Here are a few solutions that I use pretty regularly:

1) Observations. Make an observation about ANYTHING around you. It could be, “Isn’t this weather great?” if you’re day gaming or, “Hey look at those two over there ya think they’re gonna hook up later?” if you’re at a nightclub. Women LOVE talking about people so if you can make a comment about people around you then they will have fun with it.

2) “So how do you and your friends here know each other?” Anyone who have ever been in set with me a lot knows I use that line about as frequently as Charlie Sheen uses prostitutes. It’s a SOCIAL question that will get your target talking and she will eventually say something you can easily make a comment on to continue the conversation.

3) LEAD her somewhere. Those of you who know what I teach or are familiar with social psychology know that I’m a big fan of INVESTMENT. Basically the more she says, “yes” to your requests the more likely she will be to say “yes” later. SO if you say something simple like, “Let’s go to the bar and get shots,” or “Let’s go outside for some fresh air,” or “Let’s find somewhere we can sit down and hear each other talk better,” not only is it something NEW and FUN to do and demonstrating that you’re a leader; it’s also making her start to invest in you.

4) Say something you notice about her OTHER than her looks. For example, all the time I tell women that I appreciate a woman with a sense of style or a woman who actually has a REAL passion for something and is going somewhere in life. Saying something like that to a woman will help establish the type of connection she possibly hasn’t had all her life. She probably gets compliments about her hotness 10 times a day but NEVER about where she’s actually going in life and spends most of her time during the week working towards.

5) Basic flirting. There’s a million ways to flirt; my favorite is playful cockiness and role-reversal and pretending like she keeps trying to have sex with me. Kill the silence with, “Listen I know my good looks are distracting but it’s okay to talk with me also,” or something like, “You know what we should do. We should travel the world teaching people how to be awesome. If we did that years ago then there wouldn’t be so many idiots on TV like the Jersey Shore and the Kardashians.” Yes I know, my lines are brilliant, however the important thing isn’t to use lines; it’s to understand the PRINCIPLES behind them because then you can create your own on the spot!

6) Just shut up. Seriously. A lot of my female friends complain about when they meet hot guys and then the hot guys talk too much and it comes off as insecurity and they get turned off. Enjoy a few seconds of silence by just looking around and smiling and she’ll probably eventually say something to you. Thinking SUCKS and it’s against our male nature so the less thinking you do the more comfortable you will feel and the more opportunities SHE will have to speak and ask the right kind of questions she needs to ask to feel comfortable enough to hook up with you later.

7) Preparation. Before I have REALLY good nights I’ll usually get ready 2 hours before I plan on going out then for the hour before I go out I’ll have an energy drink, listen to some good music, and IMAGINE every possible situation I could get into that night and how to handle it properly. If you are prepared for every possible situation then you will win every time. If you KNOW how you’re going to open groups and singles, what conversation topics you can start, you know the venue you’re going to be gaming at, what you can say to get your target’s friends on your side, how you’re going to handle possible AMOG’s, have possible closing locations in mind and prepared if you’re going for a same night lay, and you’ve set up every advantage possible then your game is going to be better than 99% of the other guys who you will be competing with you for that target and you will be her best option.

Now what’s the first thing you think about when you see a hot girl? “Wow I’d love to fuck that,” is probably a popular thought. It’s probably my first thought – that’s for sure.

Sometimes pick-ups don’t always happen they way you plan them though. Sometimes your game is off. Or sometimes maybe she just isn’t in the mood and you THINK you did something wrong when you actually didn’t. It’s dilemmas like these that make picking up chicks confusing at times and seem to not make much sense.

Rather than trying to make sense of everything though (which I understand can be difficult being a man) you can still rebound from a failed pick-up with a hot chick by keeping in contact with her and doing a lot of other great things that do wonders for your social intuition and lead to more success in the future. Personally I have benefited more from feedback from my female friends and introductions through my social circles than any cold approach skill I have ever learned.

Am I saying you should take pick-up advice from women? Fuck no. That’s like asking me for relationship maintenance advice. Whenever you consider learning anything from anyone you should always ask yourself, “Is this person QUALIFIED to give me advice on this topic?” Most women have never spend a day in their life trying to pick up another woman so taking their advice on how to proactively do it makes about as much sense as going to a doctor without a college degree.

