Woo! Latinstylez.com’s first ever video interview!

We got to speak with Arash Dibazar (aka. Achilles) of SeductiveInstinct.com. This guy has a lot to say and you’ll watch a few gems in this interview.

Bolo:  Alright guys. This is Bolo from Latinstylez.com with my friend Arash, who’s currently… Uh, where you at?

Arash:  I’m in San José, California baby!

Bolo:  He’s in San Josey.  [LAUGHS] Arash is also known as Achilles from The Game. And he’s an up and coming PUA. And it’s a privilege to talk to you Arash.

Arash:  Thank you for having me. And uh, I’m glad to be alive.  Let’s go.

Bolo:  Alright, cool. Alright, first question. Most people don’t know that much about you.  You’re coming up.  And I’m just curious. Like, how did you get into The Game? How did you get into Pick Up?

Arash:  It’s a long story.  Let’s make it short. Well, I grew up and when I was six years old I had to leave my country which was Iran. And between the age of 6 and 11, I lived in Iran. I live in Turkey, in Syria, in Kuwait, in London, and Nebraska, and California.  In about 5 years I moved that much.  And uh, naturally, when I got to the United States, I wanted, you know, I started liking girls. And I wanted to have beautiful girls around me. And I liked the white, pretty cheerleader type. But they weren’t going to talk to me because I was a complete, just culture shock. You know what I mean? Like, everything was wrong about me at the time.

Arash:  So anyways, I got into the martial arts at a very young age. And I was interested in two things. One – how to defend myself. Two – how to get chicks. Which is survival and replication value, if you know anything about it now, right? So I spent all my life, every moment I could get my hands on, studying something about the mind, whether it was NLP, hypnosis, Dianetics. Anything you could think about. And martial arts. Because, one, I was getting beat up in school. So I had to learn how to defend myself. And two, I wanted the girls and nobody wanted to talk to me. Not the girls, not the boys.

Arash:  Until about two and a half years ago, I came across Mystery. It’s a really cool story how that happened. And, whatever, we got to talking and I became his student. And Matador, if you know who he is, James Matador, ended up becoming my personal mentor. And now I am a mother fucking beast. Beep. You know, without [INAUDIBLE], but we do cuss in California, San Jose.

Bolo:  Alright. That’s fine. You can cuss as much as you want here.

Arash:  Okay.

Bolo:  Alright. So how long have you been doing Pick Up for? Like 2, 3 years or something.

Arash:  About 2 and a half. Two years and four months, learning game. But prior to that, everything I studied, I tried to apply to picking up girls. I just didn’t have a structure or anything. So I was successful getting chicks but I didn’t know there was a group of Pick Up Artist. A community that was working at it. I understood that there was such a thing called Game. Being taught at two years and three months ago.

Bolo:  Interesting. So you use to be a dork and everything and you didn’t get any chicks. What’s your life like right now?

Arash:  [LAUGHS] Well, I did get chicks because at some point I achieved high status in the martial arts. And I was really bold and I, you know, I was the shit. So I would get girls, but it was so direct. And it was, again, lucky. But I would go after the hottest chicks. So I got girls after a certain point. When I was around, I think, 18 was when I got my really hot girlfriend and then it just moved forward.

Arash:  I’m 34 right now. But the difference is, the life that I live now… I’ll be honest with you, if I explained it to you, it would be out of reality and it wouldn’t fit. So if you could take the book The Game and go to the end and watch Neil’s life and what happens to it, I could tell you that’s very real to me. You know, when I first met Matador, after the first night he said to me, “Arash, you could live like a rock star. You could have so many women in your life that you won’t have time for them. And you wouldn’t know what to do. And that is what I have right now in my life. And I have a current, I have a girlfriend also.

Bolo:  Really nice dude. And it only took you two and a half years to get there?

Arash:  Yeah. It’s still a journey. I’m still evolving man. My game is still tightening up and I don’t think it’ll ever end. Just like martial arts. But it’s pretty high level. It really is. You ask some of the people who have seen me do stuff or talk to people who I have taught, who have been taught by the best in the world, and they’ll tell you I’m better than everybody right now. And I know that to be true.

Bolo:  Very nice. I’m curious, like, about your style. Like, do you have a dating philosophy? You know, like in the community, there’s all these different styles. Direct, indirect. You follow Mystery Method or what?

Arash:  Mystery’s my original teacher. And his method is the base for everything. I believe who is very successful at Pick Up has that as a base. So, my style is my style now. But it has Mystery Method as a base, for sure. Does that answer your question?

Bolo:  Yeah. Yeah, it does. Okay. That’s cool. Now, I’m curious, how did you become good enough at dating to become an authority at it?

Arash:  An authority is somebody who can do the job. That’s an authority to me. You know what I mean? It’s not someone who has a certificate. It’s not someone who other people think knows. It’s the person who can do the job. I can do the job. I’m surrounded by 9s and 10s. Now, in the Bay area, people thought they knew what 9s and 10s were until I got into the Game. Now, the guys, the guys that are the legit Pick Up Artists and quote, are some saying, you hear them, they meet around, they say, “No, we don’t get girls like Arash does. Those are 9s and 10s.” So I’m an authority in quotes, first, because people listen. But more importantly because I can get the job done. I can take someone and teach them from zero to be able to get hot chicks. And I can demonstrate it in my life. I live a life of Pick Up. You know?

Bolo:  Very nice. Like, when you first started, I mean, were you just going out every single day or…

Arash:  No. Well, let me explain something else on that. I just popped in my mind. I think the moment that it became really clear to me that I was okay to teach was when I was out with Matador and he introduced me to Laurence Fishburne. I think he was the black actor from The Matrix.

Bolo:  Yeah. Yeah. Ne-, Morpheus. Yeah.

Arash:  That’s right. And he introduced me. He said, “This is my former student, Arash.” And he goes, “The reason I say former student is because he is a master of Pick Up.” And that was a big moment for me. And there was many conversations after that. So being acknowledged by him, bona fide like that, I was like, “Okay.” You know? And I know I can really change people’s lives. ‘Cause this shit is powerful dude. You know what I mean? It’s fucking powerful. You can change a person’s life. Completely turn it around. No matter what is going on in their live; men are struggling with women. And I’ve seen it.

Bolo:  That’s interesting.

Arash:  I missed the other question you said.

Bolo:  Yeah. Just… What was it? How did you get good enough to become a dating authority? How did you start out? Were you just going out a whole lot or…?

Arash:  I actually barely went to the clubs. On this, I was in LA visiting and I would go with Matador. But other than that, here, my game was created in a way where when I would go shopping I would game everybody there. I would go eat, I would game all the waitresses. Then I would go and, let’s say I’m working out, I would game everybody there. Wherever I was I would game. So, then I created this thing where, for me, game and life are the same. It’s a lifestyle. For me it’s not like, “Oh, now I’m gonna go to the club and game.” So you said, did I go out every night and game? I didn’t go out, but I gamed almost every moment when I was around a chick. Almost every moment. You know? It was unbelievable. So I got very good at it. And my hired gun game is pretty ridiculous. What I can…

Bolo:  Oh. Really nice. Like, do you teach boot camps or what exactly, what type of coaching do you do?

Arash:  Oh yeah. We do boot camps. We do Skype coaching. We do webinars. I have a boot camp coming up this weekend. We do one on ones. Man, you name. I’m just interested in creating the next generation of incredible Pick Up Artists. I benefit from that. It’s important to me.

Bolo:  Yeah. You’ve had a lot of students at this point, right?

Arash:  A lot, you know, is a relative term. No, I don’t think so. I’ve had students and they’ve been very successful. But I was very picky and I still am. I don’t teach everybody. There’s a lot of people that want to learn, but they don’t want to learn. You know what I mean? So I teach people, we go put them in the interview. We find out what they’re all about. If they have a passion for this. If they really want to do this. If they do, I meet with them. And I accept them as students and I change their life. And if again, if they’re not a good student while I’m teaching them, I actually will get rid of them. And I did that to four people.

Bolo:  You’re kidding.

Arash:  No, I can because my name is on it. It’s a brand. You know? I’m a brand name. I’ve done martial arts long enough. I have a very successful martial arts business. And this is now my business in Pick Up. And I want to have a brand. I want it to be, if you were trained by Arash, if you were trained by Achilles, if you’re from SeductiveInstinct.com, you are good. Or you’re on your way to being very good. I don’t want people to say, “I studied with him, but I don’t get any chicks.” No, no, no. Not me. So I’m very selective. The ones that don’t make it, I give them a few chances. You know, if they’re not doing their reading, if they’re not doing their practice, if they’re not showing up, they need to go somewhere else. I don’t care how much they pay. It’s just not the way that I do things.

Bolo:  Okay. Like, during the interview process, what are you looking for, like, in a prospective student?

Arash:  A few things. One is that they really have to want to make a change. They’re not just talking. You know what I mean? They have to have a passion for doing it. They have to be willing to go through rough times. It’s not roses man. Are you kidding me? It was difficult getting good. Very difficult. Thank God it was difficult because now if it wasn’t, everybody else would be running around getting chicks. I put in my time and my dues. So those are the basics. More than that. It’s a vibe, you know? Lucky, he does the interviews and I trust his judgment. So he does the interview and you’d ask him what he specifically goes for. What I look for in a student are those things. Passion. A person who’s willing to go through the ups and downs. And a person who really wants to make a change in their life. Then I’ll make it happen.

Bolo:  Sounds good dude. Now, what about the guys who don’t make it. The four guys you had to kick out? Like, what common traits do they have?

Arash:  Well, they can go fuck themselves as far as I’m concerned.

Bolo:  [LAUGHS]

Arash:  You know what I mean? Probably looking at the pictures of my girls online. But anyways, they, the traits they have is they don’t want to get better man. They don’t do it. You know, you have to take the next step. That’s it. You know? So if they don’t do their reading, if they don’t show up, if they don’t look like they really want to get better, they just want to sit around and talk about it. No dude. This is an action based activity. There’s theory and there’s application. You gotta put them together.

Arash:  There’s people that can sit there and talk all theory all the time. But they can’t demonstrate shit. On the other hand, there’s some guys that get chicks, but they don’t know any theory. So when they teach, there’s a guy, a joke, you know, he was like, you know, I did a seminar, and then he did one right after me and he was like, “Well, just go out there and be yourself. And just be ballsy and be confident.” I’m like, “Dude, you’re a joke. Get the fuck outta here.” You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  How are you going to teach someone that? That’s not game. That’s ridiculous. You’re the good looking guy. So he gets to do that. I wasn’t a good looking guy. I’m an interesting looking guy, I know. But I’m not a good looking guy.

