go because there’s no easy way to get there. You pretty much have to have a scooter or hire a taxi to go there. Plus I didn’t want a monkey jacking me for my backpack. I’ve seen Congo. Fuck that shit.

Sarging

Pick up wise, I feel like Kaohsiung has tons of potential. I asked two different girls for directions and they actually gave me a scooter ride to where I wanted to go! Fucking unheard of in Taipei. In fact, one of the girls started calling up her friends and asking them if they wanted to take me out. Fucking incredible. I tried to make something happen with her but it never did.

Clubs

There are two main clubs here. I didn’t go to either. But here are the locations copied from the wikitravel article.

Lamp, 3F, 42 Zihciang 3rd Rd (MRT Sanduo Shopping District Station Exit 1, across from the 2 legged skyscraper)
Dreams, 125 Nantian St (MRT Sanduo Shopping District Station Exit 4, behind Sogo,)

I really want to try out night game here.

A lot of the sets I opened were really keen and eager to talk to me even on the street.

Long Term Stay

Kaohsiung is much cheaper than Taipei. I talked to some foreigners and they said to rent an apartment at a happening place like “Kaohsiung Area” costs about 5000NT or so.

Short Term Stay

The E Shie Hotel is a place I found near the two clubs. Rooms start from 600NT a night.

I ended up staying with some random person I met. I was walking around “Central park”, which is like Ximen and ended up meeting another foreigner who ran a hostel type of deal. He charged me 300NT to stay in his spare bedroom. At his place I ended up meeting his roomie and he invited me to go kick it in Kenting. It was fun. You never know what’s gonna happen when you travel.

The guys card is below:

I think of limiting beliefs as a major deterrent in developing your game. It’s always easy to make an excuse right. I’ve been in the game for a while, and you wouldn’t believe the excuses I sometimes here guys make.

1. “I don’t want to talk to her because I don’t know what to say”- Alot of guys get caught up in the opener. They think that they must have some amazing opener so they can attract the girl. Not really actually. If you have trouble deciding what to open with, just ask for the time or the directions. Make it seem natural as to the reason why you are talking to your target.

2. “What’s the point in wasting my time talking to women”- You aren’t wasting your time. Your developing a skill set, and over time you will develop relationships with women. You have to look at it as a time investment. We invest time in approaching women to reap the rewards later as our skill set improves.

3. “What if she doesn’t want to give me her number?”- I know the truth that many guys are afraid of rejection. When I first started picking up, I also felt bad if a girl wasn’t interested in me. You know what I do know? I don’t let it bother me if she doesn’t want to have further contact with me. I go out there and approach more girls because at the end of the day I will find a girl that wants to invest in our relationship.

4. “I don’t know how to talk to girls during the day.”- Many PUA’s focus on approaching at night. As a matter of fact, I specialize in day game these days for that very reason. There is less competition when you are out there during the day. Alot of guys need some beer to give them the courage to approach. When I first started approaching girls during the day, I had alot of approach anxiety. It took months and months of practice to get more comfortable approaching during the day. So my advice for this limiting belief is to get out of your shell, and just start talking to a few girls a day. Set a goal of how many women you want to approach. Start small then work towards bigger goals.

Those are a few limiting beliefs. If you can think of some more you have had or you know others have had, post them on here.

LS