One way befriending women CAN benefit you though is by providing helpful feedback by correcting shit you’re definitely doing wrong. If your hair or clothing style is whack, a woman will tell you the truth about it. If you try to pick up a chick and fail, another chick can probably tell you how you fucked it up. If you get last minute resistance and explain the story to a chick she can probably explain how the other chick was feeling because she can relate. Women are terrible for giving pick-up advice but great for making corrections and providing feedback. Hope that makes sense.

Another way befriending women can benefit you is by providing access to their social networks! Women, by nature, are more social than men and probably have a lot more acquaintances than you do. Probably half of my lays or more are a direct result of being introduced through another woman with whom I am friends with. The reason female introductions are so powerful is because women can relate to each other better than men, therefore if a girl tells another girl that you’re cool she’s going to believe it A LOT more than if some guy says it.

Many of you are probably aware of the “power” hot women have in nightclubs. They have the CHOICE to either talk to guys or not to talk to guys and there’s nothing (legal) we can do to change that. We can’t MAKE anyone do anything, which is why attraction is so valuable. If we want to take a walk, we can take a walk. If we want to go get some fast food, we can get some fast food. If we want attraction from a woman, guess what it’s not as easy and THAT is why we value it so much and THAT is why women at nightclubs are so powerful.

Did you know that women are accepted as currency in more countries than Visa? Well, guess what having hot women at the club with you is: club currency (as I like to call it). If you see a guy at a nightclub with 10 women around him you will probably think he has more “status” than a guy at a club by himself or with a few of his guy friends. And the REASON we think that is because we can OBSERVE and UNDERSTAND more about him than anyone else without “social proof”. Check out my article on social proof for more info. The point is that befriending women can be the difference between you being “just another guy” at a social event that nobody pays attention to and being a rock star that everyone wants to meet.

Understanding this takes empathy. Imagine you are a hot girl. Some guy you barely know introduces his guy friend to you. What are you thinking? “These guys are probably friends and wingmen and this guy is probably trying to help his buddy get in my pants.” Now imagine if one of your girlfriends you’ve known for years introduces you to a guy. You’re going to think, “Wow my friend approves of this guy SO MUCH that she’s actually introducing him to me to make me happy.” Notice the difference.

NOW you need to develop the social intuition to know whether a hot girl is better off as your target or as your friend because BOTH are great opportunities and you don’t want to fuck up either of them. Obviously “fuck her” is going to be your first choice because that’s just how we men think. If you go TOO FAR though with the pick-up attempt she’ll probably never want to see you again afterward. At the SAME time if you get in the friend zone with her you probably aren’t ever getting out and MIGHT have fucked up your only chance to fuck her.

So how do you know?

The best way to know is to know whether or not you DEFINITELY have attraction and we are all familiar with the “games” women play which makes it seem fucking impossible to tell sometimes whether she is into you or not. The reason for that is simply because every woman is DIFFERENT therefore we can’t expect them to be as consistent and reliable as our guy friends are with our behavior. Women are full of complex emotions so trying to “herd” them all into one category with a logical solution is just shooting yourself in the foot.

What is the best way to know if you have attraction? Simple.

IS SHE FOLLOWING YOUR LEAD?

The more she follows your lead the more she is investing in the interaction and the more she is convincing herself to like you. Ever hear a woman say to anyone, “Why the fuck am I with this guy?” The answer is because she has INVESTED so much in him, it would be very discomforting to know that she invested in something that failed and for her it is actually EASIER to go along with her consistent behavior than to take a massive hit to her ego.

The more a woman will follow you, the more attraction you have. Did she actually follow you to the bar to get shots when you suggested it? Did she go with you to sit on a nearby couch? Did she give you her number? Did she agree to a date? Does she text back quickly or answer when you call? Did she actually meet you somewhere for a date? These are all questions you can ask yourself to KNOW how much she is REALLY into you.

I have had women not seem to like me AT ALL but they still followed my lead. We had no emotional connection or rapport whatsoever and I still took them home and got the lays.

On the flip side I have also had women seem TOTALLY into me and then flake on me or not come back to my place when I suggest it. Well guess what, she just wasn’t that into me.

By my experience, whether or not she “follows my lead” and how often she says “yes” to my requests has been the ONLY clean cut way to determine whether a woman has been into me or not and when you look back on YOUR past experiences you will probably notice it too and a light bulb will turn on in your head.

Isn’t it awesome when things make sense?