Bolo:  Yeah dude. I know what you’re saying. It’s a little too, too much esoteric, you know, advice. Like, “Oh, be yourself. Grab your balls and just go.” You know?

Arash:  Yeah. Find out who you really are. It’s like, “Yo man. If I knew the answer I’d be Buddha right now.” You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah. [LAUGHS] Yeah dude.

Arash:  Don’t fucking go there. Give me some specific technique, like look over your shoulder, lean away, smile, tell them you gotta take off in a minute, and ask a neutral question. Those are techniques any person can apply. And that technique will improve their chances just by doing that, talking to a chick. And that was directly from the Mystery Method. An open.

Bolo:  Yeah. Now, what do you think the greatest mistake guys make with women is? Just like in sarging in general.

Arash:  They show too much interest too fast.

Bolo:  And what can they do to correct that?

Arash:  Well, keep doing it. Keep losing the chick. Keep doing it. Keep losing the chick. And then some point get sick of your sickness and say, “Fuck! What am I supposed to do?” At that moment, stop showing her so much interest. So she has to earn, she has to earn it from you. Honestly, that’s the very first thing I ever learned in game when I started studying it. That was the first thing. I applied it that night and it completely changed my experience with women. She has to earn you. You know?

Arash:  They demonstrate interest when they walk up. Already opening a girl you’re showing interest. So as quickly as you can you gotta calibrate and take that away as soon as possible. So she knows that okay, well, you were playing on level ground with her. Or even you gotta be higher really. You gotta have more value. So I think the biggest mistake is they show interest too quickly. The way they can correct is just recognize that’s not the way to get the girl man. It’s just not. I mean, where do you get that from? It’s not proven. It’s lucky. I don’t want to be, I don’t want to get lucky when I get chicks. I want to have skill. You know what I mean?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  It’s like do you want to be lucky if the parachute opened or do you want to know you fucking put that shit together. You know what I mean? And you put the parachute together. You check everything. And then you jump. Even then, some people’s chutes don’t open. Just like Pick Up. You could be a master Pick Up Artist. Sometimes you ain’t gonna get the chick dude. You gonna fuck up. Big deal. But you do all the pieces right and your chances are greatly improved. And you jump, still with adrenaline, but trusting your chute which is the game. Damn, that was…

Bolo:  Okay. [LAUGHS] Yeah, I’ve jumped out of a couple airplanes before and it helps to be prepared.

Arash:  Oh. Have you really jumped out?

Bolo:  Yeah. I’ve done AFF and Tandem. You do AFF by yourself , you go train for like 10 hours. Like, I had to go at 6 in the morning. Didn’t jump until like 6 in the afternoon.

Arash:  Wow.

Bolo:  It’s a fun time dude. You should give it a shot.

Arash:  I will never jump out of a plane unless it’s burning. Otherwise, I’m good. I’ll just take it from one place to the other.

Bolo:  Well, any tips or techniques you can give the guys? Like, any newbies listening here. Or any, like, you know, just any, anything that your particularly like to do.

Arash:  Yes. Yes, I have so many fucking hints and techniques and shit. So let me just go over a few basic ones. This goes, talk about for everybody, inner game is so important man. Inner… That’s what I had. That’s what… You asked me what made me so good. I had monster inner game. Monstrous. Because of martial arts and the study of the mind that I had all my mind been doing.

Arash:  So ,anyways, let’s get into this. Just like anything worth achieving, whether it’s a black belt in a legit martial arts or its surgeon, become a surgeon or anything legit, you have to put in your time.   And you gotta be willing to do what it takes and go through the hard times. So anybody picking up Pick Up for the first time should understand, you  know, you are going to get the chick one day. You’re totally going to get the chick one day, but you better be willing to go through some shit to get there. Like, really go through it. You gotta put yourself out there, so if you’re not willing have both sides of the coin, my teacher would say, Manu, that was his name, then you can’t have one or the other. You can’t just study game and go get all the hot chicks.

Arash:  The guys who are getting the supremely hot chicks using game, the way it’s taught, have put in their time. Personally, me, I’ve been picked out of two restaurants in San José because I was miscalibrated. Manager came up, “Sir. You’re going to have to leave.” And it’s fucked up. It’s an uncomfortable, uncomfortable experience. That’s the least of it man. I’ve got story after story of shit I’ve done. Boyfriends threatening me. Husbands threaten to kill me. It’s, like, fucked up.

Arash:  But now I’m at a point where it’s rare to get any reaction like that. So the advice is to recognize what you’re getting into, but it’s worth it. If it’s worth it for you to be able to get super-hot chicks and handle this part of your life once and for all. Once and for all, where you just know you have some skill. Then do it. For more advanced Pick Up Artists, I tell you this, straight up, if you have not studied and understood the Mystery Method, you’re missing out. And I guarantee you’re not as good as you could be. I guarantee you’re not as good as you could be, okay? You gotta study it and understand it, even if you’re good.

Arash:  I have Pick Up Artist here who are already good. And now they’re all going back and their game is tremendously improving. Because it’s scientific method. It has a structure where you can always find out where you are if you’re fucking up. It’s incredible. That’s for the people that have been studying game and maybe haven’t had the experience of the Mystery Method done correctly. A lot of people talk about it. They can’t demonstrate it, right? Find a good teacher. And thirdly, for people who have and they’re still struggling, you need to find a good teacher. You got to find a good teacher. How many good teachers do I know? I know four. You and Mystery and you know Matador. ‘Kay? The other two? Don’t worry about it. [LAUGH]

Bolo: [LAUGH]

Arash:  Legit, legit teachers. You would never in the field of martial arts, if your life is on the line, if someone’s gonna knock you out or break your limb or choke you out, you’re not going to go to some shmoe who hasn’t demonstrated his skills before. Doesn’t matter how many certificates he has. No matter what kind of website he has. You need to find a legit teacher who can teach and has already demonstrated who he is.

Arash:  That’s why it’s important for me to have a family tree. Mystery taught Matador. Matador, Arash. Good. We can trace that shit. I didn’t come out of nowhere, right? And if you call him up or if you see Matador, you say, “What do you think of Arash’s game?” He’ll tell you. It’s the way it is. That’s life, right? So for everybody else who’s been studying, maybe stuck somewhere, find a real teacher who can help you. Period. Simple. Done.

Bolo: Oh, very… Yeah dude. Very nice. Like, you seem to live a really kick ass life. You’re an accomplished martial artist. You met all these famous guys. You met Mystery. You met Matador.

Arash:  Ross Jefferies.

Bolo: You met Ross Jefferies before. Manu. I looked up his stuff on youtube. He was on the A-Team!

Arash:  Yeah. Manu was incred-. Man. Yeah, I’ll talk all day about Manu. But yes, he was my original teacher. Everything I can do is because of him as a base I have. Manu Tupou.

Bolo: Like, I’m curious. How did you build up this lifestyle. How did you meet all these people?

Arash:  That I still… Hey. Your voice, by the way, is really faded. So if you could fix it ‘cause I’m trying to desperately hear you, right now.

Bolo:  Can you hear me?

Arash:  That’s better.

Bolo:  Alright. I’ll just have to hold up my mike up like this. Alright, so yeah. How did you meet all these guys?

Arash:  I really can’t answer that with a fact because I thought about that question all my life. I don’t know. I don’t know. I do know when I met them , I instinctively knew how to act. And they saw something in me that they appreciated. And I dedicated, like, really dedicated myself to these teachers. I really did.

Arash:  Right now I’m doing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu with them, one of the best Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu masters in the world. And I’ve dedicated my whole life to the guy, you know? For the last 10 years I’ve been studying with him. September is 10 years. That’s, I love that. I love being a good student. You know? So, I don’t know how I met them. I really don’t know. If you try to work out the math of it, it’s impossible. So, I can’t figure out how I met them, but after I did I knew what to do.

Bolo:  Like, I’m sure a lot of these people, like, they have students all on them. Wanting to be, you know, their students personally. Like, what do you think separate you from the other guys?

Arash:  You gotta ask them that question. I can only guess. You know what I mean? I know my qualities, that if I was, you know, I am a teacher. As a teacher, I would see this sincere determination, desire and passion of this person to really learn and give proper acknowledgement to that teacher. That’s very important. That’s why I keep dropping Matador’s name or Mystery’s name because, and even Manu who’s passed away 7 years ago. That’s important to me.

Arash:  People have lost that tradition. You have to give respect to the people who came before you. There’s people who have said to me,” Man, your game is so great.” You know, it’s better than so-and-so. I say, “Listen. I don’t even compare myself to Matador. I don’t even compare myself to Mystery. I would be foolish. I don’t even… Who cares? Who cares?” Without them, there would be no me. So let’s just get that straight. Right? But it’s this Western mentality of, like, step over everybody. Get to the top and blah blah blah. And be the best. Shut the fuck up. You know? So, I don’t know. Maybe that’s what they saw. I don’t know. You would have to ask them. I think I would see this in myself. A guy who knows that he’s going to do whatever it takes to be the best.

Bolo:  Very nice. Alright. I looked up some of your videos on YouTube, you know? And are you, like, a club promoter?

Arash:  No, I’m not. I’m not. I actually use the game to create a lifestyle of a rock star. I want to be on the stage. I want to have a mike. I want to have girls around me. I want to perform. But I don’t have a voice. Besides what you hear. I can’t sing worth shit. So , it’s my secret how I did it. But I used game to position myself where I’m at now. I do shows. I get hired as an artist to go into a club and put on a show. A promoter is someone who promotes people to go to the club and get paids off of it. I get hired by the club as an outside. I go in. I do a show and I leave. That’s what I…

Bolo:  Okay. Can you drop any hints if one of the guys wants to do something similar?

Arash:  Absolutely. Hints are this. First of all, I have skills. You know? I’m on stage. I’m capable because of Manu. I’m a theater, master of theater. I know what I’m doing. And so you have to have something, right? So I can produce. I can produce a show. I can direct and produce shit. So that’s what I have. But the big hint in regards to game is if you have beautiful women around you, enough of them, it opens many, many doors for you. And I knew that. So I knew that having that, I could open doors. And I did.

Bolo:  Okay. So, like, social circle.

Arash:  You better believe it man. You wouldn’t believe my life. You should add me on Facebook. You literally… I tell you. I bet you there’s nobody else, nobody else in the world that we know that has a Facebook like me unless it’s Hugh Hefner. There’s nobody surrounded… Because even the celebrities bro, they get chicks, but they don’t have them in their social circle the way I have them. You gotta believe… We’ll you’ll see it for yourself.

Bolo: Okay. I saw your Facebook. You do… I saw, like, I think your Picasa web photos. Yeah, I can attest to what you’re saying.

Arash:  That’s my life. That’s what I do.

Bolo: Like, how did you build up your social circle? How do you get that many females around you?

Arash:  By having very tight, meticulous game. Very tight game. That’s it. Because…

Bolo: It all just goes back to game.

Arash:  If you know the structure of the Mystery Method , there’s comfort in the middle, C2 is deep comfort and connection. If you have a comfort and connection with a beau-… And I just did it with the 9s and 10s. Now, just like that, every relationship will end eventually. You gotta know how to end it. So girls will come and go. But the core group keeps getting stronger and stronger.

Arash:  My vision is to one day have, be the guy who establishes what is sexy in our current culture because of the way I look and who I am, I’m a rebel. You see how I look. And my girls are the new playmates. They’re the new, you know what I mean, the new Playboy Playmates. They’re the IMC Sinful Angels. That’s who we are. And you’ll see this. ‘Cause it is in our area, we’re known as the hottest girls in the Bay Area our under Arash. So now all we gotta do is get the word out to bigger than Bay Area. And it’s happening already. You know?

Bolo:  Very nice. Like, I’m curious though. What do you think is your biggest sticking point right now?

Arash:  Hmm… Good question. At the moment, I haven’t… My confidence has not caught up to my game. If that makes any sense. My confidence is lower than my ability to do game. So I’m starting to see that at some point they’re reacting to my game, which is really tight. But I start to fuck it up because my confidence is not there yet. And that incongruency  has been killing me. And now I’m getting it.

Arash:  That’s what I’m currently working on right now, is to see myself as they see me. Because I still have in me that little boy who was fucked up, with a lot more confidence now, but I see it come out at times. Somewhere in that structure that shit comes out. And now I’ve been in the progress… It’s funny you ask. For the last 3 days, I’ve seen it. To just nuke it out. It’s, like, it’s incongruent. That’s it. And you may never see. My lifestyle and what I can do, but that’s why I’m stuck, what’s what I need to fix right now.

Bolo:  Okay. Well, what about, like, the rest of your life. What other goals do you have? I mean, you seem to be doing pretty damn well already.

Arash:  You know who Lil Wayne is?

Bolo:  Yeah.

Arash:  My goal is to achieve material and fame, success higher than him. He’s the one, his picture is in the background for that purpose. It’s in the back. Point to him. There.

Bolo:  Yeah. I see him.

Arash:  Yeah. To spread the teachings of my teachers and help, honestly, because that seems to be the one activity that fulfills me at the end of the night, more than anything else is when I help people. And it’s very selfish. And it’s not all fucking vain and shit, “Oh. He wants to help people.” I only want to do it ‘cause it actually makes me feel better.

Arash:  The final analysis; that’s what it is. And to really just open my eyes and see… There’s a lot of goals. I’ve very goal orientated and shit. But in the big picture, Lil Wayne status and higher. Than use that and what I know to help as many people as I can. And on a personal level, just continue evolving as an individual and see, see what it is man. I mean, like, you know, it’s quiet a journey – living. It’s a trip. You know, it’s a trip. So I enjoy thinking about life and philosophizing about it and seeing what it’s all about.

Bolo:  Okay. Yeah. Sounds good to me dude. Like, what’s your day to day life like nowadays?

Arash:  I have a very strict schedule, I’ll tell you. I get up a 9AM every single day. I make myself some kind of smoothie juice for breakfast. I go and I do Jiu-Jitsu from 11. I finish at 2. I get home. I showered. This is every day. I shower. Hang out with my girlfriend till around 4. Some days at 3:30 or 4, I come to this office, what you’re seeing, and I teach game on Skype or meet with people. At 5 I’m in my martial arts academy teaching till 8:30. At 8:30, I head back to this office. Teach. Lecture. Or hangout with a friend. This goes Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. Friday is very similar to that except at the end of the night I hang out with my girlfriend. Saturday I teach in the morning. I have an open schedule in the middle of the day, where I hang out with a friend or go out gaming, whatever. And then I hang out with the girlfriend. Sunday I hang out with the girlfriend, having a meeting. Sunday night, hang out with a friend. Literally every single week is like that. And it’s been like that for years now.

Bolo:  What about your products? Can you tell us, like, just what you have? Like, you got boot camps? What else do you have?

Arash:  If a person if interested in learning from me, it’s really easy. They go to SeductiveInstinct.com. Can they email us there? They just shoot an email and they say what they want to learn, okay? Then somebody. 48 hours is my turn around time for everything man. If you haven’t heard in 48 hours from us, we didn’t get it. Straight up. Two days is long enough to go to another country and come back, you know? So, they say what they want. Based on that, we’ll email them. And say, “Look. Here are the options dude.”

Arash:  You know, and money is an issue for a lot of people. I don’t know from where you are, but in this economy in the United States it is. And I don’t give a shit about that too much. It has to be fair. It has to be something where, you know, I feel like it’s worth the time. You know, I gave you my schedule. Somewhere in there I fit somebody. That’s it. Straight up. That’s my schedule.

Arash:  So there’s an infinite number of products because it’s tailored to the person. Now, on the other hand, there’s, we just released that Alpha Male series. It’s a 6 DVD set. 5, 6 DVD set. I don’t remember. And that’s really cool because  that has so much, so much information, up and down the scale, on alpha males. And there’s language patterns, and there’s everything. Okay? So that’s for somebody who just wants to check it out. And there’s also, you know, again, webinars. We have this thing called Secret Diaries, where I interview some of these 9s and 10s. And you can see me talking to them and there’s a lot to learn. So those are some of the actual products that are out.

Arash:  But what I like my business to be is someone contacts us, we develop a personal relationship, find out what they’re all about. Based on that, we give them a few options. The one that fits their budget, they take it. I change their life. They go out and they tell the world how incredible I am. And then Lil Wayne can be my little bitch afterwards.

Bolo: [LAUGH] Alright dude. Sounds good. Anything else you want to say to the audience from here?

Arash:  Yeah man. First of all, thank you for doing this. You get the word out. You know what I mean? We all have our jobs. So now because of you more people are going to have an opportunity to learn from me and the stuff that I know. To the audience, any final messages, bottom line, and it’s going to sound weird and cheesy, but it is what it is. Let’s just make it a better place for everybody. You know what I mean? Somehow, someway. Whatever your skills are. Whether you’re, you know. Whether you work as a doctor. Whatever the fuck you do. You sweep the streets. You know, let’s wake up and go to bed and try to make it a little bit better for everybody. You know what I mean? Then it’s worth it. Teacher Manu would always say, “Be the best and fuck the rest.” So that’s the message. Be the best and fuck the rest.

Bolo: Alright. Thank you Arash and it was good talking to you.

Basic Questions

1) How did you get into pickup?

Like most people, it starting with “The Game” by Neil Strauss. My Dad actually bought the book home after hearing about it on the radio. After I read it I convinced most of my friends to read it. My journey started there…

2) What is your dating philosophy?

Destroy young girls lives. But seriously, I’m all about variety. I only date women from other nationalities or ethnicities (non-exclusively of course). I’m very honest with girls about my lifestyle; most of them have no problem with my non-commitment. I travel too much. I’m of the opinion they’re lucky to catch me while I’m around.

3) How did you get good at dating to become an authority on it?

Mistakes. I made a lot of mistakes. I tried everything. I spent so much time trying to emulate the gurus in the community, but it wasn’t until I developed my own style, one which I felt congruent with, did I start to see a big difference; the quantity and quality improved.

I’m no pick up guru; I’m just a specialist in exotic women. Each country is like a code waiting to be cracked. I found western game often faltered with linguistic and cultural barriers and I wanted to break past that. Over the years I had to develop new techniques to cater for different scenarios in other countries. Some shit worked, some didn’t. A lot of the stuff I was trying didn’t exist in the pick-up lexicon – things like shoring, pipelining and crunching (see blog). These were thing that sky-rocketed my flag count. Before I knew it, all my friends were using my techniques to pick up when they travelled. I was part of a new frontier – pick-up for the vagabond. I started the Naughty Nomad blog and viola.

4) What do you think guys greatest mistake with women is?

No cajones. The number one reason why most guys aren’t successful with women is the fact they never go up and talk to them in the first place. Approach Anxiety will forever be man’s downfall. Furthermore, a narrow mind. You’d be surprised the amount of men who simply refuse to read books like “The Game” on ‘principal’. Guys like us who are willing to educate themselves on social dynamics, will forever have the advantage.

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

I guess it depends on your values. If were talking about aesthetic quality, I’d say Eastern Europe. If were talking about quality characteristics, I’d go for Asian or African woman. It’s hard to come up with a generic answer.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

Befriend more women. It took me a while to develop healthy platonic relationships. Other ideas? Start a band. Take up new sports. Join societies in college. Learn to Dance. Learn a language. Do a course. Go out more and travel. Try something new. Have a fucking life.

7) What was your life like when you weren’t good with women? What is it like now?

Frustrating and lonely. I used to get depressed and craved intimacy. I had zero confidence. I used to just stay indoors and get stoned with my mates.

What is it like now? Busy! But that’s not a bad complaint. I’m feeling pretty good these days, but sometimes you feel a little shallow and empty… I’ve hurt a lot of people. Life is about balance and I’m still trying to find it.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

Extreme peacocking. For those who don’t know, in September some friends and I spent 24 nights in a row travelling through the Balkans dressed as a Mexican Pirate. It was a blast.

I also tend to employ things like jealously plot-lines, anchoring and going caveman.

I’m pretty direct, but my opener is always the same “Where are you from?” Then I whip out some words in their language or some stories /knowledge from the country. It gets the ball rolling and it plays to my strengths.

9) Do you use props? If so, what gets the most reactions?

Sometimes. As mentioned, I peacock a lot. Mexican pirates get the best reactions. When I’m with my crew we buy kid’s party hats and put them on cute girls in the bar to anchor. Sometimes, I whip out my iPhone to do the work for me by showing girls some whopper pics, like my name tattooed on my crazy ex-girlfriend’s ass.