SO the choice is up to you. If she is following your lead, she is probably attracted to you on a romantic or sexual level and wants you to make some moves. If not then she is probably just not that into you and you can gain a lot of benefits from being her friend. Obviously there is more to the “game” than just making her follow you, such as how to generate attraction, how to date, and how to close the deal, but understanding whether or not she is following your lead is a great way to determine whether or not she is CURRENTLY attracted to you, and whether you decide to keep going for that attraction or to benefit from friendship.

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Sincerely,
Falcon
Tallahassee Lair Chief

Do something fun. If you haven’t set up the date yet, think of something she will enjoy. Think about what you two talked about the first time you met and if you remember her saying that she enjoys something, whether it be having drinks, art, exercise, history, going to the beach, movies, cooking, exotic foods, or anything else try to set something similar up for the first date and she will automatically have a good time! The first date should be fun and light-hearted so do something you will both enjoy and things will go well.

The most important thing to understand on a first date is that she already likes you and she will most likely continue to like you. That means the “pick up” is over so if you used any “techniques” to pick her up then you don’t need them anymore! Picking up and dating are two totally different “games”. For example, having social status is great for picking up because it communicates to her that a lot of people like you which is great information for her when deciding whether to date you or not. On the other hand, having social status can also kill you during “dating” because it’s important to make her feel special which won’t happen if you seem to be preoccupied with other relationships.

The first way to prepare for a first date is to take care of the basics like hygiene, style, and being comfortable. Make sure your teeth are clean and you have fresh breath, make sure your body smells nice by wearing deodorant and cologne, wear clothing that fits you properly, and relax during the date. Again, she already likes you so don’t mess it up by missing one of the basics. If you have all these things handled than that will communicate to her that you’re a guy who takes care of himself and has his life together, which is absolutely necessary if you might be taking on the burden of taking care of someone else also.

Before you leave your place, visualize how the date is going to happen in a positive way. Imagine seeing her again and both of you smiling, imagine her loving the way you look and enjoying or laughing at everything you say, imagine how things are going to happen at the place you take her, and finally imagine how the date is going to end, whether it be a smile and a hug, a kiss, or sex. Whichever the outcome, make sure you are prepared.

Be completely honest 100% of the time. She already likes you so there’s no reason to try to make yourself sound cooler than you really are. She’s probably going to ask you questions about your major, your hobbies, and other things to find out more information about you and it’s very important that you are honest about it. A woman needs a man who she can trust so you need to be that man if you want the relationship to continue. If you think she looks pretty, tell her. If you think the date went really well and you want to hang out later in the week, tell her and make a suggestion.

Make decisions and be a leader. You are a man and if you have your life together and take what you want then you should be making all the first moves. If you want to go to the bar and have a drink, tell her. If you want to go somewhere after for dessert, tell her. If you want to go back to your place to show her something really cool, tell her. If you are really enjoying each others’ company and you think she is comfortable enough to kiss you, kiss her. If you end the date at a really comfortable location like one of your bedrooms and things are getting sexual, do what you have to do.

Understand that all women are individuals and treat them accordingly. Whatever happened in your past with women, either positive, negative, or both you shouldn’t let that affect a new opportunity with a new woman. Also understand that different women have different levels of comfort. Some get comfortable very early and some need more time. If you are a man who might be taking care of her in the future it is important that you are aware of her comfort levels and keep her happy.

Be a good listener. She already likes you so there is no reason to impress her by telling her more about yourself unless she asks. When the personality of a woman unfolds it is truly a beautiful thing and you will learn to appreciate the range of emotions and feelings she will be willing to share with you.

Finally, what happens between you two should stay between you two. Social reputation is something that a lot of young women have to deal with and you should respect that about her. Humans like to show different parts of their personalities around different people. For example you might be a student, an employee, a family person, an acquaintance, a friend, and a lover and it is important to most people that they show different sides of their personalities to different people.

For example, if I am dating a really amazing woman I might kiss her as soon as she walks in the door. If one of my guy friends comes over to watch a football game I’m not going to kiss him when he walks in the door.

Would you ever go to a doctor without a medical degree? No! So why would you ever take relationship advice from someone without great experiences? If you decide to share the details of your dating life than make sure to only listen to advice from people who are currently happy with his or her dating life.

Dating is all about being happy together with a person and having the opportunity to express yourself as a romantic person so you shouldn’t let anyone else get in the way of your being happy and if you keep the relationship details between the two of you then nothing can hold you back from being happy.

A few days ago someone asked me what my style of game was… which is a really interesting question and after I thought about it I realized my style of game is actually a lot different than most guys in the community, so with that taken into consideration here is a brief article on it.