10) What is your biggest sticking point?

Approaching and transitioning – I don’t like to use canned material so I have to rely on situational openers or being direct. Sometimes, I go blank. For all my experience, Approach Anxiety still creeps in – especially when I’m sober! haha

11) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

The Venusian Arts Handbook by Mystery is probably my core text. I’ve also used material from De Angelo, Jeffries, Style & Vin de Carlo. A lot of stuff I needed to learn was inner game based; you need to have the fundamentals. I found De Angelo provided the bones while the others provided the meat.

12) Describe the moment when you realized you need to work on this part of your life.

I was in my second year in college and I hit a 6 month dry patch. I swore to myself, never again.

13) What advice do you give to newbies starting out?

Find guys on the same wavelength. Get out there. Read everything, try everything, and make mistakes. Repeat. The key thing is stepping outside your comfort zone.

14) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

They think too much or come across as too needy. Girls can pick up if you’re treating an interaction like a chess game. She’s not a playstation. You can’t copy and paste techniques and expect a certain response. Relax and have fun.

15) What are your goals for the community? Your life?

As for the community, I’m doing my part taking this game around the world. I’m happy to pave the way, but I’d like to see more guys like yourself writing about. There’s just not enough info. Personally, I want to visit every country in the world before I’m 35. Then I’ll pick a sexy foreign wife and have multi-racial, bi-lingual superkids.

Specialized Questions

When did you start your blog and what made you start it?

I started the blog in April of last year. I was living such a crazy life and I wanted share it with people. I also felt there was a serious lack of info for single guys looking to hook up in foreign countries. I wanted to help fill that void.

How did you get the name Naughty Nomad?

It literally just popped into my head one night in bed. The next day I bought the domain name.

You’re quite the traveler! What made you want to start traveling? How many countries have you been to?

I’ve been to 58 countries now, including Antarctica and a few self-proclaimed republics. It all started on my trip to Antarctica when I was 18. It was the best experience of my life. In was then I found my vocation – to vacation. Since I was a little kid I always dreamed about being an explorer. The trip rekindled that passion. Now I refuse to accept an alternative destiny, at least in the medium term.

What was the most interesting country you’ve traveled to and why?

Ethiopia. I could talk all day about it… the women, the culture, the history, the vibe… Let’s just say it’s a very special place for me. I’ll have to dedicate a whole post to it; I couldn’t do it justice in this space. Second place would have to be the Philippines – it’s a sexual playground.

What was a country that you disliked the most and why?

Egypt. It’s overrated, full of sleazy con-artists and the nightlife is shit. Egyptian men are generally scum and ruin the whole Egyptian experience. A close runner-up in Russia, the people there can be very dower, even downright hostile. For me, the people make or break a country.

I heard you’ve traveled to Africa can you tell me an interesting story from the time you were there?

Where oh where do I begin. A lot of crazy shit happened in Africa. We jumped the border to escape Sudan, smuggled a kilo of weed from Ethiopia over 7 borders and decided to travel in North Kivu, a war zone in Eastern Congo. Shit got scary, I can’t even begin to tell you what went on there… I got a lot of the stories on the blog if anyone wants to check it out…

You dressed up as a pirate with your buddies for one-week right? What was that experience like? Did you feel like it changed you in anyway?

Mexican Pirates, furthermore it was 24 nights in a row. That was in the Balkans, we also did the same thing for one week straight in Malta. It was the most fun I ever had in my life. It didn’t change me, it just got me laid a lot. It did wonders for my friends though. It certainly improved their confidence. Life is more fun in costume.

What does it mean to collect a flag? How many flags have you collected?

If you hook with a local from a foreign country, you get a flag. Guys who indulge in ‘flagging’ are called flaggers. Check out flagging headquarters for info. I’m not interested in notches, only flags. I’m 24, and I’ve gotten 32 flags so far.

You mentioned pipelining as important. Can you define what pipelining is and why it has been important to you? How can others benefit it?

I think the blog sums it up best.

“Pipelining” is a practice primarily employed by travellers wanting to meet potential sexual partners in a future destination. Meetings are typically arranged online through social networking and dating sites. The objective is to have potential mates already ‘in the pipeline’ prior to arrival in a certain location, thus vastly increasing the chances of a sexual encounter with a local. The terms ‘Pipelining’ and ‘online game’ can be used interchangeably.

Can you tell us an interesting travel story? Maybe something unexpected happened to you while you were traveling?

My passport got robbed in Cambodia and I ended up staying there for several weeks with a Khmer girl. It’s a long story but finishes with her tattooing my name on her ass. To take some recent happenings, I just got back I was just got back from the Dominican Republic and Haiti. My first night in DR I banged a Dominican super model and beauty queen. My last night in Haiti, I got robbed and laid in the same night. Good times. I recently posted both stories on the blog.

Where are you currently? What is your travel plans in the future?

As mentioned, I just got back for the Caribbean. Next month, I’m in Eastern Europe for a few days before jetting off to travel the whole of West Africa. It’s going to be fuckin’ crazy, I can’t wait!

Do you plan on releasing any products in the future?

That’s classified information

For more information on Naughty Nomad, check out his blog. This is Latinstylez signing off…

Basic Questions

1) How did you get into pickup?

I wasn’t exactly a Casanova in high school. I got a few dates but nothing compared to the success my natural friends were having. In fact, my lack of success turned me into kind of a selfish asshole for a few years which actually got me two girlfriends and a few lays but I wasn’t getting the QUALITY women who I wanted most. Then one night at a party I bumped into LatinStylez and we talked about picking up women a bit and he introduced me to the seduction community. Shortly after I resurrected The Tallahassee Lair, improved my game substantially, and eventually began coaching.

2) What is your dating philosophy?

My first rule is that there are no rules. Most “gurus” who teach only teach a style that works for them and people similar to them so the majority of people probably can’t use their advice congruently nor effectively. Also every woman is different. Sure they have some commonalities however they have to each be treated differently since they are individuals. My overall philosophy is to just be social, fun, and most importantly be a MAN and then all the skills necessary just fall into place.

3) How did you get good at dating to become an authority on it?

The same way anyone gets good at anything; by dozens of hours of practice, taking a lot of risks, going out of my comfort zone, figuring out what works, and sticking to it. Another big contributor to my success was feedback from my attractive female friends. If anyone on this planet can properly diagnose a guy’s game, it’s an attractive female who is close to him.

4)What do you think guys greatest mistake with women is?

The don’t act like MEN when the crucial time to act like one arises. Society has programmed our cultures for generations to be effeminate and dogmatically abide by society’s rules and restrictions, which goes against what we are genetically programmed to do. Obviously this is necessary to function as a culture, however when it comes to dating a man has to act like a man. If he sees a girl he’s interested in he should approach her and say hi. If he thinks a girl looks sexy he should tell her. If he wants to kiss a girl he should.

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

This topic is debatable since different cultures provide different venues and different men have different definitions of “quality”. In my opinion though the best place to meet a quality woman is during the day time in a venue that you are going to anyway; that way you two already have things in common. As popularized as picking up women in bars and clubs have become, many of the women either have problems with insecurity, drinking, or drugs and those types of women usually don’t spend a lot of time in daytime situations.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

Network and host get-togethers. At the peak of my partying days I was inviting friends from my work, school, and other organizations to my house parties and club parties. The more people you meet, the more you will get “introduced” to more people and especially if you are hosting events and being the source of everyone’s good time.

7) What was your life like when you weren’t good with women? What is it like now?

Before I was good with women I was lonely. I would see people in romantic relationships in the media or hear about my friends hanging out with hot women and I felt left out. Nowadays I literally have so many women in my life I don’t have time to schedule them all. It got to the point where I had to make a digital spreadsheet of all the women I knew and prioritize them based on which ones were the most fun and like me the most. Even if you have dozens of numbers from hot women, there’s no point in following up with them unless you also enjoy their personality and they are making an effort to keep the interactions alive and fun. Now I have the option of not only dating physically attractive women, but selecting the ones who also have great personalities.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

Just say what’s on your mind. “Your tits looks really nice in that top.” “I’ve always wanted to own a pirate ship.” “Let’s go get some chocolate cake.” A lot of guys underestimate how fun and interesting they are so if you just say what’s on your most of the time women will appreciate the honesty and sometimes laugh playfully. And the magic of it is that they aren’t responding to some “line” you read somewhere; they’re responding to YOU and are attracted to the person that YOU really are. It’s very genuine.

9) Do you use props? If so, what gets the most reactions?

Every once in a while if something looks cool, however nothing is ever planned. For example I was at the bar the other night with a girl and pulled her straw out of her drink and started casting Harry Potter spells on people. She thought it was hilarious. It was nothing I planned out; I just saw it and thought about doing it so I did.

10) What is your biggest sticking point?

My biggest sticking point is actually sometimes not approaching hot women I see around campus during the daytime and justifying it based on lame excuses like I have to get to class or there’s people watching or I’m already dating 3 other girls and don’t have time for another. The truth is that if you are a quality man, you deserve a quality woman, and the only way to find the highest quality woman possible is to try out a bunch of them.

11) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

A combination of David DeAngelo, Mystery, Adam Lyons, and Sinn. Firstly David DeAngelo taught me the basics of flirting, which is extremely fun and often overlooked in the dating community. I learned from Mystery how to treat meeting women in clubs like a video game; approach the group, meet everyone, get the girl you want alone. Adam Lyons taught me the importance of being social and normal and also the benefits of being friends with a lot of women. Sinn taught me a lot about how to help women feel sexually comfortble early in the interaction. However, the person I have learned the MOST from has been myself and my experiences. All of us are different and the only way we can figure out what works best for us to is document our experiences over a long period of time and figure out what all the commonalities to our successes and failures are so that we can optimize our game.

12) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

Probably in my first years of college when I hit a “dry spell” for several months. I went several months without getting intimate with any women in a college town full of attractive and horny women and decided it was time to make a change and get this part of my life handled and ultimately mastered.

13) What advice do you give to newbies starting out?

Write down all of the things that make you a QUALITY man and understand that you deserve quality women. Also realize that there are literally thousands of attractive women are there longing for an experience with a quality man like yourself. Also understand that there is no such thing as “rejection”. A woman can reject your approach but she can never reject you as a person because she doesn’t know you. All women are DIFFERENT and there is no magic formula to picking up all of them. In fact, a lot of the attractive women you approach will have immature personalities and things won’t work out, however you MUST go through the process of meeting a LOT of these women to find the good ones and when you do, none of the others will even matter.

14) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

By my coaching experience, the biggest issue for them is simply having the guts to approach the women they want and to be social. Once they understand that in most cases they actually have more to offer the woman than she does and to just relax, be themselves, and smile the rest usually falls into place naturally.

15) What are you goals for the community? Your life?

My goal is to simply be happy and take the good opportunities I am presented with; whether that be approaching attractive women, sleeping with them, dating them, or potentially marrying one my goal is to simply make the right decisions when I’m given the right opportunities. In life I hope to ultimately be financially independent and stable, have love in my life, and to use my talents to make the world a happier place for everyone I meet.

Specialized Questions

1) Can you relate a success story about one of your clients?

Recently I was having a consultation with a regular client and he told me about how I helped him get past a sticking point of his. He is a great guy who has a lot to offer and just didn’t know how to project it properly given his current situation so I helped him get past that and he told me that it changed his life. When I receive tat kind of feedback from clients it is worth more to me than anything money can buy and I am overwhelmed with a sense of content that I am making the world a better place for both men and women.

2) Why did you choose the name Falcon?

It was really random actually. Everyone else I looked up to in the community at the time had aliases so I just thought of something that was free and at the same time aggressive so a falcon was the first thing that came to mind.

3) What are your fundamental teachings?

Be a man, be social, and go for the women you deserve. One of the main differences from my teachings and those of other instructors is that most of what I teach has been PROVEN by scientific methods in the fields of social and evolutionary psychology. I don’t endorse any “methods” or “formulas” and just take what has been proven and published by accredited Universities and project it through the prism of dating.

4) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

I had both friends and success with women before discovering the dating/seduction community. Because of this I teach a lot of things I learned from my friends who re NATURALLY good at meeting women. Also as mentioned above, I teach principles that have been SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN by accredited Universities in the fields of social and evolutionary psychology. No theories nor complex models or methods; just the scientifically proven facts.

5) How are you viewed within the community?

Depends on who you ask haha. Some people call me a guru, dating coach, a seducer, or professional pick-up artist while others simply call me a guy who is good with women, a cool guy, or a friend. If you ask me though I’m just a normal guy like everyone else. I simply have a genuine appreciation for amazing women and have put in a lot of time and effort figuring out how to have them in my life.

6) Do you blog?

I don’t blog very often actually. I am currently a senior in the mechanical engineering program at my college university so that is currently my highest priority, followed by spending time with friends, spending time with the women I’m dating, and keeping up with my hobbies like working out at the gym and watching sports.

7) Tell me about your products.

I currently host and speak at dating seminars around the United States and provide one-on-one coaching in Tallahassee Florida and those are my only “products”. Meeting and dating women is a fun part of my life and definitely something I have put in a lot of time and effort getting good at, however right now there are other important parts of my life I am focusing on, so I’m not really trying to make a career out of it or do mass marketing. I am happy to meet with new people whether they are other coaches, pick-up artists, inquiring students, women who are interested in my coaching, or just normal guys who would like someone to talk to whether it be about their dating lives, my dating life, or anything else. I consider myself very friendly and approachable and have been through a lot in life so I can relate to most people on a genuine level regardless of their situations and I always enjoy meeting new people.

Pissed Off Asian

Hey guys. Bolo here. As some of you may know, I’m an Asian guy. Some of our non-Asian readers may be asking, “So what?” Well I’m tell you…being an Asian guy in the dating world can be tough. All around us we see Asian girls with all types of guys…white, black, brown…but we don’t see Asian men with other races. Why is this? I use to blame the media, family upbringings, Asian tradition…But blame is useless and took the power out of my hands. So I began my PUA journey…3 years later and my life has changed. Nowadays, it’s easy for me to go out and get girls.

Then I came across Asian Dating Super Stars….This is the resource I wish I had starting out. It’s a dating product designed especially for Asian men. My man Ryker Koh has brought together the best Asian PUAs together to share their secrets. This is something I wish I had when I first started getting into Pick Up. I caught up with Ryker…

Ryker Koh Interview

1. Tell Us A Little About Yourself And How You Got Into Pickup

Hey my fellow Asian readers, my name is Ryker and I entered pickup and seduction by complete and total accident. I first decided to aggressively improve this area of my life after I witnessed the phenomenal success of one Asian friend of mine.

This Asian dude was just a ordinary, confident yet somewhat quiet guy, but when it came to talking to women, he was a freaking beast with women. This guy was absolutely sick.

He was one of those guys who was born with pin-point precise natural ability to just enter a conversation with just about any girl he met and get her attracted in minutes. And he wasn’t even doing any magic tricks, any NLP patterns, any direct-game. Heck, this was back in 2000 before the community was famous.

All this guy did was talk about plain, simple stuff like hobbies and her life, and his life and fashion and entertainment, just about pretty normal stuff. But man, did these girls stick to him like bees to a honey.

And all the time, I stood there wondering, man, these topics he talks about are plain as peas and even sometimes about as interesting as watching grass grow but how the heck was he getting all these crazy results.

So I cornered the guy and decided to ask him and the thing was this dude had no idea what he was doing right, so everytime I started asking him for advice, he would squint and look really confused and feed me pretty feeble advice like “Just be natural, just be cool” which thinking back now, was precisely what he was doing. But because I was so way off the mark in my own skills, I still wound up getting no success.

And it was until I began aggressively studying and practicing “live” in the field, crashing and burning multiple times before I actually got good. But every since I was young, I have been blessed with a pretty thick skin, so even though I was humiliated and left embarrassed more than a few times, I licked my emotional wounds and soldiered on.

Now, all the time, I had another group of Asian friends who were also studying pickup and these guys really bought just about every course on the market. And these guys were really studious, they flooded their brains with pickup theory and could recite routines backwards in their sleep.

But their dating lives were still disappointing. No love, no girls and they still led pretty sad and lonely lives.

So one day, I asked them – “Yo guys, you have been studying this stuff for close to 2 years now, why do you still go home to a dark, empty house and sleep in your bed alone every night?”

And then, slowly, they began revealing a lot of limiting beliefs they had about being Asian, the whole Asian culture, Asian parents, Asian upbringing and as they did so, I winced and felt their pain because I too am Asian, and I had to overcome these same issues too.

And I thought to myself – hey, it’s time for the Asian man to stop feeling sorry and pathetic for himself. It’s time to get some respect, hence I created Asian Dating Superstars.

2. Why do you think Asian men have such a hard time dating and can’t get white girls? And why do Asian girls always seem to go with white guys?

This is a freaking awesome question.

Now let me break this down.

Why do Asian men have such a hard time dating?

Here’s the 3 biggest reasons.

Firstly, they spend too much time worrying and fearing that girls will mock them and dislike them straight away because they are Asian. No kidding, before they walk up, they feel the girls are already against them.

Now, most guys I know have 2 reactions to this. The first group decideds to resign himself to this sad fate and they slink away into the darkness, too afraid to approach. The second react in anger and outrage, and they approach over-aggressively, like they have a point to prove, and therefore scare the poor girl off.

Both positions assume an immediate “under-dog” mindset – that being Asian is some limitation to overcome.

Now most Asian guys feel this way because the media has been a total asshole and has flooded movies with a ton of negative Asian male stereotypes. Asians in movies are either the loser who is teased and mocked at by guys and girls alike, or the kungfu master who spends the whole show kicking ass and mouthing heavily-accented Chinese.

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Both of which are not the most attractive of male characters.

And prolonged watching of this Hollywood garbage means that most Asian guys have slowly assimilated this poisonous identity. Add to that the very lack of positive Asian male stereotypes and you have a growing generation of Asian men who think that being nerdy and geeky is the meaning of being Asian, which is a bunch of horsecrap.

Now the whole Asian upbringing by our parents and the whole Asian culture as an entity is such that we value obedience, harmony and respect, more than being vocal, over-expressive and opinionated.

Most Asian guys reading this know that when you are young and you decide to get too cocky, your boldness is not praised but immediately punished with a slap across the face.

After a while, you learn that the best way to live is to be quiet, be obedient and not say too much. We play it safe, we don’t over-step the boundaries, and we work hard – which is all and good, but it is absolutely destructive when you bring that attitude to meeting women.

The common complaint white girls and even just girls have in general about Asian guys are they are just too quiet, too stoic, too non-expressive. They sit in the corner, have barely nothing to say, just stare at the girl and after a while, the girl is either creeped out or she just plain overlooks you and thinks you are transparent.

Heck, sometimes she might even forget your name, and that you even existed. And that sucks.

Finally, as a culture, Asian guys are born thinking and analyzing a lot more. Just look at the number of computer scientists, engineers and mathematicians we produce as a culture, we are born analytical and we can break things down quickly.

Asian men vs. White men

Now, while that’s good for getting through college, that sucks for talking to girls because most Asian guys spend the whole time, plotting their next move like playing Chinese Chess. They try to over-think the interaction, second-guess the girl when they should be paying attention to her.

The end result is the conversation gets awkward, or the girl just feels she is ignored and that you are not paying attention to her and she walks off in an angry puff, leaving you there standing all alone with your drink in your hand.

Now why do Asian girls go with white guys? It’s not a race issue, I am not going to over-generalize here because I know there are Asian girls who are only into white guys but most Asian girls as a whole have no specific preference.

They are just into confident guys who make them feel good. And since Asian guys are not doing as good a job as white guys, Asian girls naturally pick the next best alternative.

As a culture, Asian guys should stop hating on white guys for “stealing” Asian women, neither should we be hating for Asian women for being “traitors” and “sleeping with the enemy”. It’s precisely that kind of thinking that leads to Asian guys struggling and failing with women.

3. What are some things Asian men can do to improve their dating lives?

Great question again. Here’s what I suggest Asian guys do.

Firstly, the only and best way to break a a stereotype in your head is to find a strong role-model, so dominant and so completely different that just watching or listening to him completely and permanently smashes all limiting beliefs you ever had.

When you feel such a role model, so strong, so capable, so full of confidence and ability and you hear his stories, his thoughts and listen to him talk, you will immediately realize that all you once believed was false, and that being Asian is not a handicap, and that Asians can get good with women.