Before I point out the trends in most of my lay reports and successful dates, it is important for everyone to realize that correlation is not causation, which by Wikipedia definition “is a phrase used in science and statistics to emphasize that correlation between two variables does not automatically imply that one causes the other.” Basically how this relates to my game is that I believe that just because I performed some action (preceding some pick-up “goal”) and then achieved that goal doesn’t mean that it was that particular action that necessarily caused that success, SO it is important throughout your journey of pick-up to never assume “this happened because of this” relationships.

For example, back in early 2009 I was running the M3 model and had some success, but that doesn’t mean the M3 model was necessarily what caused that success; it was likely just my social status, and because I had an abundance of it at the time the women probably overlooked the incongruent lines I was spilling and just wanted to be with a very “high status” guy.

For another example, if a really good-looking man types lay reports then you might be tempted to do whatever HE is doing to get laid… while what he’s doing actually has nothing to do with why he’s getting laid; he’s just a good looking dude sleeping with women who might be shallow, easy, or ugly and confusing everyone on a message board when the other members try the same things and then get confused when those things don’t work for them.

It took a long time for me to realize and really understand this concept and having this perception and being willing to admit that there is no “magic solution” to having success with any woman I want is one of the first things that has made me successful.

This brought me to the realization that no two women are the same, therefore no two pick-ups or lays will ever be very similar either because WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. For example, if a woman who is a 5 approaches every guy who visits this website at a nightclub and says, “Hey wanna get out of here and fuck?” some guys would say NO and some guys would say YES. Does it make her good at picking up guys in general? Yep. Does that make her good at picking up the guys she wants? Nope. And she could probably sell a book on her “method” that will get other women laid, but that doesn’t mean she actually knows how to pick up one PARTICULAR man because she hasn’t treated them as individuals.

I listen to women when they talk and treat them as individuals. Rather than thinking of the next line or routine to use, I often capitalize on silence by thinking, “Hmm is this the type of woman who might go home with me tonight or is she the kind I’ll need to wine & dine first?” and deciding how to react to her reactions (some call it social intuition) is one thing that makes me successful. If a woman seems down to fuck on the same night, it would be STUPID to get her number and set up a date. Similarly if she seems like the relationship type then it would be stupid to try to sleep with her that same night. Because we men are logical machines and most comfortable with logical solutions, the seduction community showers guys with generic lines and routines but never emphasizes that you have to LISTEN to women and understand them as individuals in order to lead in an effective manner, and I feel that understanding that all women are individuals and listening to them is one thing that contributes to my success and also the success of my friends who are naturals.

Social status. Statistically, social status continues to be a trend in the majority of my same night lay, and it is often as SIMPLE as just having a mutual friend and sometimes even be as simple as her SEEING me briefly talk with some of MY friends. I don’t know WHY social status is so powerful and maybe someone is nerdy enough to research it but it just IS and something I capitalize on. It could possibly be effective because social status demonstrates that you are a social human being and have meaningful relationships with other people. At the peak of my nightlife job I was experimenting with stupid lines that would never work for most people and still had success with many women just because of who I was and what I was known for in the nightlife community (demonstration of very high social status). Nowadays I don’t have that crutch anymore, however what I do have are friends who know friends who know friends (a large social network) and when I hang out with them or bump into them during the day, at work, at house parties, at the club or wherever, there is usually an opportunity to meet NEW people who can introduce me to someone else and USUALLY there will be a hot girl somewhere along the line I get introduced to and have immediate social status.

For an example, on a recent Friday night I met a woman at a local nightclub and had sex less than three hours later at my place without even knowing her name. Before approaching her she probably saw me talking with someone (with social status) who knew her and before our interaction we already had a commonality (mutual friends). By seeing me with someone she had rapport with or who she knew had social status, she could INSTANTLY trust me more than most of the other guys at that venue.

Another example, when I used to work at a retail clothing store I met a lot of pretty girls and when we went out they introduced me to their friends and I slept with a few of them with minimal “game”. They just assumed I was a great guy by what other people said about me.

Another thing that has been consistent with my success in 2010 is honesty: honesty to MYSELF about my strengths and weakness, and honesty to others (particularly women) about who I am and how I feel towards them. Everyone has God-given and self-accumulated strengths and weaknesses and it is important to accept those and go out to meet women with an understanding of that. If you go out with a false sense of overconfidence then you aren’t going to be yourself and women are going to pick up on that. If you have confidence from your accomplishments, which is totally different, it will come off as extremely attractive to women and they will pick up on that also whether you actually mention those accomplishments or not. My relationship mentor Speed C owns his own business and is very financially successful, and although he is very modest about it, people can instantly tell that he is a genuinely successful person and before meeting his serious girlfriend he was having success with new women like wildfire.

Honesty to others is also important and possibly the underlying principle of “direct game”. Women have to deal with a lot of dishonest guys and it can be refreshing to meet a guy who is completely honest. Whether it be opening direct or throwing out a statement of intent some time in the interaction, being honest about who I am and my feelings towards women has always been a commonality in my new lays, successful dates, and relationships.

Leading is absolutely necessary with the majority of women. Women want to be WANTED and the way you show that is by showing them that you want them by leading. If you think that one day a woman will approach you, tell you you’re sexy, and suggest you go back to her place, she is probably either a prostitute or you’re head is up in fairy land.

And to quote Kenny Powers, “These are the hard realities, guys. Life is not a fairy tale, although sometimes it feels like our world is full of fairies…”

For example, Friday night when I pulled that same night lay, I led her around to about 5 different parts of the club and at the end of the night told her to come back to my place and she did. If I were some guy following most “game” rules by talking about stupid chick stuff, boring her trying to build attraction or comfort, or being overly playful all night like her GIRL FRIENDS probably do than it would not have happened.

Having fun. Every time I go out I am in a good mood and having fun, EVEN if I did not want to go out at first and my friends dragged me out of the house, because by the time I am at ANY place where hot women are present I am instantly excited which results in fun behavior, and that comes from having a genuine love for women. You have to love women in order to pick them up. We have all had bad experiences with women but that doesn’t mean that they are ALL like that. Most of us have actually had quite a few AWESOME experiences with women also and focusing on that positivity makes it FUN to go out and meet new ones! Before you go out hoping to meet women it might help to VISUALIZE your past success or meeting a super hot woman and her being super into you. Those visualizations alone will motivate you to go out and have fun and expect good results.

Some people say, “Being a dancing monkey won’t get you laid.” That is true SOMETIMES. Some people say, “Don’t drink when you go out because it will impair your thinking.” The last thing I want to be doing when I go out at night to have FUN is to be THINKING all the time like I’m trying to work a calculus problem or something. Sometimes I end up drinking too much and/or having so MUCH fun I DON’T get laid, which is FINE because I did have a good time anyway. Most naturals have the same mindset and are totally cool with going home alone if they had a fun night anyway. Pick-up should never be taken so seriously that you have to follow certain “rules” and every night is a win or a loss. If you had FUN that night then that should have been a successful night!

In fact, many nights I go out to meet women I dance like an idiot, drink a lot, and DO end up having success. I actually find it hilarious that Friday night I had to stop kissing the girl at one point because all the alcohol made me dizzy. Saturday night I ended up drinking a lot also and singing songs with one of my guy friends outside the club like an idiot and DIDN’T have much success, but both nights I had fun and didn’t take the outcome of the night too seriously, despite different outcomes. So the most important thing here is that whatever your idea of fun is, do it and forget whatever “rules” the seduction community says you should have that might prevent a good time.

So in summary, here is my “style” of game: Understand that correlation is not causation, treat women as individuals and listen to them, demonstrate social status, be honest, lead, and have fun. And always wear a condom =]

Many guys want to achieve their maximum potential with women ultimately with intentions of finding an optimal mate. In order to do this it often requires meeting MANY women and figuring out what works and what doesn’t work for that particular individual. Success is only possibly if one is willing to spend a LOT of time in the “field” doing this. Some men who want to get particularly good at meeting women decide to skip getting the phone number, skip the dating process, and engage in sexual activity the same night they meet a woman. In the seduction community we call this “Same Night Lay” game rather than one night stands because we allow the possibility of sleeping with these women again in the future.

There are many benefits of SNL game. Firstly the quicker a woman sleeps with you the quicker she will start to like everything else about you. To avoid feeling like a slut, which is simply a negative term invented by her social peers, she will backwards-rationalize all the logical reasons she did sleep with you so quickly, although in reality it was an emotional reaction to your charm.

Because most SNL’s take place in bars and clubs, much of what is taught by other instructors is also effective in this situation such as projecting attractive qualities, disarming obstacles, and sexualizing. Firstly a woman needs to feel comfortable with you approaching her so if she realizes you are a social person, she will be more comfortable with your approach. One of the best ways to do this is to SHOW her that you have healthy relationships with others by simply talking to other people who are in her visible range. If she sees other women displaying attraction for you, this will be even more powerful, whether these other women are attractive or not. Most bars and clubs have dozens of women “dolled up” with make-up, high heels, and revealing clothes so very rarely do they feel like the hottest girl in the place, even though to you she might be. It is important to understand this before approaching and you will feel much more confident.