In my product Asian Dating Superstars, I don’t just provide you with one role model – I provide you with 12!

No kidding, 12 Asian guys who have had to rise from deeper ashes than most probably all the Asian readers reading this right now.

Some of them had to endure more shame, teasing, mocking, racist Asian comments than you can ever imagine, but each of them rose above these to become successful.

So when you listen to their stories and their thoughts, you begin to think – hey these guys are Asian, they understand how I feel but they too manage to succeed, maybe I can do this after all!

And you bet they understand how you feel, because they have the same, (if not deeper) emotional scars to prove it – and having walked the path you have walked, they can fix your issues faster than anyone else can.

The next important thing is to understand that reality can definitely be shifted and changed, but ONLY if you know how.

A lot of Asian guys have gone through their entire lives so far with no success with girls, and they automatically assume it’s lights out and game over for them. They assume they are destined to die single, and that no girl will even take a fancy to them.

WRONG!

Look, the 12 Asian dating coaches on my product each started in about the same bad shape as most Asian guys. Rejected left and right, girls avoiding them or toying with them before breaking their hearts, they have all been there.

But look where they are now, the same guys who used to laugh at them are now their students. You can be just as successful if you know how.

What I have done with Asian Dating Superstars is gotten them to reveal their own personal journey and transformation, and the very best of their personal learnings – and along the way, shatter every single one of the common limiting beliefs most Asian guys have that prevents them from succeeding.

Quite a few Asian guys carry a ton of emotional baggage when it comes to meeting and attracting women and you bet the women can sense it. They can smell if you have low-esteem, if you are afraid, if you don’t think much of yourself.

The key is after listening to the Asian Dating Superstar series, you will learn to drop a lot of this emotional baggage you’ve been carrying for so long, and begin to feel better about being an Asian male, regardless of what your past history is.

It’s like that strange moment of total clarity when you realize that yes, I can actually do this and you feel absolute self-confidence.

And one final piece of advice is this. You have to take risks.

Quit being too safe, too obedient, there are times when there is an opportunity you want right in front of you, and you have to squash everything else and go and grab it.

Screw being obedient all the time, sometimes when fear pops up, you gotta kick it in the balls and just charge forward to get what you want. You gotta be bigger than your fear.

Go do it, and don’t think. Who cares what they think? Please yourself first, and if you really want to do something, go ahead and do it, without fear or need of approval.

In Asian Dating Superstars, I get the 12 Asian coaches to reveal how they used highly-effective techniques to re-wire their previously negative and harmful thinking, and enable them to achieve great confidence with women.

With this, you will learn how to get in touch with your natural masculine self and build unstoppable confidence. The fears and insecurities you had previously will melt away and you will find that your hands stop shaking, your teeth stop chattering and you stop shivering or stammering when you talk to girls.

You will be more expressive, more fluid and more natural.

I have not seen any other program out there this specific for the Asian population. I am Asian and I have been in the dumps before, girls rejecting me like I was invisible and transparent so I know exactly how Asian guys feel.

I am going to go one step further and say this – if you want to stop being rejected by women, stop feeling insecure about being Asian, stop leaving parties and social events feeling shitty and disappointed with your lack of confidence, you will find the solution right here.

Do it for yourself. You deserve it this time.

It’s time for Asian men to stop feeling sorry for themselves and to dust themselves up and get the respect we have always deserved, both as an individual and as a culture.

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Pick Up Artist are generally viewed in a negative light. One PUA who courts this controversy is Roosh, who expresses his strong opinions on his blog. Roosh is a PUA who gained popularity after writing about the D.C. dating scene. Now he has moved on to South America to continue his adventures. We got to chat with Roosh.

Basic Questions
1) How did you get into pickup?

I was reading a business forum in 2001 when someone randomly posted a link to Tony’s Layguide. As I was not getting laid, I studied the guide for a couple months then tried out some of the techniques. They worked and I just kept going.

2) What is your dating philosophy?

No matter what stage of the game you are at right now or how ugly you are there is a girl out there that will fuck you and the only way to find her is to keep approaching until you succeed. The mere act of approaching is the most important thing a guy can do.

3) How did you get good at dating to become an authority on it?

I’m sure there are tons of guys who are better than me, but my skill comes in explaining it in a clear way that other guys can understand and apply it to their own lives. Everyone knows a natural who bangs tons of women but who has retarded advice like “Be yourself” or “Smile.” He can never be an authority because he has no clue what works and what doesn’t. On the other hand I feel like I  know what will help the average guy.

4)What do you think guys greatest mistake with women is?

They’re too needy. You can see it in their eyes when they’re talking to a girl—it’s like everything collapses in the background and the sole reason for his existence is to give this new girl his undivided attention. This goes hand-in-hand with confidence issues because a guy who thinks he doesn’t deserve a hot girl will wet his pants if he just finds himself in a conversation with one. He sinks her claws in her and of course it turns her off. I think a lot of guys can be served well by adopting an aloof and indifferent mindset.

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

It depends on the guy and what he wants. If quality to me is a Latin girl who loves to dance then I’d hit the salsa clubs. If I want a girl-next-door bookworm then the coffee shop. If I want a vapid, hot girl then I’d go to the club. A guy needs to find out what he wants and then figure out the place that has it. There is no magic place that has a neverending supply of quality.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

Be cool. Do you think a cool guy has to think about ways to expand his social circle? No because other people are trying to hang out with him, calling him on Saturday afternoon trying to figure out his plans. The better question is how can you be an interesting person to both guys and girls so that they want to hang out with you.

7) What was your life like when you weren’t good with women? What is it like now?

I played computer games (Warcraft, Starcraft) and poker with other guys who also sucked with women. It was a vicious cycle: hanging out with guys who were just as bad as I was, our skill never improving. I still believed that one day I’d get lucky and meet a hot girl who would find my lack of confidence, self-esteem, and conversational ability endearing. I also believed that being friends with a girl first was the best way to have sex with her. It never worked. Whereas then it was a huge deal to have an interaction with a pretty girl, it’s less significant now. I work on many girls at the same time and always have options. If one girl is acting flakey then it’s no big deal because there are others I can get with.

8 ) What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

Breaking up with her. In the course of our first conversation there is going to be something that highlights one of our differences (e.g. she likes dogs and I like cats). Then I tell her that while we had some good times, I can’t continue the relationship and it’s best if we go our separate ways (while holding her hand or touching her in some way). I’m in Colombia now and I made sure to translate this little routine into Spanish.

9) Do you use props? If so, what gets the most reactions?

I don’t use props, but I think my beard and mop-like haircut is a prop in itself.

10) What is your biggest sticking point?

Sometimes there is a girl I want to talk to but I tap into my experience and determine that, based on my previous approaches in this type of situation, the interaction will not go well and I should just save my energy by not doing anything. In effect I feel like I can predict the future, but of course no one can and I probably cost myself quite a bit by pretending I know how things would turn out. I make things harder on myself by overthinking.

11) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

I would say David D’Angelo. His “cocky and funny” concept was very easy to understand and implement, and did the most to help me understand how attraction works. I’ve toned down the cocky quite a bit and found that humor alone is just as potent assuming you are confident. If not then you will come across as silly or goofy.

12) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

It was my last year in college and I asked a girl out to the movies, but she said she was busy. Two weeks later I saw her on campus holding hands with another guy and I realized that I had to make some changes if I wanted to get the girls I wanted.

13) What advice do you give to newbies starting out?

Hit the gym. It’s the most reliable way to improve a guy’s confidence, and he’s going to need every bit he can when it’s time to walk up to girls.

14) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

Just being normal. Lot of guys are studying all these lines and routines and it comes across as weird and sometimes creepy. If you observe naturals, they’re having a normal conversation with just a few jokes or cocky bits thrown in, but not everything they’re saying is game. Being a normal, confident guy who can have a laugh is usually all you need to get laid with cute girls.

15) What are you goals for the community? Your life?

When it comes to the community I think guys need to be careful about who they idolize. Because no one guy is going to have the answers (including myself), they should pick and choose the advice that fits their personality or lifestyle best. I understand this is a big business now but guys should be skeptical of everyone. I’m at the stage of my life where I have a lot of experiences that I can share, and that I know helps others. I like passing wisdom I’ve learned.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to South America?

It came down to money and language. The two other parts of the world that I was interested in was Eastern Europe and Southeast Asia, but I really loved how in South American I only needed to know two languages to get by. Plus I like women with darker, tanned features and curvy bodies, which South America has.

2) What’s the difference between sarging in North America and South America?

The logistics are about five times easier in N. America. Girls have their own apartments. They like to drink (a lot). They don’t have to be home by a certain hour. They don’t hang out in huge groups. They aren’t strict Catholics. And most importantly, they speak the same language as you do. I think a lot of guys have the view that getting laid while traveling is easier, but that’s only the case if you have a lot of trouble getting laid in your own country. If you think you’re going to visit a new city every few days and get laid in each one, you will be sorely disapointed. You’re going to need your own cell phone, you’re going to need time to find places that have the girls, and you’re going to need your own place (or at least know where there is a love motel). Otherwise you’ll be counting on luck quite a bit.

I’m still surprised that being a gringo hurts more than it helps. The quality girls that you want are not looking for some one night fling with a guy she can barely communicate with. She wants that connection too. If you don’t want to dip into the dregs with the poor girls, you’ll have to work quite hard for quality. That includes studying the local language and building roots in one city for an extended period of time.

3) What country do you like best and why? What about women-wise?

My favorite country is Brazil. The country itself doesn’t is an oddball in S. America because it’s so much more colorful and exciting than all the other countries (and dangerous too, unfortunately). It’s a happy place to be in, and while it’s the most expensive country in S. America I think it’s worth it. The women are extremely sensual. They know how to dress and walk, and most importantly of all, please a man. Once you go Brazilian, you don’t go back. And yes, they like gringos.

4) Can you relate a success story about one of your clients?

When I was in the States I was teaching a day game workshop every weekend. I had two students at a time and one of my students was attending a small college. He had practically no approach experience. I ran the lecture and then we went out to various venues like the coffee shop, clothing store, and eventually the street. Now the street is the hardest place to pick up a girl, but there he picked up a very cute girl using the material I taught him. I hear from him every few weeks and he tells me how much progress he’s making. I want to take all the credit, but of course I know that a lot of guys simply need a nudge in the right direction. He’s doing things now that I didn’t teach him and that’s because his early successes keeps pushing him to approach and continue. In only one year I know he’s going to be very good.