Most attractive women arrive to the venue in groups. Because it is your objective to get her alone, the best way to do this is to make friends with the group she is with. This can be easily achieved by talking to her male friends about sports and/or giving her female friends compliments or telling the group funny stories. In SNL game the woman you like NEEDS to feel sexual early in the game so one quick way to do this is to use sexual cold reads. A cold read is simply a situation where a woman provides you with basic information about herself and you interpret what it says about her personality. This principle is based on a Japanese study called “kokology” and there are many books on it. After a woman shows you something about herself, such as her astrological sign, her profession, or her choice of clothing or accessories, you can say something like, “Uh oh I shouldn’t even be talking to you right now.” When she predictably asks “Why not?” you reply with something sexual such as “Because girls like that are always horny and just want to have sex all the time.” Other than influencing her to immediately think about sex, this displays several attractive qualities about you such as social intuition, a break in rapport, sexual experience, and possibly having a history of dating women similar to her. During the attraction phase it is also very important to be touching her physically more and more, which is a process that the community refers to as “kino escalation”.

Once she is clearly displaying indicators of attraction, she should verbally agree to do something with you after the bar/club closes and you should have this planned out before you go out for the night. One easy offer is to “Continue the fun at your place” or suggest other after-hour activities such as hookah, wine, and/or a hot tub. A woman needs a REASON to leave with you so make sure you provide her with some kind of justification other than having sex with you. If she is definitely attracted to you and still hesitant to leave, you must do whatever is necessary to be with her after the venue closes. Many women make up “rules” such as “no going home with a guy the first night” so you have to bypass this. One way to do it is to say, “Hey I don’t have my car here so since we’re getting along so well it would be great if you could drop me off at my place.” If she agrees then simply tell her to park and assume she is coming inside. You might want to say something like, “I will give you a quick tour of the place however I have to wake up early so you can’t stay for long.” Again women make decisions based on their emotions so if complications ever come up in your game, remember to “change her mood, not her mind.” When most women say, “I can’t leave my friends” most guys would give up or take her number and go home alone, while a pick-up artist would say something like, “Don’t worry I’m sure your friends are having a great time. Just text them in a bit and let her know you’re safe. I’m sure they’ll do the same.”

As most seduction community members are aware, an “opener” is the first thing a man says to a woman to begin the conversation. Think of a relationship as driving a car. Before you turn the key, start the ignition, put it into gear, and start operating the steering wheel and pedals you have to open the car door. Whether you consider yourself a part of the seduction community or not, you have used an “opener” before. Similarly whether you think you are “gaming” or not, everyone is playing the game because relationships can’t function without compromise. When men want to improve their relationships, they join this dating skill “subculture”.

Even though our community is publicly coined as the “seduction community”, very few of us are actually “seducers” and those of us who are believe it is mutual and comes after forming a genuine relationship. Most men have been in healthy sexual relationships with women and seen that cute smile they sometimes give when she is “in the mood”. That is a form of seduction. Essentially seduction is simply a mutual process occurring during a healthy sexual relationship, however “driving the car” cannot occur until the “car door is opened.”

One of the main factors that sets us apart from men outside the community is we have the guts to start conversations with complete strangers. We never have to think about “what could have happened” because when we are interested in women, we “open” the conversation. Conversely, most men who depend on their natural abilities to attract women often “wait” to get introduced through social circles or otherwise. In movies when the man sweeps women off her feet and they fall madly in love, it is often because he initiated the conversation with her as a complete stranger. The reason life can’t be like the movies for most women is because most men don’t have the skills to “open”.

The best type of opener is undisputedly something clever a man comes up with on the spot relating to the current situation, hence the term “situational opener.” The key to using a situational opener is saying something clever or interesting rather than something boring that she’s heard 50 times before such as “What’s your name,” “Where are you from,” or “What is your career,” or some variation of these boring “interview” questions. You are better off making an interesting or funny statement rather than asking a question. For example, last week I saw a beautiful woman in the mall and opened with, “Hey I’m looking to buy something for my mom for Christmas and don’t know whether to get a nail care set or a body wash set.” It was simple, honest, and was relevant to the situation. I ended up sleeping with her he next time we got together exclusively.

An opener is very different than a “line,” which is a planned group of words that non-community guys use because they think it’s clever. As a member of the seduction community you are going to hear some of the top guru’s give examples of clever and interesting phrases that you will be tempted to repeat. If you do this IT WILL NOT WORK because it is not genuine and women will be able to tell. To get you started on being clever and interesting to women, develop an artistic skill, read up on pop media, or purchase a book on kokology.

Anyone who has read any community material has been promised by PUA’s that their model for attraction or closing is the BEST one. The truth is that their models are the best for THEM and possibly a large amount of newbies, however the TRUTH is that there is no perfect model for any of this. The truth is that each INDIVIDUAL has his own model. We aren’t all club promoters, magicians, or comedians so I am about to teach you how to come up with your own model completely based on your individual personality!

Today I was sitting in one of my mechanical engineering classes designing a cruise control system. Like most engineering applications, the way to design a system is by starting with the end result. For our purposes, that end result is CLOSING. The reason a cruise control system is complicated is because there are factors that are always CHANGING such as the speed the motor is putting out due to the change in drag from the wind. What a cruise control system does is continually account for these changes by using a system. Like the wind, in game no 2 situations are similar.

The best way to adapt a model for attraction or closing is to backwards-engineer it the same way you would with a cruise control system. Look at the END RESULT you want and look how you achieved it in the past. If you have never achieved it, ask people who have and model the similarities.

For example, let’s say you fclosed a few girls and want to do it more often. Obviously you can’t do exactly what you did the first time because the next time will be a different situation. What you CAN do is take a look at the actions you took the previous times and the way you acted to get the situation as similar as possible.

What most models of fclosing and attraction DO is give you sequential control of the actions that take place.

If you want to fclose a girl, the best way to do it is to start at the END and model it after previous closes. For example, let’s say one time you fclosed a girl. What did you do before that? You most likely got her into ISOLATION away from other people. Before that you might have taken her to your place. Somewhere in the interaction you probably kissed her. Before that you might have caused attraction by being confident, breaking rapport, or having social proof. Before that you began the conversation. FLIP that around and you have your model for closing!

Although this is just an example, I guarantee if you write down your end result and follow the steps you took BACKWARDS, you will notice similarities and generate your OWN model for your end result. Let’s say you mess up somewhere in your model. Imagine the end result and start backwards engineering how it could still happen! Now obviously microcalibrating all the time is impractical because you aren’t a robot, so simply come up with your PERSONALIZED model in this manner and try it out! The more end results you get, the better you will detect similarities and the better your model will become!

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This incredible eBook completely explains each part of essential cold approach game, including everything from deep inner game and confidence to the intricate details of sex and relationships. “Bang” includes so much quality material that is one of the few pieces of literature in the PUA community that I can confidently say is the ONLY piece of literature that can single-handedly turn an average frustrated chump to bonafide pick up artist. While most material in the community is based on theory and following dogmatic methods, the lessons taught in this book are clearly based on several years of actual experience in a very practical world.

The beginning of the book includes a brief prologue that explains several realities. Of these realities includes the crucial fact that it takes a considerable amount of time to get very good at meeting women and achieving the end result consistently. It also informs the reader that one will have to be willing to go out of his comfort zone to achieve results. While many students who enter the seduction community become knowledge junkies who are continuously filling their heads with information, this book accurately suggests that it is much more effective to go out and get the actual experience, and that experience includes both failing and succeeding.

Roosh provides a short anecdote of his history of dating, which likely parallels that of many new community students. One notable concept is that although the attractiveness of the male physical appearance is not necessary to generate attraction, taking care of oneself will generate confidence, which triggers attraction. One very interesting statistic included is that a statistical amount of men have the ability to open a conversation with a woman, generate attraction, and sleep with more women in a year than most men do in a lifetime. A complete understanding of this book will likely transform a man into the former. In addition to this valuable information, the book also includes essential information on evolution, psychology, and sociology that can take a student days to derive out of reading dozens of other books.

Roosh with the ladies

Early in the book, essential information is provided on the early stages of game, including the skills to confidently approach many women and essentially multiply one’s opportunities. The book analyzes the phenomenon of rejection and proves it to be a good thing in all stages of game. Realistically, those who have wild success with women have been rejected hundreds of times along their journeys because that it what it takes to reach their level of success. Once this is accepted, the journey becomes much easier.