5) Why did you choose the name Roosh?

Roosh is my nickname that I’ve had since high school. I probably should have thought harder about using it online because girls google “roosh” often and my blog is the first result. It gets me into trouble all the time.

6) What are your fundamental teachings?

Approach indirectly in large numbers to aquire the experience needed to know how to talk to a girl and make her laugh. Learn the little tricks that take the interaction from one stage to the next. Don’t worry about quality until you get a solid grasp of how the game works.

7) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

I think I’m less of a sell out. I put out a quality book at a low price and genuinely want to help guys. Even my workshop was so cheap that a bunch of my students said I should charge more. Others have helped me when I was coming up and I want to return the favor. I’d do it for free if I had a trust fund or lottery winnings.

8 ) Your known as a misogynist / sexist pig in the community. How do you respond to that?

I think it’s disingenuous to say you love women but want to have sex with a lot of them. It’s a fact that the less you value women, the more you see them as worthless whores, the more of them you will have sex with. I’ve simply adopted the right mindset for my goals. Guys who think women are flawless princesses will not get many bangs out of the game.

9) You’re a well-known blogger (enough to get a parody site). What can you tell us about blogging and your blog?

I’ve had a blog in one form of another since college but things really took off when I focused on the Washington DC area and blogged almost exclusively about girls and nightlife. Gradually the audience grew to where I was making enough money from advertising and book sales to quit my job. I don’t make nearly as much as when I worked, but it’s enough to live in a third-world country such as Colombia or Argentina. My current blog is going on its fifth year, and while it doesn’t bring me as much joy as it used to (at times it feels like a job), I still have a lot of things that I want to share. I may blog less in the future but I don’t think I’ll stop it completely.

10) Tell me about your products.

Right now I only have my book Bang. I wrote it when I felt confident enough about the level of my game that my knowledge would be worth paying for. It has five chapters: Internal Game, Early Game, Middle Game, Late Game, and End Game, and describes step-by-step what you need to do to from the appraoch to sealing the deal. I even talk about the order you should remove a girl’s clothes in bed, something that I haven’t seen other guys do.

11) What are your plans for the future?

I’m working on a memoir now about my previous trip to South America which I hope to be done with by fall of 2009. After that I start work on a day game book, and I have other ideas for books in the future. I think book writing is what I will be focusing my time on for the next couple years, until I get into straight-up pimping.

What should you say to them? Ask Karea.

Karea is one of those dating coaches who you’ve probably never heard of but who your favorite Pick Up Guru knows and respects. He’s currently traveling South America and it was a crazy coincidence that LatinStylez and I met him (He found us by googleing for Colombia Wings and turns out he knows the Pick Up Asia crew). It just goes to show you all the different types of people you can meet when you travel.

1) How did you get into pickup?

I got lucky: when I was 16, I had a music teacher who was a real Casanova. He always had 4 girl-friends, he pushed me into sets when I was too shy to talk to girls and taught me more about women than about chords and scales. Years later, I met a natural who taught me a few more things and that’s when I really started cold approaching on my own. Only another 2 years later, in 2004, a friend of mine told me: “You know, there is a community on the internet of guys like you. They call themselves pickup artists.” I was skeptical – how much could these computer geeks really know about women? Haha. Little did I know. (:

2) What is your dating philosophy?

“Stack work is no less important for a PUA than it is for a comedian.” All the very best PUAs I know have a gameplan – Sinn, Captain Jack, Vision, Mystery, Style… If you write a stack, and then go out and run it often, it’s almost inevitable that you will improve. It’s also almost inevitable that your dating life will be more abundant than you will have free time for. I see the whole “natural game” trend in the community and it’s something I did for several years myself… until I got invited on Mystery’s Lounge in 2006 and realized that it’s the only forum where people consistently post 6-8 new lay reports a month each! Now, whether that’s your goal or not is a different question – but it sure showed me that there is something to this stack work.

3) How did you get good at dating to become an authority on it?

Enthusiasm. I love talking about girls and I love talking to them. What I was really looking for in the community were like minded people – cause most of my friends just got bored when I talked about chicks all the time. (:

4) What do you think guys greatest mistake with women is?

Rather than answer this question myself, I recommend you ask some of your girl-friends about the lame things guys do to try and pick up on them or impress them. It’s actually pretty funny (:

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

Day game. Two years ago I made a list of all my ex girl-friends, to look for patterns. All relationships with girls I had met in night game were chaotic, to say the least. Some of the most wonderful girls I’ve dated, I met in day game. Other great PUAs I’ve talked to about this topic confirm this experience.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

You really only need one friend… he can introduce you to 5 people, who introduce you to 5 more people each, and soon there is no stopping it. The only limit on the size of your social circle should be the free time at hand. And once you have more friends than time to spend with, you can start to be more picky.

7) What was your life like when you weren’t good with women? What is it like now?

I already had a few little “girl-friends” in primary school that I snuck in the bathroom with to kiss, but around age 8 I got into the wrong peer group and ended up being mostly AFC until I was 19. From 19 – 21 I dated one of the prettiest girls from my year, which didn’t really help my social life much at all because the popular guy was in love with her and so all his peer group hated on me. Now? I’m now at a point where, because of my travels, I often have to start a life in a new city where I don’t know anybody – but I know that within a week or two I will have a beautiful girl-friend and a cool social circle.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

I’ll share a technique here that I came up with years ago when I was reverse engineering the secret to charisma. It is to treat everybody like they were your best friend from high school that you haven’t seen in ages. Not just any friend… your BEST friend. Really imagine you’re not talking to some dude you just met or to some girl with a bitch shield – imagine you’re talking to that one friend from high school that you had all these inside jokes with.

9) Do you use props? If so, what gets the most reactions?

Well, sometimes. I wouldn’t recommend to be dependant on props, but one thing I did for a while was to show girls some pics on my digital camera. You can obviously choose interesting pictures that make you look good, pictures of yourself being social, travelling, doing sports, being on stage, etc. But the one that always got the best reaction was a picture of a cat with two different eyes – a green one and a blue one. The girl would call her friends over and be like “oh my God, look at this cat! That is amazing”. By the time her friends looked at the cam, I’d already flipped to the next picture – a picture of a perfectly normal cat – and show it to her friends. They’d all look at her like “What’s wrong with you? That’s just a normal cat”. Haha. Good times.

10) What is your biggest sticking point?

State dependence. When I’m in state, I’m a rock star. When I’m not, I have AA… even after 7 years of cold approaching.

11) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

There are four I’d mention. David D is great for inner game, Mystery for outer. David Shade is the man when it comes to sexual mastery, and Captain Jack when it comes to Framing.

12) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

When I was 16, the music teacher I mentioned above told me that he used to be shy as a kid. I didn’t believe him… he was the most charismatic and social person I ever met, always the center of attention and flirting with beautiful women. But it showed me that these social skills are something that can be learned and practiced… and so I wanted to improve. Now, 12 years later, I’m the one who tells people that I was shy as a teenager – and they don’t believe me.

13) What advice do you give to newbies starting out?

It depends a lot on where they’re at and where they wanna go. But if somebody is not getting results with women, I warn them to stay away from “natural game” products. If being yourself hasn’t helped you so far, it won’t help you in the future just because you watched a DVD. In fact the schools that teach natural game are usually the ones that have forums almost void of lay-reports.

14) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

Fear. Fear of approaching, and fear of taking things to a romantic / physical level. Fear of saying something wrong and thus staying on safe, polite conversation. What helped me over this was to tell myself: “She is not my dream girl… she is not the perfect 10 that I will marry some day in the future… so this interaction doesn’t matter… at all.” Outcome independence, if you will.

15) What are your goals for the community? Your life?

Truth be told, I have achieved all the goals I set for myself in this area of my life… be it dating several dancers and models at the same time, or falling in love with one 10 and building an amazing, deep, exclusive relationship. So at the moment I’m enjoying the ride… but since I constantly work on my skills, the goal is mastery. You can always get better – there is no ceiling.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to South America?

I fell in love with this continent when I was a child, maybe 8 years old… we have family friends from there, and whenever they were around, I’d run up to them and go: “Cecilia, tell me about South America!” (: I was fascinated by her stories about the country… eternal summer, salsa music, perpetual smiles and beautiful people, great food and a cocktail under palm trees.

2) What’s the difference between sarging in North America and South America?

The three main differences, in my experience, are:
1.) Latinas don’t usually have bitch shields – they will be polite even if they’re not interested
2.) Latinas don’t cock block. If a girl sees that her friend likes you, she will usually help her get laid rather than sabotage it.
3.) Many Latinas are very catholic and conservative. They’re more flirtatious than Western girls and may even kiss you faster, but wait longer before they go all the way with a guy.

3) Can you relate a success story about one of your clients?

In 2008, I was teaching a lot of guys about relationship mastery, and I received great feedback from all my students. One of them was totally in love with a girl, but he didn’t know what to do about it and how to communicate with her… she obviously walked all over him. I coached him through the issues and I regularly get emails from him about how happy he is with the relationship now… it’s very satisfying for a teacher to see that.

4) Why did you choose the name Karea?

LOL. I had a different handle before, until a chick hacked into my email. Heaven hath no rage, nor hell a fury… The good side is, this made for a funny stalker story that I now tell in set sometimes.

5) What are your fundamental teachings?

There’s a lot… But one fundamental thing is definitely charisma – despite what I said about stack work above, I think it’s far more important to develop personal magnetism than it is to do body rocking or time constraints or negs or BHRR.

6) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

Much like Brad P, I figured a lot of stuff out before the community. So I know both perspectives – natural game and learned game – and how to integrate them with each other.

7) Your known as a “moral PUA” in the community. How do you respond to that?

Haha… yeah, I had a bunch of discussions with other famous PUA about this topic. I believe in pickup with harm to noone. I think it’s neither good nor necessary to destroy other people’s relationships, to cheat on your girl-friend or to lead girls on about your motives. If you truly have an abundance mindset, you will surely be able to find girls who are single, and be honest about it if you’re not ready to commit. Hey, I’m not pointing fingers here… I made mistakes in the past myself. But I experienced that there are ways to play this game win – win.

Tell me about your products.

I used to teach a Relationship Mastery Seminar with a major pickup company last year, and I’m also working on a product about Relationship Mastery myself, but it will be a few months at least before I’m ready to publish that. I also wrote some chapters for the number one Mexican pickup book, and for a book that will soon be published by LoveSystems (former Mystery Method) – about very fast lays in day game (within 15 minutes to 1 hour from meeting a girl).

Currently, I only do private consultations (over the phone or in person) about both those topics – pickup and relationships. So if you’re interested in talking to me and unfuck some sticking points, or simply to take your game to the next level, get in touch through the blog and we’ll have a chat. (:

My best to you all,

-Karea.

Want dating advice from Karea? Email karea at rocketmail.com

See more of them here and you can find bootcamp information if you are in Asia and are interested here

PUA Lingo.com launches: an in-depth look at old, present, and new seduction definitions and terminology.

Q: What is PUA Lingo?

A: PUA Lingo is the largest dictionary of PUA terms, acronyms, and definitionson the Internet. We wanted to make seduction terms and definitions easy to find and relevant, anytime, anywhere. It was important that the content was thoroughly researched so that artists can find relevant information on their specific topics.

Q: What are your backgrounds in pickup?
A: Casual started out after a long term relationship with a crush he had, when she told him they should just be friends (LJBF - let’s just be friends). I started back in San Francisco in 2006. One night I was having a bad night in San Francisco, and decided to walk out of the bar Holy Cow for some fresh air on the streets. Next to me a friend of a friend who always AMOG‘d me (asserted alpha-ness) came up, and for some reason started spilling some of his theories on game and happened to mention Neil Strauss’s book. I didn’t think much of it at the time, and only ordered the book out of curiosity a few weeks later. When I finally opened The Game, I could not put it down! For 2 days straight, I kept on reading, and over the next 6 months I went out with fellow newbie PUAs in San Francisco to put some of the theories to the test.

Q: So are you a master PUA now?
A: Far from it. Mastery is such an elusive term. I consider myself an intermediate, and am able to auto-correct now based on my actual field experiences and manage some successful pickups occasionally.

Q: Why did you start PUA Lingo?
A: We were really frustrated during our journeys to become mPUAs. There were a lot of pitfalls, paradoxes, and also the whole industry is very commercialized. Newbies often think that the next PU product is going to be the “magic pill” to get them laid. It takes times and practice. We were also experiencing a lot of confusion over pickup terms, and what they meant exactly in the context of a specific school of thought. For example, “Identity” means totally different things in MM and in RSD. Did you know that?

Q: What if you guys are wrong?
A: We took a painstaking 3 months straight to first do the research. Before we even launched the site, we had well over 300 terms that we researched, compared and cross analyzed with all of the information (online and offline) out there. We think that the rating system, comments and the ability for others to submit new words will keep us honest and continue to have a 2 way dialogue with the users. Essentially, the aspiring artists that are here to learn.

A: We have only tapped 10% of all the terms out there, and the more we do, the more we realize we have not done! We want to make the site informative. Also, we have added pictures to terms that often eluded full meaning with only words. For example, see DDBL - essentially, Ross’s original description of a doggy look from the girl. We want to make the site fun, so that PUAs can have laugh as well as learn about a new theme or thought through our definitions. We’d also liked to get more feedback and new words – there are so many variations of PU lingo from around the world, and we have only scratched the surface.

Casual
Webmaster, PUA Lingo
admin@pualingo.com

I hope you guys enjoy this special interview. I have gotten a chance to interview one of the top PUA’S  in Japan known as RedpoleQ. He is a personal friend of mine. We will be working together on some projects in the future as well.

Basic Questions
1) How did you get into pickup?

We offer 3 day boot camps that run over 25 hours.  Only about 5 hours of that is spent in seminar time while the other 20+ is spent in set, getting as much experience as possible under coaching. We have the Sexual Mastery Seminar which is really popular as well and focuses on developing sexual confidence–having the skills to be able to please any woman, and being able to live out your sexual fantasies. I just put out a 40-minute audio, called “Debunking 7 PickUp Myths” that does just that by discussing some of the big controversies in the pickup community like that around “natural game”, “negs”, and indirect vs. direct openers.  You can find it a www.redpoleq.com

I got into pickup by desperately needing it, and through my desperation, I found a website called ‘www.pickupguide.com‘.

I believe that the masculine and the feminine are both thrown into this ‘dating game’ by the gods with different advantages and disadvantages, and in the end want to share deeply intimate moments with each other.

I started with the end in mind.  I knew that I wanted to be an authority in dating in Asia, and so I decided to go to Korea and build my vision from the first step ‘going to Asia’. From there, I realized that I needed three things to build my skills:  Experience, support and mentorship.  I gained experience by going out regularly, support by going out with wings from the KoreaLair and mentorship from PickupAsia.  The recipe was designed for me to succeed.   Then my first niche became being successful with Korean women in their culture, and currently I’m the only PUA who is an authority in Korea.

The biggest mistake I see guys make is not take enough risks.  Guys make the mistake of either not going to talk to the woman, or not ‘pulling the trigger’ when it comes to sex, when clearly the women want them to.  In other words, the biggest mistake that men make is thinking that women will act like men when it comes to dating and lead the interaction. Men need to understand that they need to lead, and women will give them the feedback they need to take the interaction where it needs to go, just like driving a car from point A to point B.

5) In your experience, what is the best place to find a quality girlfriend?

First of all, I want your readers to know that finding a “quality girlfriend” isn’t the only ultimate goal that Pickup can offer you, or the only goal that any student of Pickup should shoot for.  To answer your question, there must be some groundwork set up.  A man must both know what qualities a woman has to be his quality girlfriend, and that he is worthy of such a woman.  Once a man knows that, he can get an idea of where to find her and what she’ll be like.  So for example, if guy#1 likes a woman who exercises a lot, and is studious, he has the best chances of meeting her at a University gym.  If guy#2 likes a woman who is extravagant and gorgeous then he can meet her in clubs.

6) What are some ways to enlarge your social circle?

Build it with the endgoal in mind.  I wanted a social circle that would allow me to accomplish my goals of being a Pickup master, businessman, teacher and lover.  Currently, my social circle involves Pickup Masters, Business Mentors, fellow PUAs, and my women.   To build a social circle, learn to cultivate value and give it to the people you want to attract into your social circle.  The next step would be to become a social node, where you make yourself the person to talk to when your social circle wants something of valuable.

When I wasn’t good with women, I lived with a little demon by my side, that would torture me daily.  The demon was the knowledge of knowing that I didn’t have any sexual partners in my life, and that I didn’t know how to bring any into it.  Nowadays, I’ve finally put that demon to rest and can confidently move into other projects, such as teaching men how to get good with women.

What is one of your favorite techniques/tactics?

One technique I learned from RedpoleQ (www.redpoleQ.com) with PickupAsia is the “D-move”.  It involves taking the girls hand and putting it on your cock.  Yes, it’s very direct. Yes, it’s very sexual. The woman has no doubts of your intentions, and now knows that it’s time for her to step up to the plate as she’s with a man who knows what he wants, or go home.

Yes I do.  Props are non-verbal ways of showing women who you are and what you’re about.  My props evolve around the theme of travelling and learning about cultures, as does my game BECAUSE my quality girl is into those things.  What gets me the most reactions are women who are into traveling and cultures.

10) What pick up artist has inspired you the most? What did you learn from them?

Kid44  (www.PickupAsia.com)  I’m fortunate enough to have him in my social circle, and have been able to learn from him.  He taught me a lot non-verbally as well as verbally. Him and RedpoleQ have really taught me about giving a lot of value to people, and how to teach PickUp as well as business ethics.

11) Describe the moment when your realized you need to work on this part of your life.

For me, I always needed to work on that part of my life. I never believed that some had “it” and some didn’t. It wasn’t until the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back” was when I was in love with a girl I didn’t want to be, and when I saw her with another guy yet she knew how I felt about her.

Dream big, and start small. Have a vision of what you want firmly in your mind and make sure it moves you. Whether it be to get out of a depression you’re dealing with for being lonely, or wanting to be as famous as Mystery, or being able to “just know” that you can get girls.  Then be sure to start with small goals at first, such as the “newbie missions”, joining a Lair or a forum such as www.pickupasiaforum.com WITH THE GOAL of finding wingmen and mentors.  If you really want to invest in yourself and cut down the time it takes to improve, definitely consider taking a bootcamp. If you’re in Asia, I strongly recommend the people I took a bootcamp from: PickupAsia (www.pickupasia.com)

13) In your experience, what is the biggest issue for guys getting attraction from women?

In my opinion, being able to generate ‘attraction’ is overrated.  The fact is that it doesn’t take much for a woman to be attracted to you. the biggest issue is guys not believing that they are worthy of a woman’s attraction, not to mention sexual lust, and being able to move on in the process of going from ‘meet to sex’.

14) What are you goals for the community? Your life?

My goals with it the community is to build it in Asia, and see that it’s helping people on this side of the world.  For my life, my goal is to attract better experiences in my life, including women, health and wealth, and I wish the same for everyone else.

Specialized Questions

1) Why did you choose to come to Korea/Japan/etc?

I chose Korea because of my personal fascination with it. Ever since I was a child I was involved with Korean culture through Taekwondo and loved it.  I’m also in love with Asian women, specifically Korean at this point in my life.

The clients who have been most successful with what I and fellow partners have to offer are those that learned from us and went out regularly to implement what we had to teach while coming back to us for support.  In other words, the successful ones are those who took action.

One student that comes to mind read my e-book and then took a bootcamp with PickupAsia but most importantly, he’s going out in the field and practicing what he’s paid good money to learn and has gotten some impressive results:  He went from powerlessness with respect to women, to having had sex after a bit more one month, and still making progress.

3) Why did you choose the name _BlueMystery__?
It’s really silly lol.  I chose ‘Blue’ because my favorite band at the time was, and is “Deepest Blue” (I recommend listening to them on Youtube) and ‘Mystery’ because at the time, I was using ‘mystery’ as a main tool to picking up women.  Now it’s changed and I love being open to the women I’m talking to.

4) How do you differ from other dating coaches?

My focus is specifically on Korean women and culture at this time.  PickupAsia and I are currently working on helping Foreign and Asian men have amazing relationships in Asia and with Asian women as we currently help men in both Korea and Japan.  Soon we will be able to help men in Australia, China, Taiwan and more.

5) Your known as a(n) expert in Korea in the community. How do you respond to that?
I appreciate what the community has done for me, and will always consider myself to be a brother of that group. It has helped me and I’m honored to help it back.