Many skills, that are each explained on a deep level and precede effective examples, are entirely explained from opening a conversation to kissing, dating, sex and maintaining a relationship. The end of the book includes an enlightening reality on the game as a whole and explains that the results at the end of the journey come with the natural ability to be successful with women with minimal effort.

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Want to be the star at the club?

“If you start doing this every week I’ll pay you for it.”

“Doing what every week?”

“Bring bus loads of girls to our parties!” That is the conversation that a popular local night club promoter and socially savvy pick-up artist, Godfather, had with me when I was reaching the peak of my social circle game mountain. Get paid to be surrounded by beautiful women? Where do I sign up?

Four years ago, I moved to this college town with no friends and am now known and liked by the majority of the regulars at the hottest local night clubs.

No matter what your skill level is with women or the pick-up artist community, it is universally accepted that it is EASIER to begin a conversation with a woman through an introduction from a mutual friend rather than dealing with the anxiety of the initial approach and using “lines” to buy yourself enough time to continue the interaction. There are many ways to quickly become skilled in the art of the social circle game.

The first part is the easiest which only requires that you make FRIENDS with an attractive woman. “Birds of a feather flock together” so more often than not, attractive women will have attractive friends. The best way to establish this friendship is to first disqualify yourself as a potential mate and secondly show that you have value to offer her.

Frequently in the young adult community a great way to do this is to host parties and provide music and beverages. Having people at your party shows that you have healthy social relationships and that you are essentially “leading the pack” and are the source of their good time.

Once you begin building rapport with friends at parties, they will start to introduce you to their attractive friends and you can focus more on conveying the attractive qualities of your personality and playing “the game”.

Another great way to befriend attractive women is to initially display your attractive qualities, build comfort and rapport, and never escalate the situation sexually. Often times men will actually do this by mistake and end up in the “friend zone”.

For those familiar with cold-approach game, many of the same principles can be utilized and be most effective in a “diluted” way, such as dressing more conservative and being more “yourself”. Often times to convey attractive qualities about yourself that will win you the girl, you have to do/say things that are not considered socially acceptable, which is why it is important to get your target into isolation where you can exchange attraction without compromising your social statuses.

It is with these concepts that my talent was recognized by the best-of-the-best in the area and further improved to the point where I have been able to go out to the hottest night clubs every night of the week without paying a cover charge for almost a year now. It is with these concepts that one can truly achieve a lifestyle with an abundance of amazing women and multiply one’s opportunities of mating with the highest quality of women.

Pay attention to class students!

Two types of game exist in a college atmosphere – both of which I feel are important to master: cold approach game and social circle game. Most PUA’s are fluent in methods and strategies of cold approach game – which essentially focuses on closing a new girl as soon as possible. The quicker you close, the quicker she will backwards-rationalize sleeping with you and essentially put the future direction of the relationship in your hands, so it is important to close as soon as possible. Many naturals are skilled at social circle game and are able to close “friends-of-friends” by unconsciously running basic attraction spikes/switches. With most of the local night clubs in college towns heavily populated with social circles, it is important to learn the skills to effectively gain access to these “tribes” for pre-selection purposes.

Cold approaching in college can be divided into two categories – day game and night game. Day game is extremely effective due to the non-threatening environment and opportunity to quickly isolate without dealing with obstacles or interrupts. The best venues for day game in a college atmosphere are campus, shopping malls, and book stores. On campus, the best time to sarge is in the late afternoon when classes are almost over near dorms and basic class buildings. I typically run situational openers that allow me to say something funny and spike BT right away. After that a bounce or #close comes easy.

In shopping malls, the best places to sarge are retail clothing stores and the food court. I typically bounce girls from there to a restaurant bar then my place for hookah and if kino has been effectively escalated throughout the process, the same day close comes easily. The best venues for night game are the most exclusive and expensive clubs because they typically have the hottest girls, the lowest noise levels, and are the least crowded – which essentially provides optimal logistics.

Great social circle game skills will not only give you instant social proof in large social circles such as sororities, but also save you thousands of dollars in cover charges, allowing you to go out more often and reach a higher level of success in a shorter period of time. Working my way up the social ladder and becoming a club promoter saves me an average of $15/night, 7 days/week, which saves over $400/month and allows me to open around 140 sets/week (at night) opposed to the practically affordable 40 sets/week.

Once both styles of college game have been optimized and calibrated effectively, you will be closing more beautiful women than you ever imagined.

-Falcon (Leader of the Tallahassee, FL, USA Lair)